justinid

dn wrote "Did she give a reason as to why she does not want you to have sex with anybody else?" She does not feel I should because, she thinks that she can go without it now. Also, my dating would not have been an issue, save of course, I am with someone that was getting serious and at that time, and she was not, she still maintains that her and her exes are just friends now, but do I trust her no. I believe that she feels because lesbians can not be married, at least her in CA, that what she is doing, does nothing to upset the bound of mattrimony, but me having sex with another woman would....I know what the F@#k, this has be a couple of roller coaster ride years. She said that it is different for her, she claims that she if she could take a pill to make her lesbian feeling go away she would, she also states that she does not think she could be comfortable having sex with me.

If after 5 months she has so many flaws to discover, one of two things, either you are completely flawed or she is too critical, if you are flawed fix it, but not for her do for you. If she is just to critical, get off the sinking ship.

Hello all, thank you for your responses in advance. Two and a half years ago my wife revealed that she is gay, since that time she has been in two other relationships. I am not a part of them or any sexual relationship with her, but feel I should stay married for stability for the kids (3 and 9) I recently started dating, my wife quickly informed me that I better not have sex, although she has with each of her two girl friends, we even had her first girlfriend as a roomate for 8 months, they were in one room and I was in another, prior to that they were in an apartment together for six months. My real question is about the kids, my present love interest is sick of the drama, but I feel that I need to do what is best for my kids. Everything I read talks about how it is better to have both parents in the same household. My wife and I are great friends, always have been, but am I showing the kids "how to" or "how not to" have a healthly relationship. Please help, I feel like I need to make a final decision soon, one way or the other, and just have to be happy with my decision and get on with living, the decision, to me, feels like I am having to chose between my own happiness and my children's happpiness.