IGaveItMyAll

My Wife and I started our relationship off in a whirlwind of turmoil and crazy passionate love. We were both very young. After dating 3 months we found out she was pregnent. I stepped up to the plate. We both loved each other dearly. We both weren't perfect. She was very needed and came from a family of neglect. I felt I was going to miss out in life and continued playing music in a band. We fought for years over this. When things were good they were great. When things were bad... They were horrible. So I came to find out about a month ago my wife was having an affair for 3 months. I confronted her. She said she didn't love me and I pushed her away all those years. I acknowledge my mistakes many years ago and have truly changed she just was never able to let go. So she moved out and continued to see the guy she cheated on me with. I did no Contact for about 3 weeks. I started re-building my life cause there wasn't anything to work on. I got a call yesterday from her. She asked to come over. I told her ok. We have 2 kids and she sounded like a wreck. She came over and told me she really did love me it just took me not being there to realize it. She told me she broke everything off with the other guy. So that is where I am at right now..... We talked and we are both going to go to personal counseling. We aren't jumping into anything. I want to give it a month to see if this guy is really out of the picture. But we will really have to start off from square one. DATING.... which is something we never got to do. I am actually kind of looking forward to that. But LOOK i am not expecting a fairytale ending. I am treading this lightly. I have a huge sheild around my heart but I am optimistic. I know we both truly love each other. So here is to the future whatever it holds.

Good luck. I just did the same thing. Pack up things that remind of of him. I feels really good. Don't look or dwell over the items. Put them in a box. Get confident. You deserve better. Start building your life back and get into your own routine. It helps a bit. You will still miss him and think about him but the sooner you start living the better you will be

No conact end of day 1. I keep looking at my phone to see if she called or texted me. Nothing.... Kind of feel a bit down. I wish she would reach out to me so I knew she still cared. I am NOT going to contact her though. I did start having feeling of disbelief "how could she cheat on me?" she used to be the greatest wife and mother. She checked out like 6 months ago and totally changed. I am going to focus on all the bad times in the past 6 months. That should help me not contact her

I will take your advice on that one!!!! Congratulations!!!!

well I was on Day 2 of No Contact. I was feeling a bit more confident. I started thinking about her less. I didn't think about her cheating on me as much it was feeling great!!! Then today I recieved 8 phone calls from her in a row with no voice mail. We have 2 kids so I thought it was an emergancy. I picked up the phone to her saying she is concerned about the kids but it ended up she was bringing me into her family drama regarding our split. I got out of that quickly as it wasn't about our kids. I tried to get off the phone but before I could go she started to express how strange it was that I am friends with one of hr girlfriends and I should watch her intensions. I think that was to root of the phone call. I feel bad for this friend for the past 2 weeks she has listened to me vent about all the horrible stuff my ex did to me and had to listen to my ex justify cheating on me to her. She is totally stuck in the middle. I told my ex its my life I can be friends with whoever I choose. So I accept this challenge!!! Today starts day 1. I have kids so I can't have completely no contact but very limited.