manyemotions02

Many times when a person goes through something tramatic they don't remember it. Their mind tends to put a mental block on those experiences. For instance I can't remember the exact date of my sisters death. It is like my mind just put a lock over it. I remember a few things like her in the hospital and a lil of the funeral but most i don't remember. A lot of times my mind will just block out most of the bad memories which its just a way of ur body coping. so it is normal for u to not really remember much or if at all nething. i thought myself that not remembering was a bad thing but then when i talked to a counsler she said its just a way of coping and that ur mind is like putting a mental block on that experience. i hope that answers some of your question. and i am sorry you had to be put thru those things even if u cant remember them.

Thanks for the advice....i have been to a counsler for my problems and it has helped some but i still feel all alone in how i am feeling...i know other people have lost too and know how i am feelin but i guess i just dont have the support system some people have i dunno... and i do cherish all my memories very very much! i feel like i have become stronger and had to grow up and mature faster than most people my age. There is just many times i wish someone could be there and tell me its gonna be owk despite all these problems in my life and just maybe someone hold me.

I have lost three people who were very dear to my heart...my sister...my nephew and my grandmother all within two years. I find it very difficult to go on because their deaths were VERY sudden and unexpected. I have also had many family issues with abuse. I am at the point of just breaking down. I have broke down before and right now I feel so alone. My other grandparents are slowly goin down hill and i feel that i will lose them too. Things have been so difficult for me and i just don't know how to cope anymore. If anyone has any advice id appreciate it.

well my self esteem is very very low. you say that basically its what you make of yourself not what other people think but in society today it is what other people think because if there wasn't love where two people care for each other and like each other and are attracted then what is there? when a person is told over and over how worthless they are how lazy stupid and everything else ones self esteem is going to be low and then thereforeee they will feel worthless like i do. its very hard for me to not feel worthless when your father verbally and physically abuses you. i know i shouldn't feel that way but its hard. im shy because i am afraid of rejection but not only that but im afraid that i will end up with someone like my father who abuses me.

I have always been shy since I first could remember things. I had friends when I was in Elementary and middle school but as years went on the shyness got worse and worse. Since a lost my sister and I was physically and verbally abused I basically shut myself off from the world. I could never just go up to someone who I think is cute or that I like and another problem is that I am not attracted to people around my age which is 19. I have had to grow up faster than most people my age so the guys that I am attracted to are older and usually around 28. I just don't really know what to do since i fell into this extreme shyness I have not had a date. I feel so alone and so ugly that i am unwanted and worthless. Is there anyone out there that might be able to help?