I feel socially paralyzed...

[Borashi]

I want to be social and trusting but it's hard for me at times to really step up and be assertive towards building a positive social life.

 

I like to retreat back into my shell and think about things as they once were rather than how they are now.

 

A lot of the time I know how to say what I want to but I just don't know how to express it.

 

Perfect Example: Tonight one of my best friends wanted me to go out to the clubs with him and party. His bday was last week. But I declined. Without any real reason on why I shouldn't go besides the fact that spending money on booze all weekend doesn't sound to appealing. Even though I know I'd have a good time.

 

Sometimes I just feel shackled by my own thoughts. How can I break free of this so I can socially express myself as I really am? :splat:

[bulletproof]

Maybe you just don't enjoy going to clubs or drinking. That's perfectly understandable. Would your friend consider doing something else? Or, maybe you need new friends who engage in activities you do enjoy.

[pinkelephant]

ugh, im the same. whenever people invite me out, i think of a reason not to go. just like tonight, im in my room, where i could just go out and drink and have fun with people. idk.

[Raiden]

It's tough.

 

How do you feel about social situations in general? You know, something as simple as waking down the street?