MissyMercer Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 Kay, I believe this is an appropriate forum for this... My boyfriend has been trying to get me to watch porn with him... Is it SO wrong that I don't like it? I only like guy-on-guy, that's my only exception... Everything else just doesn't do it for me, and I get kind of I dunno... Weirded out I guess we could say... I just don't like it... But he can watch it when I'm not around, why do I have to be there? Oh, one more thing... Uh, his balls are kind of too big to fit in my mouth... While giving oral he'll ask me to suck his balls though, and they're... yeah, really big. So... Uhm... I don't really know what to do... Link to comment
melrich Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 If you don't like it or feel uncomfortable with it....don't watch it. Couldn't be simpler than that really? Link to comment
JadedStar Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 Tell him you don't like it and since you dont mind him watching it he can do that on his own time. I wouldn't push him to watch guy/guy porn tho...most straight guys don't care for that. I don't even like it and i am a woman. It is a personal preference thing. If you dont want to, don't. Link to comment
simply complicated Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 Just take it slow..one ball at a time...lol..sorry, but like the above posters said, it's your chioice, and if it bothers you that much, then simply say no. Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 Judging by all of your previous posts, this guy is bad news. He keeps trying to push you to do things you're not comfortable with. Tell him no, end of story! If you don't want to do it then don't. The guy said he wanted to sleep with your friend for christs sake why do you even wanna be with him? Link to comment
MissyMercer Posted March 11, 2008 Author Share Posted March 11, 2008 Judging by all of your previous posts, this guy is bad news. He keeps trying to push you to do things you're not comfortable with. Tell him no, end of story! If you don't want to do it then don't. The guy said he wanted to sleep with your friend for christs sake why do you even wanna be with him? Call me naive... I really love him... Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 It's obvious he doesn't love you nor respect you. Why do you really want to be with someone like that? Link to comment
simply complicated Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 It's obvious he doesn't love you nor respect you. Why do you really want to be with someone like that? I would'nt go as far as to say that, guys do like gettin their balls licked, hey, it's a common thing, and men ask only out of love it's experimenting, he did ask, and i'm sure if she says no, he'll understand. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 I would'nt go as far as to say that, guys do like gettin their balls licked, hey, it's a common thing, and men ask only out of love it's experimenting, he did ask, and i'm sure if she says no, he'll understand. Umm, correction, some men will ask for this in love or not. A man who loves you won't keep pushing one escapade after another if he can tell it bothers you. If mythical is correct and he wanted to sleep with one of her friends then he sounds more in lust than in love... Link to comment
MissyMercer Posted March 11, 2008 Author Share Posted March 11, 2008 It's obvious he doesn't love you nor respect you. Why do you really want to be with someone like that? He does love me. I know he'd have left me otherwise. As for respect, I've been meaning to ask him, but when I'm around him everything seems perfect. It's not until I'm away that I realize these things make me uncomfortable... Not so much the oral thing... What he said about my friend did really upset me, but he didn't mean any harm by it... Link to comment
PRSOV Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 What he said about my friend did really upset me, but he didn't mean any harm by it... That's what the wife said after being bashed by her husband. Link to comment
Brittney2008 Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 The porn issue, simple, like others have said, you don't want to then don't. As for the ball sucking situation, you don't have to get the whole thing in your mouth you can lick or fondle them. My boyfriend likes when I lightly suck on the scrotum. So just play around and it'll be fine. Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 I would'nt go as far as to say that, guys do like gettin their balls licked, hey, it's a common thing, and men ask only out of love it's experimenting, he did ask, and i'm sure if she says no, he'll understand. Maybe if you would read her previous posts you would understand what I was saying.. The guy told her he wanted to screw her best friend for crying out loud! You don't tell someone you care about that kind of crap. Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 He does love me. I know he'd have left me otherwise. As for respect, I've been meaning to ask him, but when I'm around him everything seems perfect. It's not until I'm away that I realize these things make me uncomfortable... Not so much the oral thing... What he said about my friend did really upset me, but he didn't mean any harm by it... He doesn't love you! If a guy loves a girl, he doesn't tell her he wants to sleep with her friend or anyone else for that matter. He didn't mean anything by it? OH PLEASE! he wouldn't have said it if he didn't mean anything by it. Link to comment
