alexia denise Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 One of my friend (female) s is preparing to loose her virginity to some dude she met a Dundas and Bloor.. she known him for a week know she is 18 years old she wants to know if it will hurt?........ since i have know clue being inexperienced what should i tell her Link to comment
Killasasparilla Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 ...Most likely. Link to comment
Jayar Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 Hurt physically? It will depend on many things, like whether she uses tampons or personal sex toys, how relaxed she is at the time, and how considerate he is as her partner.... Hurt emotionally? Almost a guaranteed yes, considering the details you posted. Link to comment
LonelyMoondancer Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 Tell her to wait more than a week! I'm inexperienced and eighteen as well but that does not sound good. Make sure she really wants to do it, make sure she's well informed, protected, and make sure they both get checked out. From what I hear it will probably hurt. Link to comment
alexia denise Posted November 20, 2007 Author Share Posted November 20, 2007 i have tried discouraging her but she stuck in her ways.......... i told her but she says she think she ready .......... she has told me she has being trying to finger herself ewwwwwwww but it hurts like crazy i think she need professional help Link to comment
alexia denise Posted November 20, 2007 Author Share Posted November 20, 2007 i think she talking physical pain Link to comment
love4life Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 When I lost mine, it didn't hurt one bit, contrary to what I'd heard. But I was also with someone who turned me on a LOT and who I trusted. I think that can make a difference. If she barely knows this guy, she'll probably be a nervous and tense, which could make penetration more difficult and painful. Physical and emotional comfort really are the most important things in considering this. Link to comment
Jayar Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 i think she talking physical pain That is the more trivial between the two, and the one with the least lasting effect. Too bad... Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 That is the more trivial between the two, and the one with the least lasting effect. Too bad... Yep, I agree. This is a recipe for an emotional disaster. Having sex with some random guy in order to lose her virginity...she is going to feel like trash afterwards...not to mention the fact that if this guy is willing to oblige, who knows what she can catch from him. She doesn''t sound too smart so you might want to remind her about the STDs issue. You also might want to recommend that she buy some condoms in case Mr. Stud doesn't come prepared. At 18 years old she should be focusing on her real future, not on getting her first sexual encounter over with. Link to comment
pinkelephant Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 tell her it hurts like crazy and that she'll bleed to death. lol or something. Link to comment
Gracelove Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 Not if he goes hella slow, LOL!!! Thinking back on how I lost my virginity, makes me laugh soooo hard!!! It must have taken forever! When it would start to hurt, I'd tell him to stop. He'd stop, and we'd just be laying there for a while, and then I told him he could go a little further. And then when it hurt, I'd tell him to stop, LOL! Eventually he got all the way through, LOL! It makes me think of an inch worm, a little tiny but at a time. But it worked. Whew!!! That was a lonnnnnnng process! But he was really patient with me. So it wasn't really painful. It took a little getting used to, there was stinging, but it wasn't at all a REALLY painful experience. Hopefully your man will be gentle and patient with you the first time. P.S. I lost my virginity at age 20. I never masturbated in my entire life. There is some blood, but not much. Link to comment
AngelEyez Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 Dundas and Bloor? Better than Jane and Finch...Jokes. I have no experience...but it'll probably hurt. Try to talk her out of it. Link to comment
saltandvinegar Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 Tell her you did some research on the net and that in some cases some women can't walk for a week afterwards........(that is after bleeding to death) also tell her that she won't be able to sit down either; so in effect, she will have to lay on her stomach for a fortnight afterwards. Link to comment
bih2003 Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 ummm.... Yea it hurts like hell.... i bled a little , like drops each time i had sex with him like after the third time it didn't bleed anymore..... but I REGRET loosing my virginity because I did not plan on spending my life with this guy and I wanted to experience not realizing what i was doing that my virginity was all i kept safe 21 yrs. here comes this ugly skinny guy who is a jerk and turned out to be one and i loose it... It hurts a lottttttt and more EMOTIONALLY NOW bc i made a mistake. I didn't know him good. He left after he got what he wanted. TELL HER DO NOOOOOOT DO IT! Link to comment
saltandvinegar Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 I don't think that virginity is something that should be "gotten rid of". I'm glad i waited til a bit later than 18. God knows how i would have handled it at that age.... Actually when I did lose my virginity , I pretty much bled for 3 days. I remember him phoning one day and I'm going: "I'm still bleeeding!!!!!!!!" Link to comment
blueeyes410 Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 I thought it might hurt physically too but the outer part is more sensitive than the inner part. (I hope that makes sense) Tell her to make sure he has a condom on! Link to comment
Superfreak Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 Tell her to buy condoms and a bottle of lube. Tell her to use lots and lots of lube. Also tell her to tell the guy that it's her first time and to take things slowly. Link to comment
blueeyes410 Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 Tell her you did some research on the net and that in some cases some women can't walk for a week afterwards........(that is after bleeding to death) also tell her that she won't be able to sit down either; so in effect, she will have to lay on her stomach for a fortnight afterwards. WOW, really? I could walk just fine afterwards and didn't bleed at all. I didn't think it hurt at all, the guy I lost my virginity to told me 'If you can take three of my fingers, you can take me'..LOLOL! SO thats how we did it. LOLOL! Link to comment
saltandvinegar Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 'If you can take three of my fingers, you can take me'..LOLOL!! that is sooo romantic!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to comment
saltandvinegar Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 WOW, really? I could walk just fine afterwards and didn't bleed at all.. LOLOL! Did you know that the word "GULLIBLE" is the only word not listed in the english dictionary???? Link to comment
alexia denise Posted November 20, 2007 Author Share Posted November 20, 2007 Dundas and Bloor? Better than Jane and Finch...Jokes. I have no experience...but it'll probably hurt. Try to talk her out of it. well that true jane finch is a terrible are..but she is rich half black half white girl who is very foolish i have been trying to tell her not to but .. i guess she think std is kool..... i think she is hopless i guess that how kids who were home skooled behave Link to comment
blueeyes410 Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 Did you know that the word "GULLIBLE" is the only word not listed in the english dictionary???? And your telling me this because.... Link to comment
alexia denise Posted November 20, 2007 Author Share Posted November 20, 2007 i guess the individual is trying to say ur gullible from what i have read Link to comment
ftheunion Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 She is a clown if she loses it to someone known for two weeks?!! My opinion only. Why should you be worried. Maybe you wish to learn when your time comes. I dunno. Just don't get wrapped up in all the drama stuff. Take care. Link to comment
Captain34 Posted November 20, 2007 Share Posted November 20, 2007 foreplay makes the world go round... Link to comment
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