Willowgirl55

Volunteering is the BEST way to meet people with the same interests as yours. Plus you are giving back to the community, which in turn will make you feel better AND possibly produce a new friend! .

Oh so very sorry, I have known other owners with similar problems with their babies. I don't know what causes it. Sounds like this baby is in good hands with you and has a wonderful life thanks to you. You are doing the best that you can please know that. I have lost so many kitties of my own over the years, and each one had different health issues. Its so hard.

Money can buy happiness do a degree, but you will still feel like you are "empty". Its not the KEY to happiness though. Do what you love and the rest will follow. You owe it to yourself. Don't worry about what's down the road, make yourself happy right now. The right woman will come along and love you for the person who you ARE and not what you make. 🙂 Staying in a career that you don't love doing will drain you and rob you of your precious time. Time over money, you can always get more money but you can never get more time.

Completely and utterly hopeless. The world is a place I hardly recognize any more. Every day its a new version of hell. All we can do is try and be kind to each other and more tolerant and do our best to be good people.

Yikes, I wouldn't push the moving in issue. This obviously wont work for you and that is ok. You are two different people with different needs. I would keep separate residences for now. And if you decide to have her move in, please note that dogs shouldn't be kept outside. The other person recommending you to keep the dogs OUTSIDE is not good advice. They are not meant to live outside under any circumstances.

My partner has a college degree, and a fabulous career. We have been together for 6 years. When I met him I had a really good job making pretty good money (enough to be self sufficient). The job at the time starting causing me anxiety attacks so I had to quit. I landed another job within a couple weeks and worked there for 3 years. Along came the pandemic and the company was taking a big hit financially. So I decided it was too unstable and I quit to find more rewarding work. I decided I wanted to be a Caregiver. I have spent most of my life working Customer Service jobs and I had enough. I have always wanted to work with Seniors and love spending time with them any chance I could get. So I took this job at a home care agency. My partner supported me greatly and said it will all be ok. Sadly Caregivers make HORRIBLE money, so I also have another part time job as a Pet Sitter. My paychecks are NO where near what I use to make working full time but I am so much happier. I make enough to pay my half of the bills (including my mortgage) and thats it. Anyway, my partner is a Mechanical Engineer and makes pretty darned good money. We split the bills and in addition to his half, he insists on paying for things like vacations and dinners and shows out. Usually I don't mind, but sometimes it bothers me and I feel stupid that I can't afford to pay for our vacations and such. He keeps telling me that he WANTS to do this and that I pay enough for things. Why do I feel so weird about it? Sometimes I like to buy dinner when we go out. He doesn't always let me and knows I don't make much. I am kind of freaking out lately as we need a major home improvement repair (roof) and I have no $$ saved to get it done. I have been able to pay for repairs in the past but I can't do it this time. I feel really crappy that I am so unstable financially and he is not. I have NOTHING saved as I cashed out everything I had (401k)to buy my house back in 2007. And my house is the only thing I own. I am afraid he is going to leave me when he realizes that I literally have NO money. I think he has a pretty good idea that I make so little, and keeps telling me that "we are OK" when it comes to paying for major things. I feel so crappy about this. And I feel like such a loser. Also, we do not share bank accounts. He has his and I have mine. I have no idea what he has, nor does he of mine. I am embarrassed that I live paycheck to paycheck and he is able to save for retirement (he told me how much he has saved for "our retirement "and I was amazed). He has offered to pay all of the bills to which I said no. I need to feel like I am paying my share as I have always been self sufficient. I'm just so embarrassed and I avoid discussing financial things with him as I am afraid that he will learn that I have nothing. Am I over reacting? I feel like such a loser. Thank you for listening.