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I think "fine" is a bad response to give people. Like you said, I think people use that when they really don't want to do something but are being forced into it. At least that's how I use it But yeah, the tone makes a big difference. My ex says that in an exaggerated tone sometimes that I would know that he's just joking around.

Yeah I think in some ways I kind of regret that I told him about the FWB relationship. I think sometimes there are some personal things that are better off left unsaid. Do you guys agree?

We have arguments from time to time on other issues but this is one of the major ones that we've fought over. He thinks that I might have the potential of cheating on him because what I did makes me seem like a very "sexual" person. But I don't think that's a fair assumption at all. I have never and would never cheat on any of my boyfriends.

Thanks for the words of encouragment guys

ilse - I don't think I have really posted any issues we had regarding our relationship on here yet. So basically we both realized that we're just two really different people, and that we have different expections and interests. And I guess he was looking for someone that's more similar to him. So it's basically that, and the fact that he couldn't get over something that I have done in the past. And no, I didn't cheat on him nor any of my ex-boyfriends. I had a FWB relationship with someone before him and he can't seem to put that behind him (I've only slept with him once btw). I think he tried really hard to forget about what happened but he couldn't. And that somehow made him feel really insecure about himself in some ways. And he feels that every time when he's with me, he'll always think of what I've done with that guy and it makes him feel sick to the stomach. I've realized that it was something stupid that I had done and I even told him that. But I guess he just can't see me past that and he'll always think of me as being that "promiscuous" girl. He's very conservative by the way. Every time when we fight he brings that up and sometimes he just makes me feel so low and dirty.

Do you have other friends that you could room with? If not you can also try looking for random roomates online like craigslist or link removed, that's how I found my current roomates.

Well . . . it finally happened. My bf came last night and broke up with me. I was surprisingly calm, maybe because I had a feeling that it was going to happen sooner or later. We had broken up once before but got back together after a week. I must say that I took it better this time than the last. I'm planning on spending lots of time with friends to help get my mind off things. With that said, I still couldn't stop myself from feeling scared and alone. We've been together for almost 2 years and the relationship felt like my security blanket, more so than any of my past relationships. I've always thought that I'm a very independent woman . . . but I guess I was wrong. I've never realized how dependent I was on this relationship. Where do I go from here? I know I need some time off to just be around with family and friends before I get back into the dating scene again. I'm just scared of having to go through all that again, and I really don't think that I would ever have the desire to meet anybody else again after being with my ex. Sorry for my ramblings! Not really sure what I'm looking for . . . but I guess I just needed to hear some feedback on some of the positive experiences that people have gone through after a tough breakup. I could use some cheering up right now

Ahh, felt so much better just getting that off my chest

You guys have been together for two years and you still have no idea how he feels about your relationship? I think it's time for you to sit down and have a serious talk with him . . .

No, working out for two days def won't make a difference on your body. People loose weight and get toned over a span of time of couple of months. But I think it will make you feel better about yourself psychologically though. I feel a lot better about myself each time after I work out! Also, you should keep this up . . . don't work out just because your bf is coming, you should do it for yourself.

I get really cranky when I'm not fed . . .

I think I felt the same way two years ago when I was single . . . and although I spent the holidays with my family, I felt alone because I didn't have anyone special to spend it with . . . especially on new years

Yes it is possible cuz the same thing happened to me! My current bf is actually the first man I fell in love with! I was in a LTR with my ex for about 2.5 years and even though we both cared a lot for each other, I don't think either one of us really "loved" each other. We broke up because it felt like we were more like friends then lovers towards the end.

Your gf and her ex's relationship does not sound healthy at all. If I were you I wouldn't trust her either. She's manipulating you cuz she knows she can get away with it! It sounds like she wants a piece of the cake and eat it too. If I were you I'd seriously reconsider this relationship. Sorry to be so negative! But I just don't think this girl loves you as much as you love her and clearly you deserve better than that.

Are you still friends with your best friend? And how does he feel about it? I don't think I could ever have any sexual relationships with my friends' ex's . . . that's just too weird for me. The bottom line is, there's really nothing you can do except to forget about it and put that behind you. If you get too worked up by it it could potentially hurt your relationship. What has happened happened and there's nothing you can do to change the past. You'll just have to learn to accept it.

I wouldn't get too worked up about this if I were you. Let it be a learning experience for you. If it makes you feel better, I got my 2nd ticket doing a 92 on a 65 max highway ... yeah . . . even the cop yelled at me lol Looking back now, I'm thinking, what the heck was I thinking!!!!

Female . . . we've never tried it during sex, but my bf and I like to spank each other's butts playfully when we're not having sex

I think she's trying to get back with you. If you are interested, why don't you just give it a try? But only when you're ready.

Does your company have a website where they post job openings? You should def check it out if they do. You probably will have a better chance getting a job there if you've already been working for the company.

I've heard different opinions on this. I graduated 3 years ago with an engineering degree and I've been working ever since I graduated. My current employer offers a program that pays for my gad school expenses if I do well in the classes. I've been thinking about going back to get an MBA for a while now but I'm not sure if it's worth all the effort and energy. It's going to require a lot of dedication because I would have to work full-time while taking night classes. I think I may be interested in moving into the business aspect of the engineering field so I thought this may help. Would this potentially increase my salary in the long run? I'd like to hear everyone's feedback! Thanks!!

I think you may be stressed out or depressed. My friend went thru the same thing a couple of years ago when her brother was having a nasty child custody battle with his ex-gf and somehow she got in the middle of it. Everyone would go to her with their problems and she ended up being really stressed out and lost all her appetite. She ended up losing tons of weight because she had no desire to eat. She also stopped going out and socialize with people. We would have to force her to eat when we were out together. Eventually the child custody issue got resolved and slowly she became normal again.

Yeah . . . I know how you feel . . . I think I got my first ticket when I was 23 and I got my license at 16! I was so upset about it afterwards that I started crying after the cop drove off! You're not a bad person! Everyone has done it! I would just try to slow down next time. Getting speed tickets can increase your premium for car insurance so you may want to try to avoid getting anymore of them.

Well I think some activities are more exciting when there are other people around. I don't think I would want to go clubbing or the bars with just my boyfriend. But if it's something more intimate like dinners or movies night at home or something then yes, I think I would get kinda annoyed if he invites all his buddies. Bottom line is, he might not be aware of how you feel so it's prolly better that you let him know. Or if anything, you should organize something for just the two of you to do.

Well, you aren't really close with her, so I'm not surprised that she didn't invite you to be in her wedding party. I think I would choose my close friends to be in my wedding party over my fiance's family too, unless I'm really close with one of them.

I disagree. If I were you I'd just stop by at those salons personally and asks for the manager. Even if they are not hiring at least you are giving them the impression that you're serious about this and you are putting in the effort.

Well let them have a chance to get to know you first. I think it's interesting how strongly you feel about them in just 5 months. I think you're coming onto them too strong and you might need to back off and relax a bit because they're probably confused. The situation is also awkward because you guys are related.

If I were you I prolly wouldn't tell him unless you guys start to get more serious or unless he asks you about it. You don't want him to shoot you down from the start because of that . . . you should let him to get to know YOU first.

I think that means she feels comfortable enough around you that she wouldn't care what you think of her if she does that. But I do think it's very rude though . . . especially when it's in public.