matt11btog

The best advice I can give you bud is to break it off as soon as possible. I tried to maintain a relationship with my ex when I left for the service and it only worked for so long. Air Force Academy is going to be the toughest challenge you've ever faced and shes going to be nothing but dead weight on you. Besides there are so many hot girls there dude that your going to be glad your single. Shes also going to be meeting alot of guys in FSU I've been there. Your young and you need to do new things. I wished I would have made that decision before I left for the service. It wont be easy but doing the right thing rarely is. You two really need to talk about it. Odds are it wont work out. But there sometimes is a certain few who can pull it off. Good luck.

Me and my ex girlfriend of five years broke up about 5 weeks ago. We had a wonderful relationship but separated due to the fact that she wanted to go her separate way and concentrate on school and possible careers. At least thats what she told me. I've been going through what most have been on here and its been really hard. Well today one of her best friends calls me a little concerned about my ex. She first warns me that the stuff shes going to tell me isnt going to be easy for me to hear and that if I dont want to talk about it she'll understand. So I tell her I'll listen till I cant take anymore. So she starts telling me how much my ex has changed and that her and her roomates cant stand her anymore and dont understand why shes being the way she is. The hard part was when she told me that my ex has slepped with 4 other guys since we've been broken up for FIVE weeks. And that my ex has been flirting with all of there boyfriends and its upsetting them. None of them like her anymore and dont understand why shes changed so much since she broke it off with me. Hearing all of this made me realise something. When I first dated her my friends that went to school with her warned me that she is very flirty and permiscuous. I thought I could change her and obviously I did. She hung out with a different crowd of people and tamed up quite a bit when we dated. Now after five years her friends dont like her anymore and dont understand why shes going back to the way she use to be before she met me. The thing I'm wondering is. When they told me all of this it shocked me and hurt me to know that so quickly shes hooking up with other people like that, and upsetting her friends. But at the same time it feels kind of like a release. I guess I see the real reason that she broke up with me now, and the fact that she obviously never changed. Even though hearing all of that hurt, it made me feel really good. Kind of like good riddance if that was what I was with. Should I keep feeding on what I'm hearing and use it to help me realize I'm missing someone that I shouldnt. I'm kind of afraid this is all going to sink in make a negative impact on my healing process. But right now it feels ok. I like the idea that her friends liked her better when she was with me but I also feel bad that shes losing her friends and doesnt even know it. I havent talked to her in 5 weeks and I've been taking big steps to get over her. But now a part of me is thinking shes going to realize that I was a decent guy that brought out the best in her that people like and want me back. I dread the thought of that now that I'm trying to get over her. But that my not happen. I dont know tell me what you guys think. Thanks for reading this.

I know how you feel. Its kind of like out of sight out of mind. Your trying to find the most gentle approach to talking to him so that he doesnt just forget about you. He wont forget about you though. The absense of an important person in your life helps you realize what they mean to you. Theres no guarantee but he may want to be friends and need to talk to you sooner or later. Sometimes people go running back to what they left. But dont count on any of that at all. I say try real hard to let him be for a bit longer and see what happens. I know its hard to imagine but after a while you may not care if you talk to him or not. Take advantage of this freedom to focus on yourself. Thats what I'm trying to do right now.

Dear members, Me and my ex had been together for five years and been through quite a bit together. We had a perfect relationship that broke the laws of physics it seemed like. We were together through high school and then we both ended up in DC by pure luck. I was in the Army and she was in school. When I was done with the service I came back home to Ohio and she had one more year of school left. Going back to DC for school was an option for me but I wasnt quite sure for money reasons. We decided we should both break up to learn a little more about ourselves, pursue our goals, and meet new people. Being 22 now we had been together since we were 15. This decision was very hard for the two of us. We were both doing pretty good with the break though believing we would eventually get back together. We kept in touch on occasion for about a couple of months till she came home for christmas. I invited her over to my place and we made the mistake of sleeping together. This basically took us back to where we were with our feelings and made us very confused. We talked a couple of days later and she told me she doesnt know if we should talk anymore for a while. I convinced her that we should keep talking, and then I tried to convince her that maybe we should try to get back together, and I would come to DC next term. She said she doesnt think she wants that, but she cant predict the future and that there may be a possibility later after we had a little bit of time. I was pretty broken up by this. So I sent her an e-mail saying that hoping we get back together is killing me, and I would rather us consider just not getting back together. She replied agreeing with me and thats when I lost it. I replied back and said we shouldnt communicate at all for a while. She replied and said she doesnt like it but she'll respect it. That night she called me crying saying that she cant imagine being out of my life, and shes not sure if she wants this. I told her we shouldnt rush back in, and that she take a few days to think about this and make sure this is what she wants. A couple of days later she decided that maybe we should move on with our lives. So again I told her we shouldnt talk then. That sucked!! But I left her alone and started the healing process. My birthday came two weeks later and she didnt call. I was really hurt by that. The next day I decided I definitely want her back and I'll gladly go to DC. I instant messaged her and started talking to her. I asked her if we could speak on the phone and she told me she couldnt do it that it hurts her to much to hear my voice. So then I proceeded to tell her I think we should work this out and that I'll come to DC. She told me that we shouldnt do that and that we should go our separate ways. I became desperate at this point and threw every line I could, and finally gave up. This is so hard. She has me blocked from her AIM and she also took the liberty of signing on to my account to block herself from me. I have'nt talked to her in a few days but for some odd reason she keeps logging on to my account. The only reason I can see her doing that is to check my away message to see what I'm up to. But to me that means shes still not sure and that doesnt help me or her. So knowing that she would'nt answer I called her and left a message telling her that she needs to stop logging onto my account that its not helping the two of us. She calls me back and denys logging on but I know its her. I told her I believed her though so she didnt get off angry and I told her I'd talked to her some time later and she said ok. I want to talk to her so bad and I cant understand how after five years she can so easily not talk to me. Every day I'm hoping shes going to realize how perfect we were together and eventually ask for me back. But I know it would take time for that if it does happen. Every day I do feel a bit better but not quick enough. Its nice to read your guys postings and see that we're all pretty much going through the same thing. I know her and I doing the right thing but I'm also afraid that were doing the wrong thing and we'll both regret it. I know she doesnt believe were completely over. But I dont know if I should try again sometime later. Hopefully by that time I wont want to try. I miss her alot. The funny thing is by writing this it helped me realize maybe this is the best thing. I just dont want it to be permanent. If anyone has any advice or anything nice to say I could use it. Thanks for reading this book. Matt