my boyfriend and i recently separated. its very hard, because i felt like he was perfect for me. we had a very open and honest relationship full of mutual respect, understanding, and an infinate amount of love. we had the type of relationship that ive been looking for for quite some time. and then i got a phone call. he said hes not ready for commitment, that he wants space. that hes attracted to other women, and wants the ability to act on those attractions. that he doesnt want me, or him, to make decisions that may adversely affect our lives because of the other person (like relocating, etc).
so, heres where im confused. our relationship is virtually the same. we live in different cities, but he still calls me. last night we spoke for 4.5 hours, about everything. our relationship, or lives, etc. anyhow, he is so confusing. he wants to be "good friends, more than friends" but he still wants to have his freedom. the part that throws me through a loop is this: we have an awesome connection, have from the beginning. we still can enjoy the other.
what is going on? this makes me so confused. i still think we are perfect for each other, that he is closing his eyes off to this because he isnt ready. but, when he is ready, will he come to me? or to another woman?
any help, advice, suggestions? please...