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Would you (guys) if a woman gave you her phone number but you never called her. For whatever reason, would you still continue using terms of endearment towards her sweetie, sweetheart etc. Is it just something you say naturally or would you not say this in cas it encourages her I did give him the number he never called (not interested i assume) but he still says nice things to me Comments Please?

Again thank you guys. Yeah he could be dating, he may fancy one of his co workers. Or i should say employees as he's a manager. He could have lost who knows. I'll be going in there tomorrow night so if he's there i'll have some idea on the situation

Thanks for all your replies To clarify. I am a regular customer that i do know and talk to (and on first name terms with a lot of the staff) This includes this gentlemen, he often talks to me when i'm in there and ask how i am, how work is going and so on. Yes he may be attached not sure for certain but he wears no rings have checked though i understand this doesn't mean anything How did he react? not certain as i handed him the note, without telling him what it was he was surprised at that. Play hard to get? Not my thing really don't believe in playing games, whether thats good or bad i don't know, cpc i understand your point i know some guys don't like to be asked out, they rather do the asking. And as up to now he hasn't and because i like him i didn't want to waste weeks, months of my life wondering if he does. At least either way i can carry on with my life

or rather handed him a note with my number on. He works in a restaurant and me as a regular customer has gotten to like him. so on Saturday i did a bold thing. Ok it has been 3 days, no phone call but now i'm not too worried, its his loss. Now i feel i should still go to the restaurant as and when i please. I shouldn't not stop going just because he doesn't like me that way should I? And i'm not going to bother him anymore either. I don't believe in chasing guys around. I gave him a chance, he declined. Game over

Do you think there is any such thing as a free lunch? For example, a man and a woman (me) who are on friendly terms with one another and who have flirted with each other. More like acquaintances than friends. Lets say he is involved with someone else so i don't flirt with him anymore well try not to as i am a friendly person and there is a fine line between the two. He works in a place where i buy a takeaway salad when our works canteen is closed. Yes there are other food outlets but when you only get 45 minutes (or sometimes 30 minutes) for lunch choice is limited as to where you go by the time you queue and all that. Anyway on a few occasions in the past he hasn't taken my money. (He has the authority to do so). This happened again earlier this week, and when the waitress came back with my money i did look over to thank him, and he smiled back at me. I was discussing this thing with a friend and she reckons there is no such thing as a free lunch. What do you think.

LMAO funniest thing i've heard today maybe i could use that if the sitation arises, but just the other way round.

This sounds so familiar What you can do is next time you see her as you are a regular she is bound to recognise you. Smile at her, say hello. You can build up conversations from there till you feel confident to ask her out. When you leave, say bye, or see you or something like that. Over time you'll build up conversations with her, get to know her a bit better little questions here and there, find out subtly if she has someone or not.

Thank you for your replies As for telling the wife, something i couldn't do, mainly because i don't know who she is, he has never mentioned her in his conversations with me. He lives near me i know the street where he lives (not actual house number) as he told me. Likewise he knows more or less where i live Another reason i couldn't tell, is the reason Miss M gives he could easily turn round and say i'm imagining all this. Thankfully i don't work with this man, but we do work near each other and our paths do cross on a regular basis sometimes walking into our workplaces together.

Saw him again the other day. Just general talking in passing. Called me sweetheart as he seems to be doing of late. But shrugged that off, was friendly but did not flirt with him. This is because he is married and i don't want to encourage him. As i was leaving a friend i was with had to use the ladies, so i was on my own briefly packing up my stuff and he walked by and winked at me. Now that's something he has never done before. I had my hands full presents from work and from my friend i was with and he came up to me and put his hand on my shoulder so he was facing me. He wished me a Merry Christmas and off i went. Now was the wink just a guy thing to do because sometimes i have read too much into situations, or is it something i should be worried about

Saw him again the other day. Just general talking in passing. Called me sweetheart as he seems to be doing of late. But shrugged that off, was friendly but did not flirt with him As i was leaving a friend i was with had to use the ladies, so i was on my own briefly packing up my stuff and he walked by and winked at me. Now that's something he has never done before. I had my hands full presents from work and from my friend i was with and he came up to me and put his hand on my shoulder so he was facing me. He wished me a Merry Christmas and off i went. Now was the wink just a guy thing to do because sometimes i have read too much into situations, or is it something i should be worried about.

Thank you once again for all your imput Betty - i'm glad i don't work with this guy, that could of been awful seeing him most days of the week. And working in close proximity with him. And yes i fell hard for him before i realised his status if i had realised earlier it might be so easier to cope with. Hope you are coping too. At the moment i'm ok guess i have to live day by day, and deal with the times we do accidentally meet.

Thank you for your replies Relationship coach That's the thing i'm so confused at the whole incident. I'm hopeless at reading the signs and don't want to confuse friendliness with something else. There have been times when he has done things where i wonder is it coincidence or not We both caught the same train early one morning. I was talking to 2 people i know so he didn't approach me. Got off the train, we both work close to each other, he saw someone he knew so was talking to him. I walked on ahead. I need to check something from my bank account so used the ATM. He was now walking on his own and used the next ATM. I finished before him and walked on ahead. He is a quicker walker than me and soon caught up with me asked me how my run went. Something we talked about when we last talked. Now was it a coincidence that he used an ATM when i did. Or is my imagination going haywire again? Also when he has flirted with me (before i realised he was married he would touch me) and recently this has staryed again when he put his arm round me. Again i think to myself if i'm reading too much into this.

Long story I don't really know how to start But here goes. I go to this eating place, have become a regular customer, and know most of the staff on a casual basis. One of the male members started to be even more friendly with me. first thing i remember him saying to me was that he had seen me on the train. I just couldn't place him at the time. I later learned he lived near me. Anyway on further visits he would tease me and flirt with me, he seemed so likeable that i would flirt back. Sometimes i would see him on the train and on odd occasions we would walk in to our respective work places together. Always asking questions about me, where i worked, where i lived etc. i would ask questions back. One day through the conversations i realised he was married. I was so disappointed i can tell you. But by this time i had truly fallen for him. I've tried not flirting with him (not been easy) but that only encouraged him to flirt more. I've tried distancing myself from him, but at times we do bump into each other he asked if i was avoiding him. He'd even came and sat with me on the train recently and asked if i lived alone. Why would that matter if he's married.