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How often do you guys see each other? And how often do you guys email/text or talk on the phone?

My bf broke up with me almost 3 weeks ago and I haven't been coping with it very well. I keep thinking about how he's the best that I'll ever be able to get and that I won't be able to find someone else that will be as good as him . . . anyone ever felt this way after a breakup? I'm just scared that I'll never be able to find another replacement to help me get over him . . . *sigh*

Have you thought about moving into an off-campus apt? I think it's suppose to be cheaper than the dorms . . .

How many times a week do you work out and how long does each workout last? If you workout quite often then I'd suggest you start taking in more calories. You can't be working out while only taking in 1,000 calories! Calories = energy, and if you've already wasted that on your workouts, then you're not gonna have enough energy to help you make it through the day.

Maybe you're not getting enough sleep . . . how many hours do you get every night?

Breakfast! Especially if you're a college student and you're running around all day attending classes. If I don't eat breakfast in morning, I find myself lacking the energy to do any work! Try eating some egg whites with wheat toast, or maybe oatmeal or some light cereal that's not too high in sugar.

Hey all!

Thanks for all the great responses!

Just some update on what has happened since my first post. My ex and I broke up almost two weeks ago. I was confused and shocked that night so I didn't really say much. So basically he came, told me what he had to say, and left. I ended up emailing him a week later to let him know everything I meant to say that night. I know not everyone will approve of the email, but to me, that was my closure . . . to get everything off my chest, so that I can move on. But trust me, it wasn't a bitter, angry or pathetic email begging him to come back, it was very well written and calm. And I told him not to respond back to the email. Fast forward a week to today . . . I got a response back from him! He was basically responding to all the things I wrote in the previous email, and then towards the end of the email he wrote some random question about something else. Since he was online at the time I read the email, I just sent him an im with the response. Anyways, we ended up having a really nice chat over aim. And he said that he really hopes that we can remain friends, maybe not now, but in the future, when we have both healed. I felt so happy and relieved when he said that! I was worried that he'd completely shut me out and never speak to me again! He also told me to give him a call if I ever needed someone to talk to. And I told him the same. My mind is at peace now . . . and even though I'm still sad about the break up, I think I am starting to feel better . . .

I'm curious to hear what the others will have to say about this. My bf and I broke it off over a week ago and it wasn't a really nasty breakup. We've broken up once before and at that time we agreed that we'd remain friends. But then we ended up getting back toether. Although the friendship thing wasn't established during our recent breakup, I still would like to remain friends with him and I'd like to think that he feels the same way too. It's just that we were such great friends while we were together and I'd hate for us to never speak to each other again. We've been on NC since the breakup so I'm not sure if this friendship thing is going to work out after all. If he was the one who broke it off . . . that means he would be the one to initiate contact first if he wants to remain friends correct? Would it be strange if I initiate contact first just to make small talks? I'm not saying that I'd like to do that right away, I would only do this after I've healed from the breakup.

I think he's jealous too. Either of her stealing you away from him, or the fact that you have a attractive gf and he doesn't.

Hey Ladt_Bugg!

One of my friends was looking on craiglist and found this group of girls that goes out for happy hours near where she lives so she has been doing that with them for a while now. They are all girls and she has gotten pretty close with them. I also found through craiglist about this young professionals organization that meets up for social events. I went to one of the events once and met a lot of nice people. Maybe you can check and see if there's anything similar in your area??

My friend went on depo once and she started to lose her hair! She would brush her hair and it would fall out in like pretty big chunks! She went to the dr and they told her that it was a side effect so she stopped using it after that . . .

I think some women just enjoy the attention and it's a thrill for them . . . they might not necessarily be interested in you, but I think it makes them feel better about themselves . . .

Miniature golf

Wine tasting

Making your own pottery (lol I've always wanted to do this!!!)

