iamconfused5302 Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 Hello, Thanks for stopping by. My gf broke up with me Thursday Morning. Of course, Im upset. Not looking for any sympathy. I have not eaten since 3 days cause I do not feel hungry at all. She said if i cared I would not contact her or she would contact me. Your prob. wondering what happened. Well, we have been having arguments or fights about petty little things. Example, She mentioned about a girl that we both dislike. I said, I do not want to talk about or something will escalade. End of discussion. She totally freaked out on me, saying how dare you say end of discussion that is so manipulative. No one dares to say that to me. Im like, what is wrong with her. I mean, I think we can work things out better but she doesnt wish to talk to me. Which I am very hurt about. Any suggestions. Thanks. Link to comment
JoeWho Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 Well sorry you are going through this. It is hard but you just have to do what is best for you now. Try to eat some food, ice cream was pretty easy for me to get down when I went through a rough break up, plus its loaded with calories so that way you wont lose too much weight. As for your ex, give her some space, dont contact her as it will only push her further away. Link to comment
iamconfused5302 Posted June 15, 2007 Author Share Posted June 15, 2007 Thanks for the suggestion. I doing the no contact, but for how long? I know she is the type of person that needs space to think of things. Shes like that when we fight. My intention is to get back together with her. Link to comment
SLBG Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 Thanks for the suggestion. I doing the no contact, but for how long? I know she is the type of person that needs space to think of things. Shes like that when we fight. My intention is to get back together with her. Make it your intention to heal n grow. Give her space.... Find urself.... My ex split with me n all i could think about was gettin bk with her, recently she met someone else.... I still care alot for her.. but care more about myself... its my turn 2 b selfish .... You will no when the time is right to contact her.. good luck Link to comment
iamconfused5302 Posted June 15, 2007 Author Share Posted June 15, 2007 Thanks so much for the reply. I just have to have self control. ill just keep busy and keep my mind off of her. Perhaps, she will call me if she doesnt then she never cares. Link to comment
miew Posted June 15, 2007 Share Posted June 15, 2007 Just try to take care of yourself for few more days...don't talk to her right now, I remember the first week I went to talk to my ex and I felt worse and worse by his cold attitude...believe me, she's not in the mood to talk to you right now. sigh...It's been two months since I broke up with my ex, now I am on NC for almost 2 weeks... I know how you felt (I lost like 15 pounds durtng this time and lost all my appetite!) Deep in my heart I still wish there is a miracle, but I know it's not likely to get him back... You'll get better and better, just try to focus on something else for now. Good luck! Link to comment
iamconfused5302 Posted June 17, 2007 Author Share Posted June 17, 2007 I apologize of what happened and hope things will get better. My friends and I were suppose to hang out on Friday. Again, My ex and I have mutual friends. When I go to meet them, guess who I see. My Ex. One of my friends that are very close to her planned to have this. I was mature about everything and didn't blow anything out of proportion. Anyways, I left early at the lounge cause seeing her knowing that she is not with me, hurt me. I got a bit too drunk and passed out at my friends house. My ex texted me a hour after we left and said, " i hope you didn't drive home, if you did drive safely." Obviously, I didnt respond, cause i was passed out. She called me 2 hrs later and I didnt answer, she texted me. Said, "Sorry i just wanted to talk to you for a min. and said wanted to know if i got home safely." I was awake and was few min. away from her house. she kinda of invited me to talk to her. So i go over, and she said she missed me. Now, mind you. she didnt want me to contact her or she wanted to contact me. She said, " her pride got in the way and thats why she didn't contact me." At this moment, she is thinking of getting back together with me. But her parents dont want me to be with her. I said,"its what you want not your parents, your the only one that can control your life." I ended the conversation with," I dont want to be friends with you, i just want the relationship." Any suggestions? Link to comment
thelonelydoll Posted June 17, 2007 Share Posted June 17, 2007 Well, you made your position quite clear - do NC properly now. The ball is in her court. Link to comment
iamconfused5302 Posted June 17, 2007 Author Share Posted June 17, 2007 Now , If she contacts me. What shall i do? dont contact her? Link to comment
thelonelydoll Posted June 17, 2007 Share Posted June 17, 2007 Do not initiate contact or reply to her contacts until you feel sufficiently healed and emotionally prepared to hear absolutely anything from her, or until she communicates that yes, she also wants the relationship (not friendship) like you do. Link to comment
iamconfused5302 Posted June 18, 2007 Author Share Posted June 18, 2007 She asked to hang out with me yesterday but I couldnt cause i already made plans. She didnt respond to me after that. That really annoys me or shall i be annoyed? Link to comment
thelonelydoll Posted June 18, 2007 Share Posted June 18, 2007 You have to think about why you are annoyed. Be honest with yourself: were you really hoping she would be disappointed and hurt because you already had plans? Link to comment
iamconfused5302 Posted June 18, 2007 Author Share Posted June 18, 2007 i think she would be hurt to make plans. Link to comment
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