HeartGoesOn

One step forward, and two back.  She'll see right through this, so it's time to start moving forward.

Don't get burned by the same flame twice.

She's an adult who has chosen to make her own decisions, therefore she needs to own any consequences that goes with those same choices.

She'll either sink or swim, but she needs to experience this on her own. Give her the gift of growing up.

7 hours ago, firefly666 said:

He asks me to send photos I've taken

What type of photos is he asking for?  Keep in mind that he's a stranger, and I find it odd that he's asking for your photos.

It's your call, but be careful about giving out too much information.

13 hours ago, boltnrun said:

13 hours ago, HeartGoesOn said:

What does "sth" mean?

It's text speak for "something".

Thank you.

What does "sth" mean?

If he truly loves you as he says, he'd never take the chance of losing you.  I'm sorry, but the chances of having a future with him are slim to none, (imo).

Sorry to hear about your losses, Lisa. Sounds like you're heading in a great direction.   WTG!

Not thai it matters at this point, but she'd have much more respect for you if you cut the cord.

Why not put yourself back in the drivers seat, while giving your self-esteem a well deserved boost?

Agree with the above ^

Posting for a friend, etc has the tendency to cause confusion. Please ask your friend to post their own thread...Thank you.

I'd try to be thankful that he showed you this side of himself, at this early stage.  I'm sorry this happened, yet be the bigger person and walk away with your final  words being "Good riddance."

9 hours ago, yezzy said:

Now I love my boyfriend and would never even imagine cheating on him but i am really gravitating towards my ex. I know i am not married and feel drained by my relationship but I believe in being a good person. But this just feels like the right thing to do.. 

The right thing to do is avoid the grass is greener way of thinking, and get your head on straight...so to speak.   This has the potential to leave you empty handed, where the choice will be made for you.   Are you ready for that?

2 hours ago, Mon12 said:

If she decided to agree to talk to me, then I'd give suggestions to assure her, such as seeking therapy, counselling, blocking on gambling sites (which is done by now) and letting her handle my money if that would make her feel better.

I'm sure you have all good intentions, but before you prove yourself to her/others, you have to prove all of this to yourself.   Believe it or not, this is more about you, and less about her.

At this point, rather than seeking help for your addition, your main goal is getting her back. The likely result would be you'll end up taking one step forward, and two back.

Hopefully this makes sense, and hopefully you'll find your way...

13 hours ago, Larissa1443 said:

I'm sorry I can't give you that, and I sort of started crying and told him I think it's clear we don't want the same things and he said "well I don't want to stop seeing you but I don't have time for you". We went to sleep.

This translates to "I'm not interested in dating you, but I'll always find the time to be FWBs."

If you're up for going down that road by accepting to be demoted to that level, you'll be selling yourself for a cheap price. Try raising the bar...

2 hours ago, moomooland said:

I don't know if he likes me or not.

It sounds as if you made it too easy for him, as in putting the cart before the horse.  I'm not sure why you slept with him while not knowing if he even lkes you.  As you found out, that's not what it takes to seal the deal.

He only texts you when he feels like it, which should tell you where his interest lies. In short I'd  block him, and take the lesson with me.

41 minutes ago, Jaunty said:

Four little opossums emerged slowly.

AMBER

 

Another monkey broke every rule.

CANDY

2 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Take Aspirin But Only One 💊

PUTTY 🛠️

Put up the tree yesterday.

CHILD

I wouldn't get too comfortable with staying there with her parents.  I understand you're not family, but as they say "two families can't live under one roof." Sooner rather than later it's likely they'll feel like you're invading their privacy, and when push comes to shove, the potential result will end as blood is thicker than water.

I'd move back and stay in my own home before the (word of choice) hits the fan.

1 hour ago, nati said:

I have the feeling that I gave you all a really dark vision of how he is. He gets frustrated easily but he don't verbally assault me. He just let me feel his frustration.

Rather than making excuses for his behaviour, you need to say what you mean, and mean what you say. By tolerating his control issues, you're simply giving him the green light to continue.  Keep in mind that we teach people how to treat us.

Hopefully pre-marital counseling will benefit the both of you.  If not, you have some thinking to do, and last but not least, please avoid selling yourself short.

All the best...

Multiple accounts...Closed.

9 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

Eat A Good Lunch Everyday 🍔

MEALY 🍏

Make every animal like you.

FEVER

No.  The legal issues are much more complicated, rather than buying a home as a married couple.

It's your call, but I woldn't do as it appears to be too risky.

2 hours ago, Jaunty said:

Tried really unusual lasagna yesterday.

UNFIT 

Until now, find it tomorrow.

DIZZY

Hopefully you'll come to the realization that he's the culprit, and not her.  At this point you're giving him permission to continue, simply because there are no consequences for his actions.

Time to raise the bar.

40 minutes ago, Betterwithout said:

Jokes Usually Make Boys Objective  😆

TURNS ⤵️

Take up running next Saturday.

SKATE

12 hours ago, Elphie said:

Since then he still finds reasons to come to my house and last time when I had to go past him in kitchen he said ‘oh I nearly shag##d you when you brushed past me in the kitchen’.  What is he trying to say?

"Two for the price of one, how lucky can I get?"