Caring for an Abortion?

[soul_soother]

So last year there was a female who was raped..A close friend

and it was a brutal one, unreported, no consequences, and very

hard for me to help her and was able to do so only by the help

and advice through books and ENA members (thank you) well

a new issue has come for this poor young friend.

 

I hadn't talked to her for a couple months when I received a

phone call late night at around 3 am with her crying her eyes out

talking to me explaining how she had an abortion and is having

a mixture of her rape nightmares with nightmares of aborting

her baby.. This baby was consensual with her current boyfriend

(a mistake baby but, not a rape offspring). I'm not sure much I

can do, this is a girl who refuses to get professional help because,

she gets nothing out of it. Both her parents and the father's parents

knew about the child and abortion so it's not something I can

share with the parents.. The girl is 17..

 

I've heard women who have abortions have nightmares quite

frequently after the abortion? Anyway any advice in any

subject would help a lot... Thank you

[Nurseman]

Wow. This is a tough one. The best thing I can recommend is a call to Planned Parenthood or to an abortion clinic and ask them if they can recommend something, a book perhaps, to give you some guidance.

 

Those are the two places, it seems to me, that might get called upon to deal with something like this.

 

One thing with "crisis counseling" is that you generally keep YOUR mouth shut and let the victim do the talking. Feel free to answer questions, but avoid going on and on about YOUR feelings, morals, ideas etc.

 

Good luck.

[Hope75]

I'm afraid what she is going through is something that needs to be handled in the scope of a professional practice.

 

Counseling can be very helpful and productive with the right counselor or therapist. She needs to shop around.

 

You are a good friend, but this is beyond what you can, and should be expected to handle.

[RelaxByWater84]

I would try to get her to go get professional counseling. I would also recommend reading up on psychological issues such as Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. I would also see someone yourself since you are a friend carrying around this burden in your heart for her. You have to help yourself before you can help someone else.

 

I would also recommend writing in journal or having a journel on your computer that is passworded. Just so you have an outlet yourself.