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Guesswho thank you so much for sharing your story. Its nice to hear from someone who has gone through the same thing. I do have children and so does she. Was your friend ever involved with a women before she got married as well?? My friend is straight but sometimes she says things that makes me wonder. I'm glad your with the person you love now and everything worked out for you. Sometimes I wish I can tell her how I feel but I'm to scared and probably never will.

But this is not a little problem. This is a big problem. No, sex is not the most important thing in a relationship but it is important. Maybe you should try therapy for yourself. It may not solve the problem, but it might help you deal through this tough time that your having.

I also have to agree. Its not healthy for both of you to be in this relationship. She needs to get help and get better before the two of you can have any kind of relationship. You need to be in a relationship with people who are going to make you happy and who are honest with you. Not lie to you and bring you down. You can be there for her and be her friend. Especially since you know what she is going through, but you really should think about ending the relationship. Remember, it will only gets worse before it gets better. Good luck and let us know what happens.

I just feel very alone. I have nobody to talk to about this. Not even my friends. I just wish I didn't have these feelings. My feelings just keep getting stronger and that scares me. I hate the fact that she makes or breaks my day depending on the conversation or if I even talk to her. I can't answer if I would feel this way if my marriage was better. I'm not sure. I feel so gulity feeling this way. I'm just so scared that I'm falling in love with her. I need to get these feelings out of my head because I know this relationship will never happen. I asked her to go out this weekend. I know if she tells me she can't go, I will get very depressed. I just wish I could tell her how I feel. I don't know what to do? I appreciate the advice. Thanks.

I have just got done reading most of the posts. I'm sorry you are going through this. I know what you are going through. Its tough to end a relationship after so many years. You just keep hoping its going to get better and things will be like it used to be. I'm sorry if you answered this already, but have you and your partner gone to therapy??

Has anyone else here thought they were straight all these years and all of sudden had feelings for the same sex?? Anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with this?? I just feel I don't know who I am anymore and i'm scared of these feelings.

I hope all is ok with your friend. She will be in our thoughts.

Thanks for the advice. I have thought about why i feel this way. Maybe because my marriage is not great. But, i have alot of close friends who are there for me, so why her?? I don't know how she would react caro33. There were times where I thought maybe she feels the same a little....but then i think its my mind playing tricks on me. As far as sex goes, I would not stop it but I would not start it either. That is if I was single. Lets just say, I have thought about it. thanks for listening. It feels good to talk about it.

I don't even know where to start. I have been married for 9 years. I always considered myself straight. Over the last 2 years I've been having these strong feelings for my best friend of 4 years. I think I'm in love with her. I have tried to ignore these feelings but I just can't anymore. I'm so confused about how I feel. My marriage is not that great. We have drifted apart for some time now. Not only am I married but she is married too. I don't know what to do. I wish I didn't have these feelings. I get depressed quite often. I just wish I could tell her how I feel. But I'm afraid I will loose to much. I would never cheat on my husband. I don't believe in doing that and could never do that to him. I hate myself for feeling this way. Any suggestions?? Thanks for listening.