Keyser_Soze

Pretty much, being a prostitute is NOT an easy job. These women put themselves at risk everyday.

men who pay for sex aren't looking for love. they just want sex. Many people have a hard time distinguishing between the two.

Or perhaps she is jelous because the escort selling her body makes more money then she does.

Huhhh??? they should be in the streets? instead of selling themselves? that makes no sense.

OH PLEASE!! get over it! It was 5 years ago for bloody crying out loud and he did it ONCE and to top it off he was honest enough to even tell her! did he ask her about her sexual past? does he care? Would it be better if he told her he has had loads of night stands? he only did it ONCE and yes my girlfriend is a very open minded and accepting individual. She is aware of my past and is fine with it. She likes me for who I am and does not judge me for things I did YEARS AGO That's what makes her open minded 'And the problem with prostitution is that in most states it is illegal. So it is not just a human being trying to make a living - it is a person committing a crime and also spreading disease just to make money." Marajuana and underage drinking are also illegal but that still doesn't stop people from doing it. Not everyone follows the laws I'm afraid. The number one killer in America is not an STD They're companies that make certain types of drugs, food also ciggerettes and they ALL cause disease no one is planning to toss them in the slammer.

"and a small percentage do it for the money, because they are too lazy to get the training etc. for a good job..." Too lazy? She is still making a living and providing a service. I have more respect for a prostitute then I do for my co-worker who quite her job and went on welfare so taxpayers could support her.

Probably a good idea NOT tell your future partners you've slept with prostitutes It's called LYING However my girlfriend is aware of the fact that I's gone to prostitutes in the past she's fine with it. then again my gf is much more open minded.

I am very selective about the sexworkers I'm going to spend my money on If they get good reviews What I look for is that they are attractive (obviously they need to be if they want any bussiness) if they got good reviews wern't clock watchers and were locatated in a good area I'll visit them and a good escort is like a good cigar I'm willing to travel

Luke Skywalker, I understand where you are coming from, Yes, I HAD a wife LOL a friend once said "you don't truly pay for sex until you are married" My ex and I a lot of problems throughout our marriage and there were times where she didn't want to touch me. I can tell you right now that was very ego damaging. Heck I was tempted to go to a hooker while I was married! but I didn't start visiting sexworkers til after my divorce. and My friend did have to pay he took her out to dinner several times. this girl wasn't exactly stable there was a lot of drama in the relationship. For me visiting sexworkers is just liberating and covenient I don't look at is as an alpha male ego thing i look at it as a service im paying for. but that's just how I look at it I guess. I'm not telling you to go the hooker route. Your prespective and circumstances aree different then mine So telling you to go to a hooker would be rather presumptious.

I guess it all depends on your prespective and mindset. It maybe "disgusting" to lose your virginity to a hooker but whose to say it wouldn't be to lose it to a stranger? or a girlfriend? My friend lost his virginity at 25, and he also said it was disgusting but he didn't lose it to a hooker. He lost it to some woman he met online. For me it was never about power or humiliation or lowering my worth as man because I had to "pay for it" or all that man's phyce stuff. I never bought into that and never will. I was horny and I just didn't have the time to date women. After my divorce, I wasn't too excited about reentering the dating scene anyway. I wasn't interested in another long term relationship and I can't stand bars and clubs. so sexworkers seemed like the most appealing choice. It's something I don't do regularly but my experiences have been pretty positive.

Thank you RedQueen

No you don't know me and I never asked if I could sleep with you. However you can keep telling yourself that if it will boost your ego. You can lecture me about respect and women's rights You can feel sorry for me all you want. Fact is I don't have to justify myself to you. I'm not asking for your approval and I certainly don't need it. cheers

LOL Struck a nerve did I? There is no need to be so defensive. I never called you a prostitute. A prostitute provides sex in exchange for money. It's a service it's as simple as that.

The point asul100 is trying to make is the same one I've been making It's never for free. Men pay for it one way or another. The only difference is that a prostitute is upfront about it and you can't fault her for her intentions because she's just making a living. Luke Skywalker, I agree prostitutes they're not for everyone. I'm not suggesting that every man should visit one However, I don't believe its wrong for a man to visit one. and I certainly wouldn't blame a guy for going to one. We all have needs and going to a prostitute will not turn you into some dehumanizing animal. It all depends on many factors whether or not the experience of going to a prostitute is going to be enjoyable. the sexworker, the client, chemistry, etc. Some people morally object to it others are apalled or uncomfortable by the idea of going to a hooker. Heck, Some men are uncomfortable purchasing a playboy in a store let alone going to a hooker. to each their own. I've vistited escorts in the past. Some experiences were more pleasurable then others.

Fine, agree to disagree

It's ok for a woman to sell sex but it's not ok for someone to buy it? No that doesn't make much sense I'm afraid. I really don't see how buying sex is anymore morally inferior then selling it. We're not talking about inflicting harm on someone we're talking about paying for sex. if you believe it's morally wrong that's fine. Your entitled to your beliefs and I'm sure you're not the only one who thinks that but If I visit a escort I have no intention of hurting her in anyway. Once the health and safety measures are out of the way and some chemistry has been established we can began our session. Once finished I pay her for her time and services have a shower bid my farewell to her and leave and I'm home in time for Leno now please explain to me how I've "inflicted harm" on her and why I should go to jail

First you say that anyone who visits a prostitute should be thrown in jail now you say it should be decriminalized interesting. I'm sure sexworkers will appreciate their clientele being thrown in jail. That's just great for business.

