She Loves Me & I Don't Like Her

[mysteryman]

I recently began hanging out with this girl that I will call "S". S and I went out on a Saturday night and hit it off well. Sunday was good too, and even hung out Tuesday. I really liked her and it all seemed well. Flash forward two weeks.. In that time, she has broken down on me crying that she is afraid I will find someone else. And other unusual things...

 

 

This girl is really gorgeous (cheerleader, pageant winner), and probably the prettiest girl I've ever dated. Her personality is really friendly, and she likes me. I should be in love with her, but I fail to find a spark.. She is actually really annoying on the phone or aim but cool in person.

 

I was a virgin when I met her... She has done things with me (including all the way), but I don't "release". She tells me I'm good at it (not to brag but was called the best of the 3). I'm starting to think that the lack of an attraction is causing it... Crazy, I'm aware..

 

 

I'm beginning to believe that another girl is the problem. A girl that broke my heart before I started talking to S. We were talking and she suddenly and rudely broke it off. I have to be around the other girl (including a prom), and I just feel it will be unusual.

 

I just want to end it all, or go back and stop it from starting.. It's just, I really don't want to hurt this girl's feelings. (I'm not a * * * * * or a "playa.") And she really does love me but I just don't feel the same. Maybe it's where I'm not use to relationships or something? I'll probably regret it, but I feel it would be a good idea for it to just stop.

 

Any advice?

Thanks, I sincerely appreciate it

Mysteryman

[annie24]

just because she is 'good on paper' doesn't mean that she is the right woman for you. love isn't a checklist. if you don't feel you are developing deeper feelings for her, then best to cut it off and move forward.

 

good luck.

[AwdreeHpburn]

Yeh - I agree. Like a band-aid, rip it of before it gets stuck and becomes really, really difficult and painful to remove......

 

You don't need a name for your reason. You have one one. Just cos you don't know what to call it doesn't mean there isn't one. Right?

[Azza13]

lol 17 year olds heart broken doubt it

[AwdreeHpburn]

^ wow.

 

Y?

 

17 year olds don't have hearts? Or are you saying they're not age appropriate for experiencing emotional pain?

[npc24]

azza, you shouldnt discount a 17 year olds ability to love.

its when we develop the deepest love for people.

that was a really ignorant comment to make when someone is looking for advice

[mysteryman]

I really appreciate the advice everyone. It appears that we are all one the same page. And trust me Azza, teenagers feel emotional pains. This girl has had to deal with a lot, and I really fear hurting her even more.

[Haven]

She loves you after only 2 weeks? Maybe I'm just a cynic.

 

Anyway, just realize that the longer you wait, the more you're going to hurt her feelings. If you sincerely care about her, you should break up with her ASAP. That way, she can get over you sooner and start looking for other guys. Right now you're just wasting her time with a relationship that is never going to go anywhere.