gypsy

it's her loss then. if u disappear a little, maybe she'll miss your absense. also, 24 is not such a mature age. some girls are still bratty and immature at that age. careerist women somehow often end up old maids. let her do some input in your one-sided relationship. if people love each other, talk it over, work it out. otherwise, move on

atomic kitten's feel so good album is great for girls who wanna get over a breakup. afterwards you realise that you're silly for even listening. grieve then move on and party and always surround yourself with loving friends.

or what if the other girls are fake and he made em up so you'd think he's a catch? LDRs suck. i don't know how ppl would bother w people they don't even know. sometimes it's hard enough to be w someone u already know let alone someone u dont even really know. but then i suppose it could also work. but dont waste your time on this shady guy. love is magic and girls are princesses.

i dont know. i think we're both ok on the trust department. but its the communication that sucks. he says he dsnt like writing or emailing. we could skype but he's always out or asleep i dont know which. i just wish we could communicate or even just email everyday. even if it's just a short note or something. coz it frustrates me to look forward hearing about his day n it feels like he doesnt even care. he's done many great things for me wc is y i say he is the best bf. and he has very many amazing characteristics and i love his personality. but if we can't communicate everyday or hear from each other everyday then i don't see the point in sustaining a relationship. i'd rather not just have one otherwise it all feels imaginary to me. i can't make him put in effort obviously but sometimes i cant help feel that his friends are more important than me which is why he'd rather be out with them. why cant he tell me about his day? even in writing? im feeling very sensitive right now w him and i dunno how to deal w it anymore. i dont think we're even bestfriends at this point since we dont communicate.

you are all so right. yes i have talked to him about my feelings. and i try to understand him, too. but i don't know why he can't seem to relate to me. he said he understands but i don't see any improvement. i don't know what's happening. maybe we both feel the other should compromise? i know he doesnt wanna give up. but i wish he'd put in more effort. he said a relationship shouldn't feel like an obligation. what does that mean? and if it's not, then what's the point then? do we live on delusions? thoughts and no actions? i'm confused. coz i want to end it but i can't coz i love him and im scared of making a mistake and im really testing my patience... like what if i just pretend he's not my bf anymore and let him think he still has a gf if he can deal w lack of communication... except i cant lie and tell ppl i love them if i resent them... anyway i already cried to him and said my heart hurts and why does he keep stuff from me and how we'll probably end up lovers but not friends if we don't talk and keep stuff from each other and spend more time w friends rather than each other. and i said i don't see the point in being in a relationship like that and how can he do it. how can he last not talking to me and just rushing to another party w/o checking or dropping me a msg. he said he's sorry but he also said i only see the negative side and i compare him to other guys and i shouldnt. he said he understands me. i dunno if he really does. sometimes i do get tired and waste so much time worrying. which is why i'd rather be just friends if we can't communicate everyday. i asked him already what he seeks in a relationship anyway etc. he just said sorry and he said he thought i understood him and i dont mind if we're like this. i said i dont know anymore and all i know is i need constant communication and trust isn't enough. i can idolize a person but not be his bestfriend. i dunno what he thought of that. i guess i'll find out. i really want our relationship to work and it sucks a loooot but i dunno... sometimes i really feel like throwing in the towel. but maybe i am dating a little boy. we still have a long way to go... anyway, i really appreciate your help, you guys. i mean, it's funny but it does help. thanks so much. it makes a difference to me.

thanks guys. i guess i feel miserable coz i feel like it's better if it was done. but i dunno. he's out surfing every weekend, too. sometimes i feel like our relationship is a convenience. like he'd say 'drop me a line if it's convenient, but don't bend over backwards and make an effort for me.' coz i've been making it a point to be home at least from 3-4pm to hear about his day and he's very rarely there. it should be his bedtime but he'd be out w friends and go home much later too tired to talk. he's happy but he can't seem to empathise w my misery. he says he needs to hang out w people so he wont feel bad about me leaving and all he does is talk about me to them, but then i'm already there waiting online for him and he's never there!!! except once when he went home coz he felt i was mad already. my other girl friend said he doesn't even look at other girls and all he does is talk about me. and i believe that girl. but some of the ppl he hangs out w are not trustworthy anyway coz the circle of friends are full of infidelities and swapping bf/gf. i asked him to stay away from that particular crowd coz it strains our relationship and i don't like it. and i get mad each time i find out he's been drinking w em. i'm sure he won't get influenced by them but i still don't like the idea... i dont want those kind of friends in my future. and that's when i find out he does hang out w em coz i see pictures of them partying together. that he does not tell me about. i don't get it. i don't wanna worry or care about him anymore. when we're in the same city it's wonderful, but away from each other it really sucks. i really love him and i'm sure he loves me back, and i keep asking for his time. but now i don't know if i even want a minute of it...

oh yeah, sometimes i wonder if our relationship is a delusion. like when you say your bf is johnny depp and you're so into him but never hear from him... you know... coz we rarely talk. he may be out talking about me but he rarely gives me attention. i feel so neglected and i make him feel what he does isn;t enough. it sucks. i dont wanna lose him, but i really cant find peace in my heart anyway. i am already away but i still feel like i havent coz im tied to him. i wanna be free...

i have the best bf in the world. he is so kind and wonderful and i've never met anyone like him. he really has a wonderful personality and i adore him. i've never met anyone like him before... i also love his family and his dogs... before we hooked up, i already knew i was going a thirdway accross the world and i left 6months into the relationship. i visited him 2 months after i left and we are now almost on our first year. the thing is it hasn't been smoothsailing. i feel like i can't focus on my life here coz i miss him and think too much about him. meanwhile all he does is party and hang out w people. a few i don't like but he still hangs out w em. i guess i have nothing to worry or feel threatened about. but we really don;t communicate enough as he's always out. and he doesn;t really tell me stories about him. everytime i find out he's done something that i don't know about, i feel sad and hurt. like he doesnt tell me enough or he hides things from me. maybe, i'm just being selfish. but the point is, i love him, but i want to move on already. coz i dont want to be affected anymore by his life or what he does. i dunno why i feel this. am i jealous? left out? i'd rather postpone this relationship but he doesnt want to. but i honestly feel in my heart that i just wanna be away and be by myself and not hear from him or anyone in my past and how great they are etc. i just wanna move on. i can;t do that if we're together. i really want a new life. he may be the best bf but i don't know if i wanna let go... i really get bouts when i just want out and wish i could avoid him until i forget. why am i like this? what do i do?