Konfetkette Posted January 30, 2008 Share Posted January 30, 2008 Is this creepy/odd/clingy? This guy I met on link removed... We haven't even met in person yet. I gave him my email really fast because I wasn't going to subscribe again. Well he sends me 2 emails for every one I send. I only send one He sent 4, including a birthday e-card... Should I give this guy the benefit of the doubt? Or is this too much like I think it is? I am known for letting the littlest things get in the way and that is why I have been single for ages. Link to comment
Stambler Posted January 30, 2008 Share Posted January 30, 2008 Sounds a bit needy to me. I've done that before. Not a good sign. Link to comment
Konfetkette Posted January 30, 2008 Author Share Posted January 30, 2008 Yea that's what I thought oO Link to comment
DN Posted January 30, 2008 Share Posted January 30, 2008 Maybe he's just chatty. Seems a little early to say that he's clingy. Maybe he is asking an advice forum if you are too distant and he should move on because you aren't interested. Link to comment
Konfetkette Posted January 30, 2008 Author Share Posted January 30, 2008 Maybe he should Link to comment
Aleadragonhawk Posted January 30, 2008 Share Posted January 30, 2008 Hmm. For me it'd depend on exactly what the emails were. For example, I can be fairly absent minded. I'll send an email to someone, then five minutes later I'll remember something or realize something that I need to get in contact with them about, and I'll shoot off another email while rolling my eyes at myself, heh. For example, right now my advisor has around three emails from the same day from me. One of them is a thank you for a website he sent me, another is a request to be forwarded a story someone in the workshop didn't email me, and another is an "oh crap, I just deleted something important, oh, I sent him a copy, hey, do you still have that?" Link to comment
DN Posted January 30, 2008 Share Posted January 30, 2008 If you aren't comfortable with him then move on - it seems you aren't much interested anyway. But if you are having trouble forming relationships then a rush to judgment like this may partly explain why. Link to comment
Konfetkette Posted January 30, 2008 Author Share Posted January 30, 2008 Oh I know that's why I have trouble forming relationships That's why I'm asking Link to comment
Entomon Posted January 30, 2008 Share Posted January 30, 2008 Are they two emails of the same or two totally different emails? I think when people initially start to get to know someone, they tend to be a bit chatty and friendly to show their interest. But I understand that being too needy and clingy can be a turn off for some people. I am guilty myself of being needy and clingy as I too would be turned off by someone who is needy and clingy. Link to comment
YeahOkWhateverIguess Posted January 30, 2008 Share Posted January 30, 2008 trust your instincts... but give the dude a chance. its way too soon to decide. Eagerness is good..too eager is annoying. Just play it out. Keep it light and breezy. Link to comment
BrokenTinMan Posted January 30, 2008 Share Posted January 30, 2008 I'll never understand the dating game. I've been in a relationship too long >. Personally, I would appreciate that kind of attention. Either he is telling you, I'M INTERESTED in bright, flashing lights. Or is just trying to get the ball rolling and letting you both get to know each other more. If this guy was really, really attractive, both in looks and substance, would you probably be more open to receiving more emails from him? Link to comment
richmonder80 Posted January 30, 2008 Share Posted January 30, 2008 sounds like trouble Link to comment
Konfetkette Posted January 31, 2008 Author Share Posted January 31, 2008 I'll never understand the dating game. I've been in a relationship too long >. Personally, I would appreciate that kind of attention. Either he is telling you, I'M INTERESTED in bright, flashing lights. Or is just trying to get the ball rolling and letting you both get to know each other more. If this guy was really, really attractive, both in looks and substance, would you probably be more open to receiving more emails from him? Yeah probably Link to comment
blender Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 Yep, trust you instincts as stated above post... your gut is tugging at you, so listen to it loud and clear... so keep it lite and polite don't give out too much more personal info to him and see if his "pattern" continues and if you still clasify it as "somewhat creepy?' then let go, move on and trust your instincts... so many times we ignore those feelings and it's a mistake, so give it some more time, but listen to your gut... Link to comment
Konfetkette Posted January 31, 2008 Author Share Posted January 31, 2008 Here is a new one: How does sending copies of all messages to my email AND to match email? Link to comment
Aleadragonhawk Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 Here is a new one: How does sending copies of all messages to my email AND to match email? Creepy. Very creepy. Run! Link to comment
BrokenTinMan Posted January 31, 2008 Share Posted January 31, 2008 Yeah, that sounds a little too excessive now. I think he is either really clueless or too desperate to find a date. Poor guy :splat: Link to comment
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