whatwentwrong

you can NEVER fix a relationship/or problem by going outside the marriage. Who said that ? the bald guy on tv, dr. something. phil maybe. but it is true, suppose you found out why your wife was not interested in sex with you was because she was screwing someone else??? I found out about my dad's affair 5 years after he died, i was in my 20's, I now have no respect for him, do you want your kids to feel the same way ? especially if you're still alive. My wife's affair has devastated me, it's not fun, so as justified as you think you maybe, it was wrong, end the relationship, then screw all you want.

yes, it has been very hard, been 7 months since i found out, try reading the book After the Affair , its on link removed, it was very helpful.

hello i'm new here my question is how did you find out about the affair ? My wife had been on vacation in late August, I had suspected something wasn't right when she came home, so i bought a phone recorder, I would strongly suggest this to anyone with a suspicion, I found out about the affair the day after i bought it, and got her talking to him about 3 weeks later, she was visiting her family, her sister just laughed about it and thought i deserved it, boy that hurt bad, when i confronted her about a week after the conversation with him, she denied it, and denied it to the end, the fight went on for 3 hours, finally i played the conversation for her and she collapsed, i dont know what i'm going to do, I don't know what was worse really the affair or the lying to me, like she looked me right in the eye and denied it. Very confused now, and not sure what will happen, it's been 7 months, did the counselling, tried to piece things back, but its not working. She doesn't want to talk about it anymore, and i need to talk, so this is causing problems. Sorry to ramble, will continue this story later. thanks for listening. Any questions feel free to ask.