alyssake

Hi everyone. My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago..He doubted us, he doubted me he doubted himself..Anyway I went to his place because I needed to know. If I hadn't gone to his place I probably would still be in the relationship feeling insecure..He didn't say we're through but kept guessing asking questions, doubting. On my way back home I asked for a hug, and he had tears in his eyes. Well I didn't at first, didn't want him to see how much it hurted me that he didn't give us a try. We were only together for about 3 months. After the break up he talked to me online, normal, we laughed. It felt really great and I started to believe we could be friends. After all we never had a fight and weren't angry at each other. Now he ignores me online. I see him often at a bar we both go to. Last week he started talking, I asked why he started smoking again. All of the sudden he started saying things that were just not true. He said; are you drinking to get over us, then I'm sure I made the right decission! ( I really wasn't doing that at all, I was trying to have a good time, and what does that have to do with his decisssion to break up with me??) He told me I didn't know what I was doing to him, that he knows I still talk to his friends online and so on (to those same friend he said he didn't mind at all).....Awfull things, lies in fact. I didn't know how to react, I wanted to talk like grownups do, but he refused, said we would talk later, that he didn't wanna fight with me. I just ignored him after that conversation. But it hurts, I just wanna act normal, like the first week..somehow he can't do that and I don't understand why He has contacted my best friend this week online, but she says he doesn't have much to say, so it's probably to hurt me...Don't know what to do anymore..I just wanna have a normal contact with him

Hi everyone.....MY bf and I broke up about a month ago, his decision. At first he talked to me like he has always done...It felt good to think we good still be friends...But now he ignores me online..Yesterday he started talking at the pub. At first pretty friendly. But one thing led to another and we started discussing....close to fighting. He just blames me while he's the one who broke up. He said he could say a lot about me to my best friend...because he knows me oh so well ( right we dated for drie months!) I was a little drunk last week at a party, he asked me if that was my way of dealing with the break up. But it really wasn't , I don't cry every night Im not sick over him...maybe that's what botters him. And the final thing: he said you don't know what you're doing to me..( what I'm doing to him??!nothing!). I'm so mad....he can he but all the blame on me

I'm not hanging around with him, I just ran in to him all the time. We have a lot of simular friends, so if I want to or not, I'm gonna keep seeing him...That's why it's so hard to find a right way to deal with the situation

So you mean not say anything on the internet, and when I see him? That's really hard yes indeed we have a lot of simular friends so I've already seen hem three times last week. I'm not the person to go and have a chat with him, but his friend said alyssa, he talked to you last time so you should say something this time..and I took his advice

drie months, not that long I know But that's the reason why it shocked me...if you have a long relatinoship like my last one, you know you've done everything you could to make it work. Now it feels like we haven't tried at all

Hi everyone.. My boyfriend just broke up with me three weeks ago. I was really insecure in this relationship, and I made him feel insecure as well. I knew I could be myself, but he doubted me, himself and us. He wasn't sure he was making the right decision and said and said he could have regrets but I decided not to take that all to seriously. A week after he broke up with me, when people asked about me he reacted with saying: I'm really sure I made the right decision! When talking about it more, he admitted that he also felt bad. Anyway in the first week he talked to me like he has always talked. I thought maybe we can still be friends. Now all of the sudden he acts like a fool when he's around me. He ignores me but stares at me, or listens to my conversation with his friend. ..He doesn't say anthing, when I start to talk to him he answers cold. A few hours later he says : mum said hi. I just don't understand his behaviour at all . I don't know how the react either. I just want a normal conversation. He could do that at first, so I don't understand the sudden change :s