I'm having trouble with the box feature so I'll just use quotations quotes from hazey_amber "I used to work in an underground afterhours club where I became friends with many escorts. I can honestly tell you that they were depressed and miserable. They had alot of self-hate and had to numb themselves just to get through a day's work. These were sexy, high-class escorts - not crackwhores on the street" I live in Toronto where the sex industry is booming. Commercial sex isn't very hard to come by (no pun intended) where ever you live. I have made friends with many escorts as well (some of which I used their services) and I have asked them about their work many of them already have jobs and do escort work on the side. They enjoy it They enjoy making their own hours They enjoy the freedom it gives them they enjoy the fact that they can earn more money in one hour then a lot of people do in an entire week. These women got into the sex industry on their own it was their own descision. They don't deal with agencies or pimps they work independently and they have total control and yes they are very sexual. Yes they're escorts who are miserable and hate what they do. I've met them as well. Fact is a lot of people hate their jobs and are miserable. factory workers, coal miners, roofers, farm labourers, millions of people do jobs they hate so they can put food on the table. They have to numb themselves to get through a day's work as well Yet nobody is stigmatizing the work they do or calling their industries evil and corrupt. "No, trust me, it's not. Any kind of prostitute is risky and certainly not safe or clean. Please don't kid yourself." You can't really use that as an argument. Life is full of risks. Everything we do entails risk. If you want to be totally safe from everything lock yourself in your house and never leave. Driving down the street is a risk to I suppose you would never get into a car? Meeting some random woman at a club or rave is certainly a risk. You don't know if they have an STD or are a total phycho A professional sexworker is more likely to protect herself then a sexually active adult because she's having more sex. Having sex is her job so of course she's concerned with her safety and the safety of her client. She's going to protect her assets. "Absolutely. Not to be treated like a discardable piece of meat." Who said anything about treating them like a discardable piece of meat? Men discard women all the time in relationships. The same way gold digging women discard men they were just using for their money. You're not discarding a prostitute if you paid her for her services. It's perfectly acceptable to treat a escort like a professional who's providing you a service for money because afterall that is what they are doing. "Well, in my opinion, they should go to jail. But that's just my humble opinion." Right... and a kid who is caught with a joint should be locked up as well While alcohol which contributes to far more deaths remains legal.. I get it. There is nothing wrong with a professional relationship with a sexworker as long as she is of legal age and it is consentual and safe. The only circumstances in which a sex customer should face legal implications is if the sexworker is underage or they're is violence threats intimidation. etc. other then that it is wrong to punish someone for a victimless crime. If you think by locking up sexworkers and sex clients and keeeping sexwork so stigmatized you're going to make things better you're sadly mistaken. This makes it harder for women to get out of the business if they want to quit more dangerous to seek help from the police if they are being abused, threatened, or defrauded and more difficult to find other work if they quit. If you want to improve the lives of sexworkers (especially the ones who are forced into it by violence and starvation) I believe there social status as people need to be improved. The more control a sexworker has over her working conditons the safer she will be. Sure you can keep it illegal but that doesn't mean it's going to go away Smoking Marajuana and underage drinking are illegal but that still doesn't stop people from doing it.

I never said it's ok for a married man to visit a hooker. but unfortunetly it DOES happen. if a man needs to look for garatification outside his marriage then clearly they're deeper problems at hand. What happened between you and your husband is your business. I know several escorts and none of them do drugs and they do enjoy what they do very much. otherwise they wouldn't be in it. One of them actually does it as a part time job she says her clients are perfect gentlemen who are very pleasant to be around. and she's actually very selective over who she chooses as her clients.

When people think hooker they immediately picture the streetwalking crackwhore. While I agree these women are pretty much walking death. "human misery" and human traffiking" are only one side of it alot of escorts actually do enjoy what they do and If you pay more and go with a clean professional escort your odds of catching something are zero. because a professional is going to insist on using a condom and gets tested Sex is her job of course she's going to protect herself. That's actually safer then picking up some girl at rave. and the great thing about an escort is that you don't have to worry about calling her back. I always hear "oh hookers are human beings with feelings" and blah blah" yes that's true hookers are human beings and they deserve to be treated with dignity and respect and so do the people who visit them. Your values are your values but keeping sexwork so stigmatized is something I don't agree with.

how are you adding to her "mess" if you're paying her? if anything you're providering with bussiness. money she can use to pay rent, buy groceries etc. I really don't see how keeping prostitution so stigmitized (and in most caes illegal) suppose to help anything This makes it harder for women to seek legal or other kinds of asistance if she's being abused or ripped off or she wants to quit. I have nothing against people who wouldnt go to hookers simply because they believe it wouldnt be right for them or they have religious or moral objections it it, fine however, i don't believe going to a prostitute makes you a disgusting pervert with no morals or a desperate loser.

commitment is a form payment my friend. Correction, IF you meet the right person IF This is reality not a fairy tale Many marriages end in divorce. If you manage to find the "right person" and stick with them that's great, but many of us aren't that lucky . Then they're relationships that are co dependent relationships where the couple is only together for financial reasons or for the sake of children. most men who go to hookers are already married or have gfs ironic isn't it? in some cases marriage is just a form of legalized prositiution.

hate to break it to you but in some way shape or form you're paying for it. commiting yourself to one single person is a form of payment itself.

a man goes to an escort does his thing with her pays her then leaves. it was safe consentual, and fun why should he feel guilty? why should he have to justify himself TO ANYONE he didn't hurt anyone Should a man feel bad for going into a resteraunt and buying a meal because he's hungry instead of "getting it for free" LOL whatever and the whole "hookers are diseased" argument is a lark you're more likely to catch something from a girl at a bar/rave/club then you are from a professional sex worker