Hi all,
Here's my own story w.r.t. a recent breakup; I wonder what everybody thinks and any future predictions:
(1) a few years ago I met this girl, initially she was not interested in me and she started a short term relationship after I met her. However, I was persistent and in the end she broke up with her guy in less than 1 month and we ended up together;
(2) we were together for almost 2-3 years during which I somewhat fell out of love with her -- she moved out-of-state for school and eventually started acting very desperate, wanting to move in with me and so on. We were together, however, and saw each other every few weeks/etc. I don't think she cheated on me and I never did either, but I was comfortable in this 'long-distance' relationship where I had the upper hand.
(3) eventually I think she felt some of my reservations and blatantly asked me if she's 'the one' for me, to which I responded evasively. She took a job out of state and immediately lost it (to this day I don't know all the details, something between her getting fired and/or the company downsizing). Seeing this I immediately said she could come back and move in with me, but then rescinded on that offer thinking that I'm doing it more out of pity than love.
(4) she got really pissed and without breaking up with me, she took a job out of the country for 3 months -- once she moved out I started to be nicer to her realizing that indeed I *did* love her.
(5) the irony was that now that I did want her, she didn't want me anymore -- she found a guy in her new workplace and they started going out together, she stopped taking my phone calls, started to be cold to me, etc., etc. All negative signs.
(6) initially I was firm with her and told her that I was wrong to mistreat her and that I wanted to fix things and get her back. The more I was nice to her, the more time she spent with the other guy and the more 'desperate' I got -- needless to say she did not come back to me.
(7) she moved back and before I was able to do anything to win her back (within 2 weeks) she moved again overseas to contine her job there and be with the new boyfriend.
Now that was 6 months ago, in the first weeks she was with her new guy she was e-mailing me and calling every once in a while saying that she made a mistake, although she did not say she wanted to be back with me. I was nice to her asking her to come back to me -- of course it didn't happen.
In the last few weeks I found out her phone number and ended up calling her and making myself available, being nice, etc., etc....she's talking to me on a friendship level which I somehow hate...
Anyway, that's about it, not much else to say -- part of me still wants her back as I do realize that we had a very good, complementing relationship, but now it looks like it won't happen.
I'm also being an idiot for being super nice to her rather than moving on and letting her realize what she lost.
Any ideas, comments?
THanks!