AntiLove_SuperStar

Well from my own experience, boy or girlfriends solve little. Oh, the potential problems there! Its all about your own perception of, and work on, yourself, unfortunately. If others were the answer life'd be easy.

That is me, yes...wow I checked this thread by pure chance, I can't believe someone left something on here for me! LOL

thank you v much for good words

Hazey Amber is right. I'm smart. And mightily irksome? ho ho

I think you assume that others think about you more than they actually do!

That isn't an insult. It is meant to be a liberating thought.

If he was THAT bad, she wouldnt be with him!

My own guess is she's doing the classic thing of basking in your admiration and sympathy, all the while getting a longterm relationship with her BF.

And lets say he IS a doosh...well, why would you want a woman with bad taste?!

I wish you nothing but the best.

It is your decision, I respect your right to hop off the mortal coil.

I never stand for jerks.

More importantly, I'm starting to not put with people putting up with ME being a jerk. Which is very much an aspect of my own path of maturing...

Holy...No WAY do I smoke pot!

I'm sorry, I cant help but be slightly offended. I am vehemently anti cannabis. I have never, ever smoked it.

I'm not bothered what I have, I just want to feel Alright!

But I thank you for taking the time to reply.

HOORAY! A SANE PERSON!

No-one is worthy of that kind of mental worship and obsession.

Unless he's Jesus - and even then, only if you are a Believer.

Yes, because looking good automatically makes one so happy!

*bangs head against wall*

Me - 5ft 7ins, 36D. Supposedly very hot?

Never - I'm getting nice flattening-surgery soon as I can afford it. I feel her pain.

I admit I didn't get the "now she has a boyfriend" detail.

I'll get shot for saying this, but I'd tell her anyway. It's not an immoral act just to TELL her, providing she breaks up with him IF she reciprocates (people do change).

Um...its obvious that female pornstars are often exploited! I only wanted to cover ALL basses, cos im sure t here are some women who like being in it too!

I have no idea why you havnt tied him up with gaffer tape to a chair.

Waved a sharp implement in his face.

(Its very threatening, and yet obscurely sexual, and as he has an obsession thatll get his attention)

Cut up the phone line, and threaten to do the same to his face.

(But not, as you don't want to be arrested for GBH!)

Then leave?

I swear to the good God that's what I'd do - COMPLETELY wrong, has the world gone MAD?

OMG?

I'm shocking, arn't I?

Assertive, maybe. But honestly - everyone's going to be dead in 100 years or so, nothing ultimately matters in such matters!

No, I refuse meds.

From what I gather, people What Are Built Like Me tend to have recurring problems for many years to come. I'll probably end up on medication - at this rate, most certainly - and I wish to delay that.

Never bother becoming obsessed over anyone.

Ask her how she feels - just figure out what, if anything, you can get going with her, and if it works, excellent. if it doesn't, youll know!

I spent the first 6 months of my dating life being obsessed from distances...since adopting the No Fuss Here I Come method, I've never looked back. It rocks. ;-)

I like Cat Stevens, so kudos for the signature.

Here's why I think you are miserable - you expect too much.

I'm beginning to think that we are raised to "Get XYZ, it'll make you happy". XYZ, of course, being friends and an education, and so forth.

Logically, why SHOULD that make a person happy? It doesn't for you.

Happiness has become a major obsession amoungst many people. It never used to be - it was NEVER seen as something we should *all* aspire to, it was seen as a kind of gift or rare state attained by the fortunate few!

Life IS harsh, life isn't particularly designed to be happy. Im starting to let go of it as a personal goal. Its pretty empty when you analyse it?

Thank you for all your sympathetic and helpful responses.

I do have bizarre moods that are extreme by most peoples' standards, but it varies a lot.

Just venting.

Two nights ago, I was staying at my boyfriend's house. We have been together a long time; him, his house and his cat etc are all comfortable and familiar to me.

I have a history of several whacky mental problems. My last official diagnosis was Bipolar Disorder.

I have had several episodes of psychosis in my life, over the past four years.

Examples:

-I thought I was the next incarnation of Christ

-I was CONVINCED the world would end on a certain day at 6am and made all the necessary preparations etc

-I was utterly convinced that I had died and was in fact just a visitor from the spirit world.

This particular evening was fairly normal. We'd been out for some meal or other, went back to his house, went to bed. Had quite a lot of sex. I have a charmed life in many respects, I admit it.

Then, about 10.30pm, I began hearing droning noises. They sounded rather like very large aeroplanes going over the house. Shortly after, I heard shrieks, followed by the sounds of children screaming.

Then the bombing noises started.

It took me a couple of hours to "come down". I walked all over the house, and would not be pacified. My boyfriend behaved very well; he tried to get me to lie down and watch a movie to distract me, whilst constantly telling me that "There are no noises, Emily. There are no noises, they'll go in a minute. I promise, Im here to look after you".

It was a long time before I believed the world wasn't the site of World War Three.

I kept looking out of the window, except I could hardly bare to, owing to the "inevitable carnage" I'd see...except of course I didn't.

It was HORRIBLE.

Whats the point of my brain doing this? I was lucky to be where I was at the time...even the day after, my boyfriend simply told me the unemotional version and said whilst it was disturbing, it was nothing he couldn't handle.

Stupid BRAIN. I'm right in thinking this was a small psychosis incident, yes? Noises weren't there at all in reality.

Today I got an IQ test back - I do not place UTTER faith in such methods, but its still heartening - I am more intelligent than 91% of the population. Fabulous. Id just like not to hear nonexistent sounds!

If it really bugs you, I'd just quit right now because it won't get any better.

I know, because I am in your girlfriend's position - for the past FOUR years.

Doesn't everyone do it?

I know it doesn't make it right. Far from it...but don't beat yourself up too much. The best you can do now is forgive yourself. You seem to be making a decent attempt at moving on with the counselling etc.

You didn't meet him, so I see no earth-shattering crime - you shouldn't either. Just a wakeup call.

"Life is pointless, packed full of suffering. Sad!"

- Me, horribly twisting Buddhism nearly out of recognition

I know a LOT of people who use...shock, public toilets! (myself included). I've never heard of anyone catching anything.

You cannot escape germs. Germs are everywhere. Your skin is COVERED in bacteria, and as for your gut....billions of lifeforms! Embrace the little organisms!!

I think it depends entirely on your history and context - everyone has a different individual meaning.

For example, one of my best friends always greets me with "hi/hey/hello sexy". He doesn't say this to most people/girls, but we've been friends for...6+ years, ex-boyfriend and girlfriend, I love him and think of him as a brother.

yet, I am faithful in a 1yr + relationship...so it just depends.