Steve Austins Bionic Fing

I must say that when I began on this site, I thought I was dealing with intelligent people! You are so wrong, on so many levels that I am beginning to get angry. So, to hopefully explain things better, I will have one last attempt at describing what happened. Picture the scene; guy and girl are talking tenderly on the phone. Girl has had hard day at work, so guy is trying to relax her. He talks softly, and succeeds, as girl says she feels great, just hearing him talk. Then they say goodnight, as girl is ready to go to sleep. She presses button on phone to end call, and he hangs up, as he has slightly less modern phone. After about thirtyy seconds, he looks at phone again, and realises he has not replaced receiver properly. Just as he places the receiver back in its correct position, he thinks he hears girlfriend's voice, saying "hello?" on the phone. So what does he do? Does he ring back, and risk waking girlfriend up, in the event that his imagination was allowing him to hear things. Or does he run the risk of girlfriend, having said 'hello' only for phone to be put down, recalls last number, finds it is boyfriend's number, who she has not known for that long, and could potentially get quite nervous of this guy now. Do you understand what I am saying now? Can you understand my frustrations and anxieties? And secondly, I have never said I'm her serious boyfriend. We're both working professionals; she's a surgeon, for heaven'ssake. She is anything but thick, so the chances of us being in a 'serious' relationship at this point, is unlikely. I'm just anxious not to freak her out, or have reason to be afraid of me. I have very low self esteem; I was abused as a child by a step mother who would go silent on me, for no apparent reason, and never tell me if I'd done anything wrong. I care a great deal for this young lady, and I don't want to do anything to threaten our relationship.

Syrix, thanks, but I think you're missing the point I'm trying to make. 1. I'm worried because her nickname is very much associated with her job, and she knows that whenever she says 'I'm a surgeon' it causes a huge grin to appear on my face, as, putting it bluntly, I am a red-blooded male, and like millions of other guys, find her choice of profession extremely sexy. So, to be able to call her by a nickname I have chosen, and she likes it, is a great honour. But at the same time, I don't want her thinking that I only think of her in a 'sexy' way. Thre is no question that she is drop dead gorgeous, and fantastic at her very demanding job. But thee is more to her than simply a......... she's a person too, and I don't want her thinking I don't recognise that. As far as the phone thing is concerned, put yourself in her shoes; you've just had an hour long, tender, sensitive conversation with your boyfriend, who has helped you to relax after the hard day you've just had, you're on the verge of falling asleep, you put the phone down, just drifting off, then....................brrrrrrinnng!!!!! the phone rings again, you answer it, say hello, only for the other person to hang up on you. Then when you press number recall, you find it's your boyfriend's number. Would you be a bit worried? I certainly would, and I hate the feeling that we haven't spoken since then, so I have no idea of how she feels, or whether I should call? I can't be sure that it was her on the phone as I put it down; it may have been the neighbours who live downstairs, but since I have very little confidence, and she is the first person in a long time to see me for me, I don't want to scare her, worry her, or lose her, for that matter.

Thanks, but you've You're misunderstood what I mean. We had mentioned our relationships with our parents in previous conversations, and she said that she was close to her dad, but equally close to the father of her last boyfriend. Maybe she was joking when she said the guy was gay, or perhaps I misheard and it was her ex who turned out to be gay. Secondly, I have never put the phone down on her, and we talk almost every night before going to bed. The thing that I am worried about is that, after our last conversation, because I've got a very cheap phone, with a cord, rather than a wireless, I didn't hang up properly, and here in the UK, if a call is still active, the phone of the person who has hung up, will start ringing again. I swear that she answered the phone, just as I replaced the receiver properly, killing the call. But as I said before, I don't want her thinking that I am the kind of guy who makes silent phone calls, and then hangs up. That's not nice, and certainly not something I would do.

Hi, I was wndering if maybe somebody (even better if they're female) could give me some feedback on a current dilemma I am currently facing. Two weeks ago, completely by surprise, I met a young lady who, being honest, is everything I have ever wished for. She is both beautiful, incredibly intelligent, and speaks her mind, which is something I've always admired. For the first week, we would talk for at least three hours each night over the 'phone, discussing our life stories, experiences, likes/dislikes, and I'm pretty sure there is nothing we don't know about each other. We've both been in relationships where we've got hurt before, and it seems that neither of us were particularly well supported whilst growing up. It's almost like we were destined to meet, and I really don't want to lose this girl. I am quite an introveed person, when it comes to sharing my feelings, but I do feel, even at this early stage, that I could happily spend the rest of my life with this wonderful person. However, things have gone awfully quiet since the weekend, when we couldn't meet up, and as it turned out, she spent the evening in the company of her ex-boyfriend's father (who is gay, apparently, so I'm not too worried!) and they have always been close. Furthermore, upon receiving a phonecall from her on Monday, my new friend asked me what name I thought of, what I thought of her; either her Christian name, or her nickname I have for her, which has stuck. I became quite tongue-tied at this point, but replied honestly, as I always think of her nickname, as it's the one special 'link' that she and I have, as nobody else knows her by this name. I don't know if this was what she wanted me to say, and maybe a few of you ladies could give me your opinion? The main reason I'm so worried is that I haven't heard from her since. I know she is very busy this week (she works in a teaching hospital) and said she would call on either Wednesday or Thursday, and I'm scared I've upset her, and won't hear from her again. I don't want to become a nuisance, so is not calling her/texting her, for a few days, and giving her some time and space, a good idea? I'm also worried that, after we last spoke, I didn't hang the phone up correctly, and I think that she may have one of those phones which, if the other person hasn't hung up, will make hers start ringing. and as bad luck would have it, I noticed my mistake, and hung up, just as I heard "Hello?"-or at least I think I did-coming down the line. The last thing I want is to freak her out, and ultimately lose her. Meeting her was the best thing to happen to me in a long time, and I genuinely am very scared. Please help!