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my wife is very happy with the decision I made. I'm also very happy with the decision I made. I'm just nervous. As you can see... This job at this certain company means a lot to me. I hope I get it. I will certainly update this forum with my relocation to LA. My move date will be September 1, 2006

thank you for all your support. I'll remember what everybody posted. I turned in my resignation papers. I will be leaving for LA in 2 weeks

Very nerve wracking. I'm going from $43k/yr to $0.... if this job doesn't pan out. It's a big decision in my life. I'm pretty scared still and haven't turned in my resignation yet. I'm going to do it after lunch though.

I will definitely be living cheap. Last thing I want to do is live large when we need to save money. NJRon, thanks.. I'll definitely have to watch the pride issue.

Thanks for the compliment Scout. I love my wife very much. I had a woman that treated me very good before, and she wanted to marry me. I was never ready. I told myself that if I ever found someone that treated me as good or better.. I would marry her. And that is why I married my wife. Sometimes, it's hard to make these decisions. I find that outsiders can look inside and give better advice. That's why I value forums like this.

That is true. I want to thank all of the members that posted. I am going to turn in my resignation before lunch. I'm very glad that I found this forum. Thank you VERY VERY much everybody.

You make a lot of sense. See that is my frustration. IT is a fickle field. The market is saturated with technicians. My position in San Francisco, is VERY stable. I wouldn't lose this job or get laid off unless I did something really wrong. It's a city position. I worry that I will use her money up looking for a job. In the end I think I will just have to eat my pride and do this. Does anybody else think that I should wait longer?

Yes, I had the intention of moving down when I married her.

My wife and I started going out while she lived in LA and myself in SF. Yes, she makes more than enough to support the both of us. Like I said, she makes more than double what I make. She is an Engineer and I am in IT. I just feel bad for using her money.

The problem is that it's her safety net. My wife makes double what I make, and she says it's not a problem to use it. I don't have that much saved, and I feel bad to use her money. I would only have a months buffer, if I turn in my resignation today. I am not afraid to jump into it 100%. I think she thinks I'm starting to have second thoughts on moving though. She made a comment to me yesterday night on the phone... "It seems like you don't want to move down". I told her that I do, it's just the money and the uncertainty of a job.

Yes, she used to live in San Francisco. Then she moved down to LA and we still kept in touch. I've known my wife for 8 years and counting. Yes, I do feel a responsibility to be financially secure. I don't want to end up arguing over money. I am in the IT field. If this job/interview works out I should have a 20% increase in pay. If it doesn't I have to keep searching. We do have a safety net. I personally don't want to use it, as we are planning on purchasing a home in the upcoming years. I'm still very un-sure what to do. I have the letter of resignation in my drawer right now. If I turn it in.. it has to be in the next couple of hours I'm worried, and confused.. I really don't know what to do.

Hi there. I haven't posted in a while but I need advice I recently got married to my wife. She lives in LA and I live in SF. I am planning to move down there but I have hesitations. I haven't secured a job down there, but my wife wants me to move down there anyway. I do have a job that is lined up but won't know till the first week of September. She wants me to move down now and have a leap of faith. Recently, things have gotten harder between us since we live so far away. We spend a lot of time on the phone. I am supposed to turn in my resignation today, but I am nervous about it. I feel like I should wait to secure the job first, before my resignation. But then again, Veterans day is the perfect weekend for me to move down to LA. Should I just eat my pride and make the move? I love her very much, but I am worried about money. We do have money saved up, but I still worry. What would you do? Thanks in advance.

That's what I feel that's happen already. I gave her what she wanted or maybe what she didn't want. No matter what she's gone again and I rolled back 4.5 months of misery to start all over again. She's been on my mind all day long and I can't understand why I can't shake her off my mind. I've never taken this long to get over some one in my life. I usually only go through it for a month. I can't believe I'm on month 5 and it's getting worse. I know that I can only blame myself. I called her, I asked her to go out, I let it happen. I should've kept to myself like I was doing and never called. I feel so stupid and ignorant. I just don't get how I didn't see this coming. What's funny is that half of me regrets the night, and half of me is happy that I got to be with her. Talk about sad.

Ok, I posted here before so I'll summerize what happened to me when she broke up with me. We went out/lived together for 2 years. She broke up with me a week before my birthday because of an argument. She moved out of my place and I also gave her our car. I was heartbroken and didn't want to have my birthday party. She came to the bday party but was very distant from me. A week later she agrees to have lunch with me at work. We decide to take things slow and get back together. We go out to dinner and movies and I ask her to sleep over and after that she's gone for good. 2 weeks later I found out she's hooked up with somebody. I know of him but don't know him. Everybody knows everybody in this city. Anyways, things start to add up and I realize I have to get over her because she's not coming back. I work hard at picking myself off the floor. While at the same time I'm hurt and I often go home to think and cry while listening to slow songs. Well it's been 4.5 months now. I finally started caring about the way I look again and I've created a new me. I recently bought a brand new Mercedes, I shop a lot because I didn't like the way I was looking or how her influence in clothes made me look. I go out clubbing almost every weekend and even got some phone numbers. Been hooked up with a blind date but that turned out to be a date from hell. I still talk to her but I don't want to go out with her. Just wanna be friends. Well while out clubbing last weekend someone hits my car in the bumper and takes off. I was so upset.. I ended up calling my ex just to talk.. NOTHING else. Well that's where things started turning out funny. We talked on the phone for 3 hours and she had to go to work. I asked if she wanted to go out afterwards. She said ok. We stay up talking in bed like we used to till 5 am. No hanky panky.. but the things she said really hurt me. Basically she's bored with this new guy. She said she thinks about me and misses me. She says that he tells her I love you but when she says it back to him she feels nothing. When she thinks about saying I love you to me she has butterflies in her tummy. I told her that I've been waiting to hear this for 4.5 months. Honestly, I told her to that these feelings are normal because you jumped to a different man so fast. I actually found myself on her new man's side... I couldn't believe what I was saying. Just 2 months ago, I was trying to find out his address to pay him a happy good morning. Anyway, the night ended and I was stupid enough to buy her flowers the next day. Yellow roses and I wrote her a letter saying how much I miss her and still want to be with her. She hasn't replied or told me how she feels about it. It's very typical of her and I expect that from her. I guess what I'm asking is what should I do now? Do I just sit and wait for her and her new man to not work? Should I even take her back if that happens? Can I ever forgive her if we ever get back together? What if she calls me and say that things are over between her & him? Should I just tell her too late & too little.. It's been a week and I found myself relapsed and going home and crying. I'm starting to not care how I look again and it doesn't look like I'm going clubbing this weekend cause I'm hurt again. Help pls!