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This is something that i've always wondered myself. Although i can say that for whatever reason i have never been with a guy my age. It's not that i've never been attracted to them, it's just that an older man is more experienced, he's more secure with himself and able to accept responsibility. When i was in high school as a freshman i was always chasing the hot junior or senior guys. As I got older that never changed. Now i'm 21 and in my third year of college and i'm still chasing that older guy. Maybe for girls it's that dad kind of thing that's appealing. we want someone that we feel like can take care of us. By going for the older man we feel protected and in turn it makes us feel like we'll be taken care of. That's what i get out of it anyway. Younger guys are too immature and always worried about who they're going to screw next, whereas an older man seems more ready to commit himself to you. lisa

Well i have to agree with bobsmith on this one to a certain degree. Yes it does seem that you need to over come this shyness thing, but it is easier said then done. Me for example, i was pretty quiet in high school, especially when i'm around a bunch of people that i don't know. But when i'm in a group with friends or at least aquaintances i have no fear about me it seems. I'll do just about anything when it comes to talking to people i don't know. After high school i really came out of my shell. I just got tired of always being the 'quiet girl' around new people. The way i did this was to think of one thing. What's the worst thing that can happen? Really what it the worst thing. So you talk to a guy and he has no interest in you...well what's he going to do? He's going to turn his back on you and you've lost nothing or he's going to be friendly toward you and you've gained a new friend....a new friend that has other guy friends looking for a girlfriend. So see, getting over your shyness isn't something that's impossible. Start small and get out there. Go to the grocery store and make a comment to the person standing in front of you in that mile long line. Make a joke, smile a the guy walking down the street. And if you get nervous or scared just think 'what's the worst thing that can happen.' Guys are people too. Everyone in the world is exactly the same as you...no better and no worse. We all go through the same thing and feel the same way. it's just that some are better at putting on the front that they're really confident and some aren't. And that's what guys, and girls for that matter, like. We're attracted to ppl that are confident and comfortable with themselves. So look in the mirror and see how beautiful you are and get out there and share that attitude with everyone else. I mean don't be cocky but confident that you can do anything you set your mind to. that's what makes ppl attractive. it's more than looks. A really outgoing somewhat shy girl with confidence will always win over a really beautiful girl with an ugly attitude. hope this sheds some light for you i know that you can do it.... from a former shy girl to another good luck lisa 8)

Exactly... do what feels natural, but don't go over the top. It should be soft and gentle. Thinking back on it i stick to softly on the lips at first and then maybe open your mouth SLIGHTLY. Tongue could work depending how well it goes, but i'd keep it at a minimum. Girls don't like a lot of tongue. We do like to be able to breath now and again

You have a real problem with sticking your foot in your mouth. Girls are actually really really sensitive, and even when we say it's alright it's usually not. Actually, almost everytime we say 'it's alright' or 'i don't care' or the worse of all 'whatever it doesn't matter' we mean the exact opposite of what we're saying. I know it sounds stupid, but we say these things just so that we can avoid saying anything to you that we will regret. We're very self conscious about EVERYTHING. So basically what i'm saying is step back and think about how you would feel if your girl seemed really unimpressed with your house, or said that you had pimples. As a rule of thumb STOP and THINK before you say ANYTHING. I'm not trying to sound rude, i'm just trying to get the point accross. To make your girl feel better, just talk to her and tell her exactly how you feel about her. Let her know that she's so special to you and you'd never do anything to hurt her. And most importantly tell her that you're sorry (and really mean it). It's the only way. We just want to feel like we're special to you, so show us that we are. hope it helps Lisa