eternally_eden

Heres the deal.... There's this guy that I dated the first 2 years of HS. I just recently graduated. Anyhow I ended up really hurting this guy twice, and yet he still says he loves me. I feel like I've known him forever, and I can't stop thinking about him. When I do think about him my heart gets fluttery and I can't wait to talk to him. Ive known him for four years now. At the end of the 10th grade I met a new guy and cheated on him. Then I moved away after breaking up with him. I dated the new guy I met, long-distance, for 6 months. Then we broke up. The summer after 11th grade my old boyfriend and i made out at his house. Then a whole year passed before we saw eachother again this summer. I went to his house and he tried to kiss me, but I dodged at the last second. We talk on the internet frequently, and we both have admitted to loving eachother. He says he wants me to be his first, etc. But recently reality hit us. We live 15 hours apart and we're both attending college in our own states, he in Illinois, I in Texas. SO....we agreed to not get serious because we're still only 18. We said we want to see other people. But the truth is....I can't stop thinking about him. We get along, we have common interests and values, he's actually only 6 hours older then me. I mean we were made for eachother. I just can't tell what he's feeling. Tell me this, do you think this is love or not? and what do you think this guy is thinking from what I've said? almost forgot. I left out the part where even though I cheated on him I realized after the fact that I made a huge mistake. The last thing I'd ever want to do again is to hurt this guy. He's the sweetest, most awesome, caring guy ever. All advice is much appreciated.

Ok heres the situation: I have this guy that I've dated before and we're still really good friends, but because I live like 15 hours away we broke up. But we still see eachother a few times a year and talk like every single night on ICQ. So when I go to see him again I know he wants be to give him a bj. He's been hinting about it for like a year now. I like him a lot, and am physically attracted to him, and want to become more sexual sooooo bad. But.... I've never done or received oral. The most I've ever done is serious making out, on top of the clothes dry humping kinda stuff, and on the clothes touchy feely. I mean I've seen all the movies and how it goes in them, and I've watched Sex in the City and all the stuff on tv. I know a lot, but I'm really nervous about it and wondered if anyone has any advice about bj's or having oral for the first time? Much thanx if anyone can give me a clue.

This is a very delicate situation. Now you said that your bf gives his life to you and has done so for the last 5 1/2 years. He also has all the qualities a girl could want. And let me guess, you love him, but it feels too secure, too normal, no excitement. Then you have this new guy, he's caring, sweet, funny, says things that make you tingle, and that make your heart jump. He's new, he's different. You feel so strong about him, and it excites you because you don't know where things are going to go. This sounds all to familiar, let me think why? Oh ya! Because it happened to me two years ago. Heres my story....... I met this guy that wasn't the hottest guy, or the most popular or anything like that. He was average, but he was sweet and caring, he had all the qualities you could want in a guy. He always paid for everything, I couldn't even insist on paying because he would refuse. He opened doors for me, bought me really thoughtful gifts, called me often, planned really nice dates. He was great! We dated for a long time. And then I went to a friend of mines graduation party. She was like 2 years older then me. And at the party she had this friend named Levi. He was taller then me which was great, because I'm really tall. And he was 4 years older then me. So I thought he would never like me, but he did. We talked for hours that night, he ignored everyone else. We talked about spiritual things, music, God, movies, goals, dreams. After that things moved quickly. But the problem with this was that I was still dating my bf at the time. So anyhow I was so into this older, handsome, more exciting guy. He told me he never felt this way about anyone. I blew my bf off for Levi and he and I dated for 7 months. What happened? Well I moved after the first month. Everything went ok, I visited him, we talked like every night on the phone. But then near valentines day I found out that he wanted to split up. So we did, but then I found out it was because he found someone new. I started talking to my old bf again. I told him what happened. He was mad, he was really, really mad and hurt still about me dumping him. But he said that he would have never cheated on me, and that he would have been patient with a long distance relationship. He and I aren't dating anymore, we're friends, best friends, and we get along fine. I still care for him a lot, and wish that we were together. But there was a lot of time lost, and a lot of hearts broken. Who knows maybe he and I will get back together, but only time will tell. I don't know if my experience will help you. It sounded similar, and so I hope it will. All I am saying is, make sure that you truly, truly care about this new guy and what your feeling isn't just lust. If you do go with the new one, think about the history, and love that you'll be tossing aside in order to get the new guy. Are you sure that its worth losing your current boyfriend? Set your priorities straight. Make sure that this new guy is worth it. Hope I helped.