expressing interest in a girl i think has a boyfriend

[224004]

I'm a teenager who works in a cafe. There's a girl my age I work with that I have sort of befriended, and whom I find myself attracted to. We talk fairly often at work, and I think we have a lot of things in common. I would really like to ask her out on a date, or at least tell her how I feel. The only problem is that I think she has a boyfriend. She's never mentioned it directly to me, but I've heard her mention it to others before.

 

What, if anything, should I do?

[scotty77]

Pretend you have no idea she has a boyfriend and ask her out anyway.You will have expressed your interest in her and perhaps one day she won't have a boyfriend.

[Aschleigh]

Ask her out casually, like to a movie. See what she says. Even if she has a boyfriend, play it off like you're just friends going to a movie. See if you have fun with her outside of work.

[Aleadragonhawk]

I would ask her if she has a boyfriend before asking her out. Because otherwise, you ask her out and one of two things happens.

 

1. She says "No thanks, I have a boyfriend."

2. She says "Sure!" and you are left thinking "What about your boyfriend?"

[lady00]

Yeah, ask her if she has a bf. Also, consider that it could be awkward for you to work together if she turns you down or if you date and things don't work out.

[ghost69]

use the dumb questions like i always do. 'so do you hang out with your bf all the time?'

 

you will get your answer. nonchalant questions always work. when i'm out on the town i'll talk to women. usually say something like 'oh i probably shouldn't talk to you, you might have a jealous bf around here somewhere watching you.' or she pulls out her phone, 'you bf texting you?' gets my answer.

[224004]

Would it be extremely awkward to be around her in the future if I asked her if she has a boyfriend and she says yes? Or if I just ask her out?

[ghost69]

start up a general conversation. if you are feeling it, just ask her out. she will tell you if she has a bf.

[boo121]

just ask her, "hey are you single?" Don't try to indirectly get an answer, just ask.