OK, so its been 4 months and sometimes it feels like I'm through the worst, and other times I've no idea how to pull through (and feel guilty for still moping after all this time)
So here goes my sob story
Been with a guy for 5 years and it had been on the rocks for the last few months (on my part as well as his but I thought we'd work something out eventuallly or at least break up relatively smoothly)
Last week of April discovered he's been cheating on me for a week, got dumped and thrown out of our ex appartment (that we co-rented !!). He tried to make out that my self esteem problems had ruined the relationship and that he turned to her for 'affection'.
Turns out (this is stuff that came out later ) that he spent the whole of May wondering wether to go back to me or get with this other girl. I was unaware of all this and thought he just wanted to break up smoothly as I did.
Turns out that he chose to go out with her from mid June onwards. He lied to me by saying that he was still single for a couple of weeks and then that he was seeing another girl (not her) 'casually', which pissed me off but I thought, hey I can live with that . Meanwhile, a couple of friends who still see both of us (separately of course) knew all about this and lied too 'so as not to hurt my feelings' (ie he'd talked them round the time it took me to move all my stuff out as he didn't want any harm done to his possessions).
Mid August I managed to work all this out for myself (after months of 'where did I go wrong ?' chest beating and self analysis) and confronted one of said firends who admitted it was all true.
Obviously I have my good days and bad days, but I feel that barring physical abuse, this is just about the worst thing that can happen to anyone in a relationship. I try and hang on to whatever I can but 'bad luck' and 'he's a jerk' isn't really much comfort.
Got to the stage where i can function normally on a daily basis but how do people get through this kind of thing on a more long term basis ?