SSJlee28

Day 7... Everyday gets a bit better. Even if it's a tiiinnyyyy bit. Trying not to step backwards. Just making as many plans with other people as I can, to keep my mind off. Trying to meet new girls. As of yesterday morning, ex still had one photo of my face on her instagram, and bunch of photos of things I did for her. Facebook still had few more photos us together. Me checking up on her stops today. I'm done. As much as I want to get back together with her, I'm scared to even text her. I need to get over this if I ever want a chance of getting back together again.

Im writing on this thread for a second round in my life haha. First round was two years ago, ex has now moved on and in with new bf. All good though. This time around, I am mega confused. Been 7 days since then, she wanted time to figure herself out, and said couldn't make me happy. That I couldn't say anything to make it better. I left the convo and since then I have not contacted her at all. Interestingly... photos of me are still on her facebook, and instagram. Past few fights when we were verge of breaking up, we both deleted all of our photos.... For some reason, while she's active on both sites, my photos are still there. I had to get closure so i removed both accounts, and I gave in from time to time to check on her.... My photos still there. What in the world. Does she want me to reach out to her? Even if she did, my heart isn't ready... I need time to heal first...

Stupid heat of the moment comments lol. That's something I need to fix for my next relationships. it sucks because both my ex and ex's best friend told me she truly wanted to be alone. Only to realize she is with someone else right now. But you're right, she went from an angel when we broke up, telling me she will always love me, she will always cherish what we had, if we're meant to be we'll be together or a part of me will always want to be with you and she will always be attractive to me.... to a careless *****, telling me she never wants me ever again, she never wants a future with me.. then she moves on with another guy... It's true though. Rebound relationships fly by so fast. They progress so fast. Just like what Njoy said, they will do everything at a hyperspeed.

Damn.. so many hearts broken. it's been day what... Day 5 now? Day 5 since she told me she never wants me in her life, she never wants anything to do with me in the future.. She's moved on, and she blocked my number and facebook. Then she went to get drunk and be with her new guy. Few days later, she posts up pictures and changes profile pictures. 7 years relationship, and she moved on within a week. A truly caring, and selfless girl, turned into a selfish careless person. She's seen this type of things happen before, to my best friend. Same exact thing, and we helped him get through it. She knew how hard my best friend took his loss. Now, she's doing the same thing. What the eff. yeah this new guy is taller than me, but I'm much better looking, and he looks so damn shady. he works at a bank, and I'm a medical student. Common!!@!@ Edit: You know, when i was going through this harsh break up.. I told my best friends that, you know, it would be easier for me to move on if she found another guy. i said that because I thought she loved me and couldn't let me go. I loved her and i couldn't let her go. But now.. even knowing that she has another guy, i am still in love with her, and it hurts even more. I regret saying that.

wowwwww again! this is such a classic example of a rebound. I know I should not be saying this, but I hope karma bites her in the butt!!

WOWWWWWWWW It's over. She's already found another guy. That is, the guy that she met during our break up and down period. The guy she refused to stop talking to when I was chasing her for 2 weeks. Even her best friend and best's boyfriend don't know what she is doing. They even argued afterwards about it. The best friend is telling me that they are only friends, but how is that when there are near kissy pictures, and pictures of them looking like a couple? No more. I will not take this any more. This girl does not deserve my heart, my hurt feelings, or my attention. This girl has gone down the drain, and I will no longer want her. Rebound or not, I won't want this girl any time in the future. I feel so betrayed that I spent last month moping around for this girl, who I thought I wanted to marry. I hope she gets her karma.

