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Hi there... sory to hear about what has happened As a guy I have learnt something very important. Sometimes you need time to yourself to work yourself out first... and be true to yourself, otherwise you can't be tru to others... He may be a nice guy, but still have to sort things out. As for what to do next?... Well, I could imagine how much pain you have right now. May I suggest to try not to focus on it too much... spend time with friends doing stuff that will get your mind off him... If he calls, don't rush and respond back... but at the same time let him know how you truly feel. You sound sweet... It may sound silly, but there are many guys out there, whom I sure will treat you well... perhaps even this guy after he sorts his own things out. All the best.

Sometimes bad things happen. I was with my girlfriend for 10 months... And in teh end I cheated on her, by kissing another woman - that's all... BUT I feel so terrible. Why did I do it? I loved my girlfdiend... I knew she had been hurt in the past, and wanted to be the guy who swept her off the feet... We had THE BEST time together... But I stuffed it up. Just because someone cheats doesn't mean they don't love them... people make mistakes... especially when they are low... and especially when they don't want to talk about them with their partner, besause they think it may make things worse. The best advise I can give now, after making the mistake is be open and honest. Don't give any reason for suspicion in your partners mind and remember what you have got.

Hi ladies, I'd really appreciate your thoughts on this... Well, I'll try to keep this short and concise... I must say that this is really hard for me to write but here goes... I had been going out with a woman in a Long distane relationship for approx 10 months. Things were going along GREAT... She was constantly on my mind, and I know she was always thinking about me. I loved to hear her voice, and loved her smile. I couldn't wait to see her every weekend. (Total 3 hour driver there and back) We used to send each other SMS's, e-mails, and I sent her the occasional flowers to her work as a surprise. She was over the moon. As time went on, things got harder. I hated having to leave her, and visa versa. Work was getting me down and we constanlty missed each other. It had to be done, we HAD to get closer to each other. Rather than Her (20), leaving the country, I (24) put up my hand to leave the city and apply for a job down there.... Problems started to occour. no-one else was 'on-my-side' and said follow my heart.. thus putting doubts in my head. Another propblem was that I was still friends with my ex (which she couldn't understand, and was the basis of any argument really when we were going out). I must say that my ex and I are purely plutonic. BUT she basically gave me an altermatimum, lose the ex or lose her. It was hard, not because my ex was 'more' than her, but I was thinking my ex is no problem... it's all in her mind... if I give up on my ex, I give up on all my friends she doesn't like! I seeked advise from another woman... some-one who didn't know my ex, yet some-one I could speak quite easily about stuff. She had a few issues that I tried helping her out with too, and she tried helping me. We started to speak a lot on the phone... actually more than my girlfriend... but it was to try to fix things betweeen my girlfriend and myself up. Ended up meeting each other, and to cut a long story short after chatting for quite some time, we both kissed. Yes I know - CHEATER, you're thinking... Well, yes, but nothing else happened (I never wanted ANYTHING to happen mind you) and we left it at that. (I dared not tell my girlfriend, cause I knew she wouldn't like to hear that - yet I knew there was nothing and thought nothing of it) Next time I was in her district, we caught up again... once again, we talked - (thinking nothing would happen) the same thing happened... just a peck on the cheek and lips... nothing else. The third time I met up with her to talk, I basically wanted to say to her face to face that I was sorry that happened previously, but I loved my girlfriend too much and WHAT HAPPENED WAS WRONG ... She knew I had a girlfriend all along - and how much I loved her. She was upset, and I was upset for hurting her, but I did love my girlfriend. Finally I thought - now I can focus on getting back to who truly counts... MY GIRLFRIEND Problem was that my girlfriend sensed something was going wrong, and saw a message/phone calls on my phone... alarm bells rang and she went off. She had been hurt by guys in the past and I thought I would have been the last person to do this, but I did... I had become one of them, in a way. Though I NEVER WANTED THAT TO HAPPEN - I KNOW THIS NOW... and I love my girlfriend (well ex now) I truly do. I understand she is hurt, but I want to show her how much I really care... I racked my brain... how can I show her hom much I care? I made up a phote frame with a cute lil picture of us, and passed it to her... Sent her a single rose... Then It dawned on my... I put an advert in her local paper, and just told the truth about how special she really was. (about a week ago) She was surprised and happy, but still isn't talking to me. How can I show her how much I care? How can I show her i will NEVER do this to her again? I just want to see her smile, and I want to be the one who makes her smile. PLEASE HELP! [/b]