larrya5440

Hi Thanks for the responses.. a couple of you have asked, her kids are 9 and 10. Well, I guess I should try to find out what her thoughts are w/o being to blunt I guess. Any good way to do that?

Hello I'm a single male, never married, 39 years old. I just recently (about 2 weeks ago) met a fantastic women who is 40, and has 2 children. We seem to be hitting it off real nicely. I haven't felt this way about someone in a long time. And I know she feels the same way too. And I know it's early, but it does seem like we share a lot in common. My dilemma is this, in that I would eventually like to have children of my own someday soon, and I'm not sure yet what her desires are. Being that she's a single mom, at 40, it would be hard for me to imagine that she would want to do it again. I know theoretically, it's probably still possible for her to have children, but I'm not sure how great the odds are. I have a lot of conflicting emotions right now...my heart says to go for it, but my mind says it probably is not in my best long-term interests. Am I worrying too much? Does anyone have any similar experiences to share? Would love to hear it... Thanks Larry

Hi I guess that's what life is all about is "changes". And adapting and dealing with them. I guess when your life is changing into something that you didn't expect, or anticipate, then your dreams become unfulfilled. Maybe that's what I'm struggling with right now. I just wish I was coping with it better. Larry

Hi I'm a fairly attractive guy who is 39, never married, and lately, I've just been in a funk of a mood lately. I'm tired all the time, and just can't seem to find any motivation to go out with friends, or do anything. I used to work out 3 times a week, and now I'll go weeks without working out. I also have been feeling sad lately. Sometimes like I want to cry. I have 2 aging parents, one lives in an assisted living facility. And I've had a whole summer of health issues that they've both been dealing with, and I'm the only sibling in the area where all this responsibility falls upon. I feel my like my life is not going the way I want it to. By this point, I had hoped to be married with children, with my own family. But now I struggle to see my aging parents health deteriorate, and in a way I feel my like I'm losing a piece of myself. But without a future to look toward with my own kids, wife, etc. I try to date, but it's hard to find the time and energy, and it seems like all the women that I'm interested in, are not interested in me, and vice versa. Maybe I'm destined not to find someone special...I don't know. Recently I've started having flash-backs, I guess you can say, to different times in my life. Nothing traumatic, or particularly enjoyable moments, but just different times in college, or different jobs I've had in my career, or when I was traveling in different places. And I look back, and wishing I knew then what I know now (hindsight is 20/20, I know). I know we all do that, but it's been happening more and more lately. Anyways, I guess I just need a place to vent...I don't think this is a depression, but maybe like a mid-life crisis. But I also think I may be a little young for that. I don't know...any thoughts? Larry