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yeah thats true. I just feel like sht! I feel really bad. Id normally never ever do anything like that.

Ok. Ill make it as short as possible. im a bartender at a local downtown bar. Well the other night a bunch of us from work went out to a private party. One of the bartenders I work with brought a girl that he says he is dating. This guy isnt a really good friend or anything. I just work with the guy and every once in a while we'll hang out if we run into each other. But, we know the same people. My friends are pretty much his friends. Well, I got REALLY drunk and ended up sleeping with the girl that he brought to the party. According to her, it was their second date and its nothing serious. They kissed a few times but never any sex. Well, she came on to me very strong, and I probably didnt try to stop her. He ended up leaving the party. My guess is that he saw us kissing. So this is where the advice comes in. What should I do??????????? Should I play it cool? Apologize? I feel really really bad! Any opinions?

thanks man

sometimes feel as though I deserve it. Whenever she looks at me now, its just with so much hate and bitter. Its sick! I remember she used to look and treat her ex when I first met her. I just assumed that the ex was an a-hole. But now Im second guessing that.

I dont know why I respect her! Its so crazy. I guess its the guilt. I know its the guilt. I feel so guilty that i come up with excuses for her behaviour. I mean, would I ever do that to her....hell no! I f I was with someone else right now, Id probably lie just because its so soon and I wouldn't want to hurt her feelings. But she didnt give a rats * * * * *. I find myself excusing her behavior because of the fact that I feel guilty for ending the relationship and causing her alot of pain.

me and my ex were together for about 3 years. We tried to work it out but it just never worked. I had caught her lying to me several times. She would purposely try to make me jealsous with other men. Even used my close friends to try and"get a reactin out of me." After three years of putting up with this crazy attention seeking behaviour, I decided that it would be best that we both go our separate ways. Even though we had ruff times I love her very much and respect her. Here is my current problem: She became very bitter when I broke off the relationship. We have been in NC for about 2 weeks when she calls out of the blue to say that she is being kicked out of her place by her landlord and moving into a house with a friend, lets call him bob. Then she goes on about how she "cant believe im not dating anyone as of yet". So I of course take it as she is already dating someone. I ask her and she then says that she is dating bob. This so called friend. So I tell her that im glad she is happy and we end the convo. She then calls me back up and says that she was just kidding and that the reason she used the name bob was because she was in his room at the time and that his name was all over his wall. * * *??????? Is that not a mindfk or what? Is it possible that she move on that quick?????? I mean damn! I would never screw with her mind like that. Do you guys think thats messed up? Or am I getting what I deserve because I broke off the relationship. That what she says.

hi everyone. Im a newbie and think that this is a great website. Reading some of these posts have been alot of help. My situation is a little different though. Im the dumper. I was with my ex for, on and off about 3 yrs. Im 25 yrs old. and she is 22. Very INTENSE relationship. We fought all the time. I never trusted her and she probably never trusted me. She did admit from the beginning that she had trouble trusting men because of her father who left when she was young. She is a beautiful person....I know that even though she has done some mean things, I really think that she is a good person. So Im going to try not to bash her, which is hard because lately ive found myself growing more and more bitter. We fell hard for each other right from the start but I think that we were young, immature, and most of all insecure. She ALWAYS had men coming in and out of her life. Helping her with this an that. "They were friends".....I hated that sht! So I began to do the same, actually just once, I became friends with a girl and went to eat twice. Nothing happened but she found out about the lunch and thats when the rel went way down hill! I learned my lesson and I know that that was immature. Anyways we never REALLY REALLY gained eached others trust after that. We began to fight about everything! Stayed together for about another year. She still had the guy friend bullsht coming in and out of her life so I decided to end. Breakup #10,000. But to me it was breakup#1 the only one, no turning back. We have been broken up for about 5 months. But have only been in no contact for about 3 weeks. Longest we had gone no contact was for about 5 days. Well she didnt take the breakup well at all. Went a little crazy. Funny thing is that she began to grow bitter and resentful towards me because I wouldn't take her back! I mean bitter to the point that she told me she hated me and that she is sleeping with someone else! * * *k! Then she would say that she only did it because "she wanted to see if I still cared" WHAT!!!!!!!!!!! It was stressful times. So I began to grow bitter towars her and in turn I would say that I hated her. Never told her that I was with another woman though. So of course I carry alot of guilt because of the breakup but I felt like we had no other choice. Now, there were times when things were perfect. We wanted to marry each other. We were so in love. But when trust issues came up, everything went out the window. The reason Im posting on here is because the past couple of days have been REALLY hard. I mean, I wake up thinking about her, watch tv and think about her, go to sleep thinking about her. I miss her alot! But I know that if we were to get back together, It wouldn't last 2 weeks. I changed jobs and Im know bartending at a downtown bar here. Lots of beautiful women walk thorugh the door. Im not interested right know because Im not REALLY over the ex, but my job requires me to flirt, alot. I know that if we were to get back, she wouldn't trust me at all. I KNOW she would be there looking over my back 24/7 and that would just make me feel uncomfortable. We would probably fight alot and things would only get worst. Why am I feeling this way. I see TONS of beautiful women EVERY weekend, and all I can think about is my ex. Thing that drives me crazy is that not one them compares to her....physical atraction wise. I do meet alot of nice girls though. Why am I missing her when Im the one who broke up? Is this normal? Anyone been in a similar situation? Its driving me nuts!