Dave & Busters (it's like an archade for adults, and you can drink there! )

Picnic at the park

I know EXACTLY how you feel rite now! My ex-bf did the exact same thing to me a week ago. He was my first love and I was so heartbroken and devasted! We seemed fine for a while and then last Thurs. boom, outta nowhere he tells me that he's coming over and then broke up with me. I was so confused, shocked and upset! I honestly had no idea that he was so unhappy, as he has been hiding that for a while now. We've been together for over 1.5 years too. I haven't been able to sleep at all since then . . . I've been crying every single day hoping that maybe someday he'll realize that he has made a mistake and he'll come back to me again. Luckily I have a group of very supportive friends that are trying to help me get through this. If I were you I'd try to get out of the house and avoid being alone. If I'm home by myself I will start to think of all these stuff again and gets all sad and depressed. So I'm trying to keep myself as busy as possible and I'd be out with friends every chance I get. I hope that you'll stay strong . . . we can get through this!!

I think he's probably interested and trying to figure out whether or not you have a bf by making small talks with you and if you're interested or not . . .

I think I'd be worried about you falling in love with your ex all over again and getting hurt in the end.

You can trim if you're not into waxing, but def do not shave! I usually get mine waxed and the lady that works there told me that shaving down there is the worst thing you can do because it will just grow out messier and rougher.

Not sure about everyone else, but the firmness of the mattress makes a big difference for me personally. My mattress has a padded top so it's pretty soft, and I can usually fall asleep right away and wake up in the morning feeling refreshed. My ex-bf's mattress was really firm and I could never get a good night's sleep in the bed. I usually wake up in the morning feeling all sore and tired still.

*sigh* I guess I am turning into one of those typical paranoid ex-gf . . .

I agree with Ellie there that you should've talked to her to find out what led to the breakup in the first place. Obviously she was bothered by something that made her want to have a break from you. From what she's been acting after you guys got back together, it seems like maybe she's unsure of what she wants again and maybe she's regretting her decision.

My bf broke up with me this past Thursday and the day after I signed on into my myspace page to check some messages, but I didn't make any changes on my relationship status on my profile. Then over the weekend I logged into my account again to write a message to one of my friends and noticed that he had logged on the day after our breakup as well and didn't change his relationship status either. Also, over the weekend my friend was showing me some pictures on her profile on a different site and out of curiosity I searched for my ex's name on there and what do you know? He has a profile set up since a a couple of years ago. The last time he logged on was also the day after our breakup but the relationship on that profile said "single". Ok, I know this is really silly but I don't know why he didn't change that info on his myspace page. Am I reading too much into this?? I feel like he's waiting for me to do that first. I don't get people that change their status as soon as they break up with someone . . . it's like you can't wait to let the whole world know that you're single again and that you're looking to meet other people on those sites. I didn't want to change mine yet because I don't want the world to find out that we're broken up thru myspace . . . I'd rather just tell them in person . . .

Nope I don't think you should worry about it. I still see and hang out with my ex sometimes and when we are together I feel like we're just friends, even though we went out for 2.5 years. Since it has been 13 years since they last dated I'm sure the feelings they had for each other are probably gone now.

One of my friends mentioned the idea to me since it's so hard meeting people these days. Has anyone ever been to one?? If so, did you end up dating or having a serious relationship with someone you meet there??

Yeah my method is to fight the urge of buying them at the grocery store! If I really want to have some, I usually get the low-fat frozen yogurt instead of ice cream in the pint size. I also heard a good method would be to scoop out a small portion into the bowl instead of eating from the container.

None of us are perfect and we shouldn't try to be. How boring! The people we look to for love should know us well enough to not only know what our best qualities are, but our worst as well. They should be able to help us change the things we want to change, worry about us and support us if we need to change for our own good and let us know that we'd be loved even if we stayed the same.

What you wrote there just made my eyes water But in a good way though! I just got out of a breakup from a LTR and part of the reasons to the breakup was that my ex blamed me for all the problems we had in our relationship. Yes I understand that I'm not perfect and I have faults and I've told him that I'm willing to change for him. But there are certain things that I'm just so used to doing that it's really hard for me to change just like that. He placed all the blame on me and made me felt like I was the one who made the relationship fail. But now I realized that if he really loved and cared about me, then he should be willing to help me get there. All he did was express his anger and frustrations to me when I wasn't able to change things on my own.

I'm glad I read your post!