bubblebath Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 Does this mean anything? There is guy with whom I feel there is mutual attraction. It's just a gut feeling, you know. For reasons that would be too long to explain, he's off limits. However he flirst with me in a sweet, friendly kind of way, never crossing the line but pretty consistently. The other day, at a dinner party, I was talking with a friend of mine; we were both seated and this guy approached us and started chatting; he stood there, very, very close to me and put his hand on my shoulder affectionately. I put my hand on top of his and also held it for a while and then withdrew it because I did not want people to notice. He kept his hand on my shoulder for the whole time he was there with us (a few minutes). Do men do this kind of things without noticing or do you think this implies a sexual interest in the woman in question? Link to comment
OIO Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 Do you know this guy? The fact that he still kept his hand on your shoulder once you removed yours is a possible indication of a sexual interest IMO. Link to comment
Censored Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 Too long to explain why he's off limits?. Two words would suffice. He's Married? Your Married? Your student? His Student? Your Son? His Mother? It can't be that hard to explain in a nutshell!!! Anyway, you put your hand on his?!?!?!? I agree with OIO Link to comment
bubblebath Posted April 24, 2008 Author Share Posted April 24, 2008 OIO hi, Yes I have known him a long time. This is what is confusing me. It could be attraction or it could be just affection. Link to comment
bubblebath Posted April 24, 2008 Author Share Posted April 24, 2008 Censored, Two words: both married. and this still doesn't quite explain the situation. Fact is, i am looking for straight unbiaised, gut feeling, answers; the minute people read we are both married, preaching will start and the original question forgotten. Link to comment
OIO Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 If he hasn't done that before I'd probably say attraction, considering the length of time he kept his hand there and if he was giving you flirty looks or looking at you longer than usual. Link to comment
Incognito_Squito Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 Gut feeling - he is attracted to you. Unless he was drunk, or a rugby player, guys don't normally put arms around "just friends." Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 he feels comfortable around you. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 how is putting his hand on her shoulder being shy? Link to comment
Gratsy Posted April 24, 2008 Share Posted April 24, 2008 He's attracted on some level, but it doesn't mean anything, so just take it at face value. Link to comment
caligirl26 Posted April 25, 2008 Share Posted April 25, 2008 if a guy shakes your hand and then holds it for a lot longer than he needs too, is that a sign that he is intersted? Link to comment
Brightest Dark Posted April 25, 2008 Share Posted April 25, 2008 Gut feeling - he is attracted to you. Unless he was drunk, or a rugby player, guys don't normally put arms around "just friends." Might depend how friendly he is to the opposite sex and people overall. I know a super-friendly guy who is married who's held my hand a couple of times, for quite a lengthy time. Of course maybe he was attracted to me but I know he is a very tactile person. He is known for putting his hand on others when talking to them. Basically there's not really much you can do if they're married. Best to leave it be and not get your hopes up. Link to comment
livinginsbi Posted April 25, 2008 Share Posted April 25, 2008 I don't know.... my manager put his hand on my shoulder the other day at work as we talked about business, I didn't think anything of it.... now should I be creeped out? Link to comment
Gratsy Posted April 25, 2008 Share Posted April 25, 2008 Lol, the OP is a lot like me. Link to comment
Portage Posted April 25, 2008 Share Posted April 25, 2008 well i wouldn't touch any other member of the opposite sex in that fashion (excluding family members) if i didn't have some form of attraction. Although i'm not touchy-feely to begin with so, if i touched another in that fashion i'd be sending off signals intentionally. But this is just me. Link to comment
livinginsbi Posted April 25, 2008 Share Posted April 25, 2008 I tend to be touchy-feely, that's why I didn't think anything about my manager doing that.... He's an all right guy. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 25, 2008 Share Posted April 25, 2008 if a guy shakes your hand and then holds it for a lot longer than he needs too, is that a sign that he is intersted? omg, that guy is in love with you. who knows? try flirting and get more signs. how is the conversation? Link to comment
caligirl26 Posted April 25, 2008 Share Posted April 25, 2008 omg, that guy is in love with you. who knows? try flirting and get more signs. how is the conversation? haha. yeah conversation is good, there is lots of flirting and teasing and play fighting but he is dating someone so, it sucks! Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 25, 2008 Share Posted April 25, 2008 haha. yeah conversation is good, there is lots of flirting and teasing and play fighting but he is dating someone so, it sucks! put this guy out of your head immediately. stop being touchy-feely with him too. Link to comment
bubblebath Posted April 25, 2008 Author Share Posted April 25, 2008 So, basically, it seems that with touchy-feely or tactile (i like that word) people you can never be sure, right? I kinda agree. I am a touchy-feely kind of person too but only with my own sex. When I get all touchy-feely with a man it's because I'm interested in him as in wouldn't- mind-getting-into-bed-with-the-guy . At a certain point he was standing so close to me that if I had leaned my head a little it would have practically rested on his lower belly . I had to exert quite a lot of control not to lean against him Link to comment
scotty77 Posted April 25, 2008 Share Posted April 25, 2008 It's hard to say.I think women are less touchy-feely than men but that is just my opinion.I think you need more clues than a touich on the shoulder,it could mean he is intereted. Link to comment
knightNshiningarmor Posted April 25, 2008 Share Posted April 25, 2008 if a guy shakes your hand and then holds it for a lot longer than he needs too, is that a sign that he is intersted? lol i dont shake hands with my female encounters....that just seems odd...im a great hugger and i stick with that. Link to comment
knightNshiningarmor Posted April 25, 2008 Share Posted April 25, 2008 haha. yeah conversation is good, there is lots of flirting and teasing and play fighting but he is dating someone so, it sucks! thought you said both married Link to comment
ghost69 Posted April 28, 2008 Share Posted April 28, 2008 It's hard to say.I think women are less touchy-feely than men but that is just my opinion.I think you need more clues than a touich on the shoulder,it could mean he is intereted. women are more touchy feely than men. they can get away with it. guys really don't care. Link to comment
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