You're a good guy man. You guys are both very young. I've been down that path. When you said "If we're both willing to make things work, they will work." That is definitely true. I will tell you why. My gf and I dated 1 year in high school, with both of us konwing I will be going away for college. To a college 3000 miles away, 4 hour plane ride, 2 hour differences. But we loved each other so deeply by then that we were willing to work thorugh it. We worked through it, throughout entire four years of university. That's how strong our love was. Which is why I am having a hard time now, and still think that, we can still get together in the future. For now, shes damaged me to the point where I cannot get up by myself atm. I need to heal first, and decide for myself if this girl is really worth pursuing.. after all these damages. If she wants to make it work, and you want to make it work, it will work. She's confused, and naturally yes. I picked up my girlfriend when she had no interests from any other guys. I was a stud, she was just a bookworm. But trust me, she blossomed now, there's many guys out there for her. The point is, she needs to realize it for herself, that she loves you and she wants to put on the work. Then this can work for sure. She also needs to realize, nothing good comes without a risk. We took a risk by doing a LDR. If love is true, and two are willing to fight for one another, they can break any barriers. But she needs to realize it first, so give it time I guess. I'm also NC with my gf until end of the summer probably. I will be going on a trip soon for a month, which would ease my mind. I can only hope that both of us can find ourselves individually. My girlfriend told me she does not want me at all, nor in the future. I know she said that because it's for the best of us, so we can get over each other. The hope I was clinging on to, wasn't doing me any good. I know what you mean though... I still can't get over the fact that I love her now. I hope that I can find a better girl in the future that fits me better, or find me in her warmth again.

Damn.. These stories, everyone's broken hearts.. My ex told me that she loves me, but not in that way. She doesn't think we'll ever be together again. Told me we will never be together. Ever. Exact words. Have a good life, good luck with your future. 7 years of relationship down the drain. True and first love lost. My first everything lost. My break up brought 4 of my friends together with me, but I feel so empty inside. Longing for something I cannot have. I am forced to NC, she blocked my fb, number. No way to contact her except email. Not that I have anything to say to her now. I've told her that I loved her, and I always thought she was the one. But if love can't fix everything. We were everything to each other... My first over night ever with her. FIrst camping trip, first snowboarding trip, first out of country trip.... My high school prom date. Her high school prom date. I loved her deeply. Saw each other 3-4 times a week, every week. It's all over. But a stupid stupid part of me still feels that our magic feelings between each other can re-spark again, in the future. That once we clear our past mistakes and failures, maybe like Halloween or something, we can cross paths and re spark everything. But I need to move on. I feel like I need to find a new companion before she does, so that I won't get hurt. For that to happen, I must move on.......

She's blocked me on fb, and will be blocking my number. She said, she realized she gave me hope where there was one. Future together was a possibility not a reality, there is no hope for us. Don't want to marry you, or want to be with you. I will never forget you but I will never want to be with you again. Please have a great life, take care of yourself because you need to care for yourself and not for me. I would love to believe that we would cross paths again. That we would be together with a neutral mind. Time fixes everything. She was the one who said we were meant to be, and soul mates, and she loved me. She put everything into us. I lost that. I feel so alone, like nothing. Has anyone seen anything like this happen and still come back together?

Day 4 - NC Broken, but heart completely broken. I lost everything today. I was supposed to give her a pottery statue that we made each other during one of our dates after our break up. We broke up again after the dates. I texted her and told her I will drop it off on the front door, and have fun in Hawaii as she was leaving for a week. She responded that: We are done. Full closure. I thought I could be with you again in the future, but there is no hope. We can never be together again in the future. You were everything to me once, and now you are nothing to me. I am done. Move on. GOod luck with your life. This, is what I got after a 7 year relationship. A relationship I thought was full of love. Seriously heart broken. I always thought we would end up together, even after the break up. We were soulmates, meant to be lovers, during our relationship, or at least that's what we told ourselves. I loved her so deeply and I know she DID too. Now I've lost her forever.

Sorry for bumping old thread. I just wanted to ask few questions about this. TIME and patience will get rid of the pain and hurt yes. But what brings them together? What's the magic that brings them together? Love? Good Memories?

Day 2 .. It still hurts alot. It doesn't help that she still has couple of photos of me on her facebook. She has hidden most of it though, I can still see it because I'm tagged on there. About 600~ photos. Yes 600, we were together for 7 years... I don't know if she realizes that few of our photos are still there. I can't deactivate my facebook for another 2 weeks. Which then I will deactivate and vanish for a month, as I will be traveling out of the country and to another city with friends. At this point I don't even want to go, but I know it'll be good for me... We left each other in a good way. Both told each other that there is always a possibility of us getting back together. As much as I was so happy to hear that, she also said don't cling on to the hope for me, because I don't know what the future holds. She's absolutely right, but 7 years... 7 years of deep love don't just dissappear, not in few months, years.. It hurts that there was a guy that she found interests in, and although he's in a city 3 hours away, it still sucks. It makes me so insecure. If anyone wants to help me out, please do :