matius Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 So this girl I know at work is very much the life of the party, not at all conceited. I've felt that I've been dropped a few hints when speaking to her here and there and we certainly get along well, but she's very much everybody is included, so if I'm being asked to meet up, so are other people... it's very confusing and I feel like I am misconstruing her actions. If she wasn't such a people person I would say 100% this girl was into me. One example I guess is that she suggested we hang out you know just to me, kind of like i was being asked out (not sure how to describe it exactly) ... and since then we've been hanging out, but with others -- not too much... ...now if we didn't work together I'd ask her straight up ... find out and move on, but since we do I think it calls for a little more couth. Yes, rejection sucks but now I have to go into this place and work... and everyone is tight. Keep in mind I'm only temporary; will not be working there eventually so I do have a parachute if it didn't work out So I guess do you know anyone so completely extroverted? And how do they generally let a guy know yea you're the one dummy? Link to comment
livinginsbi Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 Hey Did you meet my daughter?? Sounds just like her. I'll see her tomorrow and ask her how she lets (or did let, since she is taken now) the guy know that she is interested. I'll report back tomorrow - but you should get some other replies by then too! Link to comment
matius Posted January 25, 2008 Author Share Posted January 25, 2008 Hey Did you meet my daughter?? Sounds just like her. I'll see her tomorrow and ask her how she lets (or did let, since she is taken now) Well if she's taken I sure hope I haven't met your daughter ...but that sounds good to me thanks! Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 i wouldn't read into this behavior. i know plenty of girls that are like that. life of the party, hang out with guys (even when they have a bf). girls like this are confusing. i don't pay them any attention. Link to comment
Lana0120 Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 If you're only a temp, just ask her out on a date. Link to comment
Altruist Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 I think you have higher chances of success if you realize that you don't have to accept all her invitations. Since you are only temporary there is no problem with dating her. Take the lead and ask her out instead of waiting her to ask you out with the group all the time. Link to comment
matius Posted January 25, 2008 Author Share Posted January 25, 2008 ghost69... I hear that, really I do. But I dig her (even though she may not me), I do. So I feel like I at the very least I owe it to myself to know rather than wonder later... I can live with a little disappointment. Lana0120... yeaah, just sort of waiting for a sign which is probably fairly lame to most that read this. sailor... yea but I'm a pretty great dude (joking). I think I've been playing things right. Altruist... I've only accepted when I wanted to do something, just a few times. She's accepted my invitation as well and made herself fully available and even told me how great a time was had. But I do feel fake hanging out, and I hate not being true. I'm there for other reasons and so it can't really move on in this fashion. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 well that's too bad. some girls you dig and it's just not best to do anything. trust me. it's best to let it go. or do it. only you can make the move. Link to comment
matius Posted January 25, 2008 Author Share Posted January 25, 2008 good advice, true and simple. i think what adds in my case is I have very few outlets to meet new women (and time!). Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 25, 2008 Share Posted January 25, 2008 no time. okay. there has to be women where you are walking, shopping, going to school, etc. Link to comment
livinginsbi Posted January 26, 2008 Share Posted January 26, 2008 Sorry the post is so late - we had a bit of a crisis today - Anyway, my daughter's response will probably not be very helpful. She said "If I'm interested I would approach him and tell him I want to go out with him" She didn't get that boldness from dear ole mom!! Well at least I tried! Link to comment
matius Posted January 26, 2008 Author Share Posted January 26, 2008 no time. okay. there has to be women where you are walking, shopping, going to school, etc. Well I'm out of school, but if you knew my town the girls seem real uninterested when shopping or walking and I'm not exactly the smooth bomb talker. But I digress, I catch your point... Anyway, my daughter's response will probably not be very helpful. She said "If I'm interested I would approach him and tell him I want to go out with him" No worries, that's great that your daughter is bold like that. Save us guys a lot of time wondering. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 well make a move on a girl shopping. who cares. don't let opportunity walk passed you. Link to comment
matius Posted February 16, 2008 Author Share Posted February 16, 2008 Well anyways I made my move and everything turned out just right. Things shifted dramatically the group thing to just us and so I thought it was time. So nice to take a chance sometimes esp. when you really want something. Never know how things turn but we can only take it one day at a time right Link to comment
Phaser Posted February 17, 2008 Share Posted February 17, 2008 Care to divulge some more information? Link to comment
matius Posted February 26, 2008 Author Share Posted February 26, 2008 sure, how do you mean? Link to comment
Phaser Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 Oh I just meant about what happened when you made you move as in what you said etc. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted February 26, 2008 Share Posted February 26, 2008 what did you do? what was her response? Link to comment
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