chicamaja

Hi, I posted a few days ago. I lost my virginity about 3 weeks ago, have had nothing but protected sex, and no broken condoms to speak of, and yet I still have not started my period. I'm not sure how late I am, because my period has been irregular since I moved here in August (well, it was a bit irregular before, too, but more so now.) I'm thinking I'm anywhere from 3-7 days late. My boobs are so sore and feel so much firmer. I haven't felt nauseous, but I am bloated. About a week ago, I saw blood on my underwear. It looked normal, except that I didn't have anything than one spot about the size of a nickel. I've been tired, but I'm pretty sure this is due extreme lack of sleep. I've been moody, also. I'm so scared. Do I take a pregnancy test now or wait? I'm Catholic and was always against premarital sex. I feel like such a whore, and I feel that it figures I would be pregnant even though I had protected sex. I'm against abortion. It's almost not an option. But if I'm pregnant, my life is destroyed. I'm supposed to study abroad next year, and already my family has put down money on this trip. The other problem is that my boyfriend is not an American and is going back to Japan in August. If I am pregnant and don't have an abortion, he has said that he will marry me. I don't want him to marry me just because he feels he should, but if I am pregnant, decide to keep the baby, and he doesn't marry me, he'll never be able to see her. I just can't be pregnant. I'm so scared. I have no one to talk to. He doesn't really know what to do either. We're both really confused. Please, help me. -chica maja

Hello - I was a virgin up until about a 2 or 3 weeks ago and now have had sex less than 10 times. Each time we have used condoms, and are pretty sure that they didn't break. But... is it possible I am still pregnant? My periods have been irregular for about 6 months now (always either too early or too late... but late its mostly been too early). Right now it is 2 days late. Am I worrying about something I should not? Is it too soon to take a pregnancy test? Should I wait and see? -chica-maja

Hey everyone. My boyfriend and I have only been going out for 3 months. I broke up with my boyfriend of about 2 years just a month before I began this new relationship (though the relationship between me and my 2 year boyfriend had been ending for a while.) I love my new boyfriend so much, and it's one of the best relationships I've ever had. However, I went home for winter break, and my old boyfriend came over and we began kissing. It didn't go far at all -- I have never cheated on someone before and don't plan on it ever again. I did begin to cry because I miss him, despite how happy I am with my current boyfriend. I know I did it just because it was something familiar and something that was comfortable to me. I was planning on not telling my current boyfriend because I thought it would only cause problems, and since that incident, I've been fine. Worry and guilt free. The problem is that last night we were discussing a little fight we had, and I commented that at the time of the fight, I thought he was going to break up with me. He told me he wouldn't have done that over something so small. I asked what would make him break up with me -- he answered that he would break up with me if I ever lied to him. Am I lying to him now? Should I tell him what happened between me and my ex-boyfriend, even if it costs us our relationship? Please, help.