I work for the same company as this gentleman.
We've seen each other and have always said Good Morning or Good Bye.
We were seated next to each other at a retirement luncheon and we hit it off right away.
We found out we had so many things in common (likes and dislikes) and we both have the same type of humor.
Soon we began speaking on a daily basis -- him dropping by my office to say hello or me dropping by his office to say hello.
Within a month we exchanged cell phone nos., im ids and home telephone numbers.
So we started communicating outside of work everyday and even on the weekends.
Our conversations were always innocent -- what are you doing for the weekend, what did you cook for dinner, how is your wife feeling, did your husband like the game......just simple conversation.
A couple of months ago we were discussing a fellow employee who got reprimanded for forwarding email containing sexual content. Because of the line of conversation, we started to converse about sex for the first time.
Nothing raunchy -- just some matter of fact information concerning our spouses.
I explained to him about my husband having numerous ailments including diabetes, gout, asthma and high blood pressure. All of the medications he takes has affected his ability to maintain and/or obtain an erection. His doctor will not prescribe viagara or ciallis due to his high blood pressure. So I have been going without sex for about 3 years and I'm fine about it.
I already knew about his wife's rheumatoid arthritis condition. He was instrumental in getting our company to make donations to the Arthritis Foundation and he spearheaded a drive for volunteers to assist with some kind of activity that they had.
He told me that it's concentrated in most of the joints in her lower extremities, hips, lower back, knees, ankles. It makes it very painful for her to have sexual relations so he has been going without any sex for about 2 years and for the most part he is okay with it and understands that it is painful for her.
That was the end of the discussion until a few weeks ago.
He comes up to me and says that we need to talk. So we went on a break and got some coffee.
He told me that he's been thinking about me.....really thinking about me. He said that he is afraid of his thoughts.
I told him if you're thinking about me sexually, then you're not the only because I am having those same thoughts too.
He said it's much more than just sex. He wants to make love to me, cuddle and hold me. Just to walk holding my hand and conversing. To experience all things great and new that life has to offer with me.
Nothing has transpired other than talking. We haven't even hugged or kissed yet althought we have had many opportunities to do so.
He knows that his wife is his soul mate.
I know my husband is my soul mate.
But at the same time, we both feel like we are each others soul mate.
We want to know:
* Is it possible to be in love with two people at the same time?
Do we follow our hearts or what's in our brain.....
Help!