KrisStreetKin

hey man, your story seems so similar to mine that it's scary. my girlfriend suggested that we break becasuse she thought we were getting too deep with our feelings (even though they were real feelings) and after splitting she seemed to move on very quickly to talking about other guys even though she said she didn't want to be in a relationship. i don't understand how she can have lost all her feeling for me even though the only thing that really changed is that we aren't together, we still talk and make plans to hang out. can you give me some input on this?

i don't understand something and i've been going crazy thinking about it. how do you lose your feelings for someone if nothing has changed? i recently broke up with my girlfriend and it seems like she is completely over me and i'm no more then a friend. we broke up because she thought we were getting too serious but she said she loved me and loved being with me and was really happy with me. so my question is, since we broke up over her thinking we were getting too serious, how did she lose all of the feelings she had before for me even though we still talk and nothin has really changed other then the fact that we aren't together?

ya that makes some sense and at first she only wanted a "break" but now it seems that we're friends and that's not gonna change. thanks for the input

actually we never had a chance to have sex although we were together a while. and we know eachother pretty well as we were friends for about 4 months before we started going out and we talked everyday for hours. and she doesn't want to take things slowly if she ended the relationship completely. we are just friends now and i think i can handle it ok but i'm just confused about it. thank you for your input any is good

about 3 weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me for strange reasons; she said she still loved me and was really happy with me but she thought we were moving too fast with our feelings. i asked her if she really had those feelings and she said yes, how is it moving too fast if the feelings are actually there? if she loved me and was ahppy with me why would she want to break up? i'm really confused and it's hard on me so any input would help. thanks

From what you say it seems like she likes you as a friend and possibly more, if you could talk so easily and end up fooling around it would seem that she probably likes you. i'm going to go out on a limb with this one because in all honesty it might not turn out the way you might like it to; you should either directly or indirectly find out how she feels about you and go from there. i'm really sorry i couldn't be of more help as i too am not too experienced with this sort of thing. hope it's of some help.

Ya man i'll see if i can help you out, and we do talk openly about a lot of stuff, i do consider her a really good friend and even told her that. She told me after we broke up that we are FWB (friends With Benefits hahaha) but i told her tonight that i couldn't do that. with her it's either we're really good friends or dating, i'm not having sex with her unless we're dating because i don't think i could do it without wanting to become more involved. But ya man i'll try to help you out if i can. Thanks

Thanks man, it does sound similar, I don't know about your girl but mine isn't acting distant and I can only assume how she feels from what we talk about. I want to ask her how she feels about me now but I don't want to get into it with her after we just started talkin like we used to recently. Like I said she got distant after all the bad things happened to her but now we talk like we used to. But the way we talk now is more like we have an understanding that we probably won't get back together. I don't know if she knows I want to get back together and I don't know how she feels about me anymore but I am waiting to ask her in person because I don't want to do it over the internet. As for your girl, i don't know what she tells you she really feels but it does sound like she might be toying with you.

I am truly grateful for your input, but for 1 she told me she was happy with me and for 3 I believe she wouldn't lie, there was only one time she lied to me and it was insignificant. She lied about something when we first met and it wasn't important but even so one night she broke down crying and told me that she once lied to me. So either she is a very good actress or i can trust her. That leaves 2 which is exactly what she told me for the break up and i agree, I don't know how it is possible. Thanks again, any input is appreciated, can anyone else help me?

Ok this is pretty long but I really need advice so bare with me, it may seem like I'm rambling and I may be but please I need help. I met this girl at a pow wow (I'm native) last summer and she gave me her e-mail. We start talking on the Internet all the time; she lives an hour and a half away. We talked all the time and ended up getting really close and every once in a while I'd see her because she lives in a city where I go to shop every once in a while. On new years she comes to my party and we kiss after the countdown...very romantic stuff hahahah. Even before that weekend we talked like we are in a relationship but we say we're just friends because I didn't really want a long distance. But after a while I realized that I was already in an unofficial relationship with her and I didn't want another girl other then her so I just asked her out and we were together until about 3 weeks ago, fell in love and were perfectly happy. Then a series of thing happened...first I saw her on Friday, then the next day she went to see her friend and that went bad she was pissed off about stuff that night, then the next day 2 of her friends died in a fire So for the next week she is, of course, sad and I even skip school on day to go see her because I believe if you're in a relationship you should be there for the really bad times too. But the next week we start having odd conversations like we were drifting apart; not talking the way we used to. Tuesday of that week we start a talk about how talking on the internet is harder because you don't hear or see expression and she starts talking how she agrees and it's getting hard but I have to leave so we say we'll continue the conversation the next day. Wednesday, at school I'm distant to everyone and everyone knows there is something wrong with me but I won't tell them so I just have a bad day. When I get home I talk to her and she starts talking about taking a break for the summer because she travels all over and we wouldn't see each other. After me coming up with a few ideas that would work to let us see each other and her saying no to all of them, she finally comes out and just says she doesn't want a boyfriend for now. I try and understand why but she has no answers and I end up getting frustrated and saying something I didn't mean, huge fight and we broke up over that. But I felt terrible because I didn't mean it so I talk to her and after another day she forgives me and after all this tells me the real reason she wants to break. She thought we were getting too serious and that we moved too quickly with our feelings, that's when I asked her if they were the feelings she actually felt and she said yes even further confusing me; if that's the feelings you're having how is it moving too fast and why break if you're happy? But in the end I agreed to the break thinking I could handle it if that's what she wanted. But now ever since we broke it's been extremely hard on me, I don't sleep as well, I'm falling behind in school, and I can't get my mind off of her. We still talk all the time because we're still good friends and I recently learned that she is much more sexually experienced then me (in 3 months we never had sex…no chance to, parents always around hahaha), this information was daunting to say the least but I still want to be with her. I don't tell her this because she seems to be over it, she's ready to see other people, not for relationships because she still doesn't want a serious relationship, but I still love her and I don't know what to do; it's almost been a month and I thought I'd be fine by now but I'm not. For anyone who read this far I thank you, someone please help me, the people I've asked have only told me things I already know, I now turn to anyone willing to help. If she loved me and was happy being with me then why did she want to break? This is interfering with my schoolwork and life and I don't know what to do, why can't I get over her?