coollady1957

I think under the circumstances I would be bothered as well. Something just seems as bit off balance with the whole thing.

I cant figure out why someoone would by chapstick and then laugh about that this was the birthday gift from the both of them, especially after the nice thing you did for her birthday.

Has anything happened between you two that would cause her or them to be acting this way, or are they just two thoughtless people ?

You said this was a long time friend. Just how long has this person been a long time friend ???

You are definitely NOT the only one. Very normal to be that way about the kids.

I can understand a bit how you feel southerngirl.

My late husband is the one I am missing this holiday season and every year since Dec 2003. I usually do pretty well until Thanksgiving and Christmas get closer.

The last Thanksgiving season that he was alive , he and I had taken a vacation that week. Less than 2 weeks later and 3 weeks before Christmas he died suddenly.

He always loved the Fall and Winter time of the year during the holidays. That makes it a very difficult time of year for me and my children.

I am sure you miss your mom very much. I know it is hard not to be sad and have the thoughts of missing her. Just keep the family traditions and keep the things going that you enjoyed with your mom. Keep the fun and happy memories alive. Take care, and I am thinking of you .

I agree with the other posts and feel that you should see a doctor as soon as you can. There are numerous possiblities as to what the source of your pain could possibly be. Get checked !

Thank goodness things are improving for Dani. Hope that she is soon home and recovers nicely. I am sure little Ian must be doing well. All of you are in my thoughts.

I dont know a lot about hypnotism. I have heard of people going to have it done though.

ALS is right though, be sure you are not going to a rip off place.

Certainly sounds like a bladder infection/UTI. I am glad everything seems fine with the pregnancy. Hope you are feeling better.

Ian let us know something as soon as you can. Hopefully today they determined what the ongoing problem is.

I'm just a lurker for the most part, so please excuse my intrusion. .

Applepie, you are not intruding at all. You are as welcome as anyone to post your thoughts on any thread. Coollady1957

she told me that roses are her favorite, but they dont last long...

I have been given roses many times before and to me they seemed to last just as long as any other flowers. I have had roses that lasted up to two weeks and still looked nice. That is just my experience from all these years.

Much of how long they last depends on how freshly cut they are in the beginning and the care given them afterwards.

If you decide not to do roses, there are several different Fall bouquets that you can opt to get instead, that are quite pretty.

I agree that is completely normal to worry about your children like that. My kids are 25 and 20 years old now and I still worry about them as my parents still worry about me and I am 48 years old.

Any loving and caring parent is going to always be concerned about things happening to their children. Its the parental instinct , and I don't really think it can be avoided at all.

I have two close friends that have lost teenage children to car accidents and I honestly do not see how they are going on with their lives. I suppose we some how find the strength to carry on. I sometimes think that if something happened to one of my kids, that I would absolutely go crazy.

I personally like the idea of surprising her. Most girls like that kind of surprise. If I had to pick them out myself it wouldn't be nearly as special. Thats just my personal preference.

Do you know what her favorite flowers are?

Hello delovely68, and welcome to ENA. I am somewhat in the same boat as your mom. I live alone now due to that fact that my husband died in Dec. 2003. I am in the same situation as your mom but just a different way that I turned out alone.

I have a daughter whom is 25 years old and a son that is 20. . In addition to being Mom and daughter/or son.. We are also best friends and confidants. I value their input and opinions on both levels of the relationship.

I am sure your mom , like me, didn't have all these situations and insecurities before the divorce, just as I didn't before I was widowed. Now that your mom is pretty much own her own , it helps to have some one to listen. If you have advice or thoughts, then give them if she asks. If you don't, then do like my kids do. They will frankly say to me " Mom I really don't what to tell you", if they honestly don't know.

There are times when I just need another womans , or even a guys opinion, sometimes I just need a shoulder to cry on or an ear to listen. They don't always have the answers , or maybe don't know what to say at times. Which is fine.

I am sure you mother doesn't expect you to know all the right things to say or opinions to give on each and every thing she speaks to you about. Sometimes just having that person to listen means just as much as anything.

I think you are awesome to listen to your mom and let her vent her questions and thoughts to you on things that involve her new life now. It can be a whole new world out there for people like your mom and myself whom have been left to start over again in life.

I keep checking back hoping to hear good news on Dani's condition. I am saddened to see that things haven't really improved. Dani and all of you are always in my thoughts and prayers.

Ian you are such a trooper through all of this. Keep your head up and stay strong. I feel that things are going to improve soon. take care,,,,,, CL1957

I am also in agreement with the other posts. I really think it would just be asking for trouble if you continue to see him. Even if you are not sleeping with him, I say stay away from him completely would be your best bet.

So many people feed others that line about going to leave their spouses. I would be careful not to fall for those promises and lines.

I am glad to finally see the updates from you but sad to see that things are still not well with Dani. I will certainly keep her , and all of you in my prayers. Please update as you can. We certainly all care very much about what is happening.

This sounds like great advice. It could certainly shed new light on the other persons position , by engaging in this activity.

What is the latest on Dani? Has she made some improvements since little Ians birth ?

Congrats to you PRSOV !! I know you are so happy to have completed your testing. Stay safe up there in the skies .

Yes, no doubt about it. It is definitely cheating in my opinion. I had this exact same thing come up with the now EX. He claimed that in his thoughts kissing another woman was not cheating as long as he didnt have sex with her.

He was one of those that thinks cheating involves ONLY the act of intercouse and he never did understand why I thought it was cheating to kiss another woman while he was suppose to be exclusive with me . He was just trying to cover his base with that thought and assumed I would be dumb enough to agree with him.

uh oh. i thought going out was just going out and dating's got some kind of exclusivity involved.

 

Well that's confusion for you!

Boy that could be confusing . You and I have exact opposite thoughts on it . I am basing my response on how my kids, whom are now age 20 and 25 ,spoke of dating and going out being different. At least that is how it seems to be around where I live.

In my opinion I would take it to mean if you are dating, that you are seeing each other but not yet exclusive.

If someone is " going out" it has probably come to the point of being exclusive and not seeing anyone else. " Going out" I think would be what some of us older folks used to call " going steady" .

I am not sure if this answered your question. Hope so.

Congratulations on the arrival of little Ian. I know you are so excited. Please send well wishes and thoughts Dani's way for me.

I guess from here on out most of the time I should assume that the majority are referring to sexually, on this open minded thing.

Thanks to those of you that responded with your opinions....

to me, it means being aware of the world we live in, tolerance for people who are different, and willing to accept change (of scenery, environment, fortune, etc).

 

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Usually when a guy asks me if I am open minded and adventurous , my replies are along the same thoughts as the above ^ by now-better.

This is how I am . But they always seemed confused by that type answer. Then when I ask them what they deem as open minded and adventurous. 9 times out of 10 they are referring to sexually and not in general.

TheRedQueen

 

"an open minded and adventurous woman" is guyspeak for a woman who is open minded about him having multiple partners and adventurous in the sack.

^ This is kind of the thoughts I have come to the conclusion to so far.

Batya33

 

disrespectful and a clear indication that sex was a priority over getting to know me in all the other ways.

^ My thoughts as well.