thankyou everyone for your advice. But the reason it came to this was b/c we had talked several times and i just wasnt getting thru to him. Like i said we have been together for 4 years i tell him anything and everything, im not afraid to talk to him. He would not leave me for those who said so. Like I've said before we have a baby,house,cars,dog and not to mention Im the only girl he has ever been with ...(we started dating back in highschool) We actually did have sex and It was one of the best nights we have ever had he was great did things he normally wouldnt do ..(try) and I went outside of my comfort box to. So just withholding it from him for 6 days really did make a difference. We still didnt quit make love just due to the simple fact my mom and little sister are living w/ me right now (only temporaily). But I think that was part of our problem to just having my family here. But once again for all your advice w/o i probably wouldnt of given in and had one of the best nights ever!!