I've been seeing a guy for almost two years now, living together for one. We've had a bunch of random instances where he has pushed the boundaries of our relationship.
1) When we first started dating, he started dating someone else (no biggie, we weren't exclusive). Several months down the road (after we were exclusive) he arranged to meet her when we were on a road trip to the city where she lived. He told her that he was seeing someone (or so he tells me) & she called him at 2am drinking by herself & crying alone that it was supposed to be "their weekend." Anyway, she cyberstalked me & things got weird & I told him that he had to cut off all contact with her if he were to move on with me. I find out that he wanted to send her a birthday present (8months after our conversation) & that they were still in contact. After confronting him with it (february 2006) he stopped talking to her.
2) I had purchased two tickets too a band that he wanted to see for his birthday (9/05) but couldn't go for family reasons. He told me that he went by himself & scalped the extra ticket (for $20 less than face). It turns out that he took a girl I hadn't met & was stiffing me on the price. I only found this out 5months later after she brought it up (we had since become friends)...
Anyway, on to today.
We had what I thought was a pretty stable relationship. We even just got a puppy since I work at home now & are thinking of buying a fixer-upper in vegas. I found out that he sent some sentimental song to his ex-girlfriend in AZ (She's married to some well-off guy & has a 1 y/o & apparently stays at home & buys horses with his money). He told her about the house in vegas when she told him that she had visited the weekend previous to his sentimental email and "had a feeling she might run into him when she was out there." I don't know how he responded but her reply was that she didn't need to stay with him when she visits in April for a horse show as she already had reservations on the strip. None of his responses mention me at all (for all she knows we had broken up..."he's getting a puppy" "he's buying a house"). Ok, this was a couple of weeks ago, now onto the present...His Cousin (a close friend of both of ours) is having his 40th b-day party in vegas in February. At first I was invited (we are truthfully close), but since none of the other fellas have ladies (including the b-day boy) it turned into a guy's weekend & I graciously made no fuss about the unvite. Anyway I found out that my boyfriend has invited his married ex out for that weekend & I'm not sure what to do. Her response skirted the question. I think that truthfully she's just bored at being a housewife & likes the attention from her ex, & won't act on it...but then again...what do I know? Our relationship has grown apart in the past month & a half & I'm just not sure what to do.