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sounds to me like shes playing games. i would start dating someone else and see how she reacts. cause i honestly believe she doing all this cause she knows you'll jump at any chance to see her.

i'm actually going through this right now. my gf well technically ex-gf cause we broke up the other day, the same day she found out her dad had no more than a week to live. its rough, the only positive part is i'm good friends with her brother and i've talked to her mother. she unfortuately hasn't made any attempt to contact me since the breakup to let me know what is going on, which is kind of surprising, although her brother said give her a couple days. shes not taking this well although if you saw her you would never know. she has been pretty emotionless about all this, even going so far as to push me away. i've lost a parent myself so i know how hard it can be, just try to be patient i know i am and its hard as hell cause all you want to do is call and talk to them and comfort them and let them know it'll be alright. but it still tears you up inside knowing you can't do anything more than be supportive.

do you guys think she will eventually call me and talk to me about her dad? reason i'm asking is cause all the information i've gotten so far was from her brother and her mother. i mean this hurts so much on top of losing our relationship and me having to sit here and deal with this alone. and the added emotion of knowing her dad is gonna be dead very soon and there is nothing i can do cause i wont' contact her because i dont' want to interfere but unfortunately i have become very close with her family thats why they are all taking our breakup as a surprise. the only thing i have done is i sent a text message telling her that i'm here for her anytime she needs me. my emotional state is not helping any. i want to talk to her so bad and just know from her that shes doing ok and that shes holding up emotionallly. its really killing me. and i dont know what to do.

yeah and just found out today that her dad was given about a week maybe a bit more. now i know exaclty why this is happening and now i feel selfish.

no i know this thats what i was asking what i can do to help. i lost my own mother to terminal cancer so i know what shes dealing with. its just hard for me cause i have a father who is also not dying of cancer but slowly dying himself. and the last thing i want is for us to not talk or be apart. i'm gonna head over to talk to her brother today as it is cause i need speakers for my car and to see if he thinks i should still go to the hospital today to be a witness for the notary public, cuase her father is giving her power of attorney. im' just so confused and hurt cuase when i went through this i pulled people to me not pushed them away, and seeing it from a different perspective even though you've been through it i still have a hard time reacting to her sometimes cause the normal reaction taht you've been used to your entire life isn't the right reaction. and when theres feelings involved it makes it worse.

ok heres my story. i've been dating this girl for about 5 months now. i know its not a long time but i've never found anyone like her in my entire life. about 2 months ago or so her father was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer. ever since then she has become slightly distanced from me but not really. we still saw each other almost everyday and talked like 2 or 3 times a day. well during this whole time she has become very argumentative and extremely moody and as a result we would have stupid arguments. but all along we have dealt with it and moved on. well last night we had a bad argument over her going out to dinner with one of her female friends because i personally hate the girl and think she is not worth my gf's time. she has done nothing but lie to her about the stupidest stuff, such as claiming she was in college when she was really still in hs and stupid stuff like that. to top it off i work 3rd shift and hadn't slept at all the entire day so i was moody as hell and in a bad mood so taht didn't help any. well she ended up goin with her anyways and as she was leaving her house (i was sleeping there) i ran out to her car and asked if we could talk cause i wanted to apologize for what i had said becuase i was completely out of line and had no right saying what i did. she told me to calm down, start acting normal, and go get some sleep, and we would talk later. well still couldn't sleep so i went to work and while was at work bought her a dozen white roses to hopefully smooth things over. i went back to her place and hung out with her brother until she got back from seeing her father in the hospital. when she got back i go downstairs to talk to her and she said nothing to me. her brother came down into the kitchen to get something and talk to his sister and she seemed like she was in a bad mood even when she talked to her brother. well after her brother went back upstairs i tried to talk to her a little bit and she continued to stay silent and then chimes in with this isn't working for me and then starts to tell me that shes felt this way for a little while and what not. which i found to be complete bs cause we were making plans earlier that day for tomorrow and next week. so i walk away cause i'm completely floored about what she had just said so i go upstairs to go to the bathroom and pass her brother, who i told what just happpened, he looked at me like wtf, cause he didn't understand what his sisters problem was. he tries to talk to her with no avail and she still stays in her nasty mood and says to me after he leaves that she isnt' happy and that we fight all the time and taht she has no time or patience to deal with it. she finally goes upstairs and i go and talk to her brother briefly and ask him to get my stuff out of her room and he's like dude i've never seen her like this i don't know what the hell she's doing. so he tries to reason with her again still nothing. so i grab all my stuff and leave and go punch out from work and come back cause i had to ask her brother about some speakers and also to see if she said anything to him. she answers the door flipping out calling me psycho and just saying some really mean stuff. so i talk to her brother briefly and tell him i'll meet him at his stereo shop tomorrow and tlak to me. well i go home and sit aroudn there for about an hour and a half talking to my sister and her husband bout what happened and they both tell me its cuase her dad is dying and just leave her be and she will be back. so i try to call her like around 11, all this happened around 9, and she answers the phone and tells me she's sleeping and that she will call me tomorrow and we will talk. now to give some info on her state of mind concerning her father. her father speaks very little english and she has spent pretty much every waking hour with her father at the hospital becuase he is terminal and i do understand that. and unfortunately she is taking on alot of responsibility because her father only wants her to handle his affairs and only wants her around, no one else. so now my question is do you all think this relationship is salvagable? any input is appreciated. also if it makes any difference in your responses her brother had been telling me before she came back that he can see me and her getting married and he has never seen his parents so happy about any guy she has ever dated except for me.