KoopaLee Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 He told you he wanted to have sex with your best friend? Ah, Hello! Red flag, goin up here!! That's a big no, thank you very much! And he wants you to watch something you don't want to... That bit's easy... Just say no... I'm not getting into the ball thing... He seems like trouble... You might want to consider a new one... Sorry... Link to comment
PRSOV Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 I agree with mythical suicide... Link to comment
Jamiegirl Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 Honestly I also have to agree with mythical suicide. I wouldnt put it so strongly though, but she basically summed it up. You should reconsider. I used to think the same way. This is what will happen if you stay with him. You will eventually fall out of love with him because you get tired of the disrespect, then you will break up with him. It took me five years to figure this out with my ex. I have now found someone better. Who treats me well. There is ALWAYS someone else out there thats better. Don't settle for anything less then what you think your worth. Link to comment
Samedy Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 I only like guy-on-guy, that's my only exception... You can always suggest that you watch that kind of porn together. He should understand the discomfort watching porno causes you immediately after you make the suggestion. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted March 11, 2008 Share Posted March 11, 2008 Well, if my bf asked me to do something that I didn't really want to but wasn't completely against, I'd give it a try. Not make it a regular thing but every once in a while, do it just to make him happy. Sounds like he wants to watch it with you. There is a difference between that and just watching it by yourself, imo. Link to comment
MissyMercer Posted March 11, 2008 Author Share Posted March 11, 2008 He doesn't love you! If a guy loves a girl, he doesn't tell her he wants to sleep with her friend or anyone else for that matter. He didn't mean anything by it? OH PLEASE! he wouldn't have said it if he didn't mean anything by it. So your fiance has never said anything that upset you, ever? Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted March 12, 2008 Share Posted March 12, 2008 So your fiance has never said anything that upset you, ever? Never once has he said anything to disrespect me. You're making excuses for your bf's disrespectful actions and as long as you're doing that he is going to continue disrespecting you and bringing up things you are not comfortable with doing. I don't care what you won't to do in a relationship if you truly care about someone you're not going to tell them you want to screw their best friend. It just doesn't happen! Link to comment
JadedStar Posted March 12, 2008 Share Posted March 12, 2008 So your fiance has never said anything that upset you, ever? Saying something that upsets you does not necessarily mean the same thing as saying something that disrespects you. Link to comment
KG Posted March 12, 2008 Share Posted March 12, 2008 Missy, From a guys POV...he is disrespecting you. He tells you he wants a 3 some, he wants to scre* your best friend...he's looking for all the pu**y he can get, and right now he's getting yours, and wants your OK to get some more. This isn't love, it's using you. There were girls I thought were hot, but I would NEVER mention it to my wife. My respect for her was so much, I knew it would kill her to think I was looking. He is an emotionally retarded guy looking to get laid, and if if it means trampling your emotions, oh well. Ditch him now on your terms, before a girlfriend of yours calls and says "hey, er, something happened with him and I last night that I feel awful about". Link to comment
KG Posted March 12, 2008 Share Posted March 12, 2008 Oh, and as far as watching porn with him, I will bet you even odds what you'll be watching will be anal. Or a threesome. Then he pops the question. Want to bet? I don't mean to sound mean, but I've been around the block enough times to know who he is, what he wants, and how he thinks he's gonna get it. Be prepared, and be well, OK? KG Link to comment
MissyMercer Posted March 12, 2008 Author Share Posted March 12, 2008 Never once has he said anything to disrespect me. You're making excuses for your bf's disrespectful actions and as long as you're doing that he is going to continue disrespecting you and bringing up things you are not comfortable with doing. I don't care what you won't to do in a relationship if you truly care about someone you're not going to tell them you want to screw their best friend. It just doesn't happen! Okay, I get it... but I can't just ditch him... I know I really shouldn't, but I do love him... and I'd still have to see him every day at work, and with those feelings still inside, how could I look at him and not want to burst into tears? Link to comment
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