butterflycloud

I see a lot of people have responded to you but Id like to have my say.... I am a woman who divorced my husband- and I regret doing it!! Maybe you can see your wife in me. This is my story..... When I told my husband I wanted a divorce I was really crying out for help. I wanted him to know that I wasnt happy and that we couldnt go on fighting like we had been- I wanted him to see that I was desperate!! I never really wanted to get divorrced. Welanded up getting the divorce because he never really fought it and I thought that if he wasnt prepared to fight for me that he probably didnt care if we got divorce. Or it was his ego that stopped him from asking me not to go. I also had a lot of outside influence that kept on telling me that I deserved better and that he wasnt good for me- that also swayed me to believe that a divorce was the right thing to do. So in a way I was 'brainwashed' by other people telling me what to do. I shouldnt have listened to them- I should have followed my own heart and given myself more time to think about it- I was too rushed. So what Im trying to say is that maybe your wife is really giving you a desperate cry out for help. Perhaps she feels that she has had enough. Shre may be saying that she doesnt want councilling right now cause she is mad. She maybe feeling taht you have left the problems too late and that only now do you want to try and sort them out. Leave her alone for a while...respect where she is coming from. Tell her taht you will give her space. Tell her taht you know things arent perfect and that the two of you should have sought help a long time ago. Make sure that she knows how much you dont want to loose her!! Good -luck...thinking of you! Ask the angels to be with you and your wife right now. They cant change things but they can bring clarity...

Hi hope Thanks for the advice. Mt ex hates my mom cause he has always fekt intimidated by her. My mom has supported myself and my husband in many ways and I think that my ex despises that cause she was doing what he as a husband should have done- ie supported the family. He earned a lot of money but spent it all on a fancy car and a motorbike. I paid for all our son's expenses and all the household stuff and I only earned half of what he earned!! Sometimes I want to get back together with him cause I miss him but at other times I dont and I just experience an overwhelming sense of disappointment. Disappointment that the 'perfect' marriage didnt work and embarresment that Im so young and already divorced!

I recently got divorced. I got divorced for my son's sake. My husband was abad dad and we fought a lot- had different cultures which made things hard. My mom also pressurised me into the divorce so at the end of the day I did it for my son and my mom. My heart still loves the ex....The ex and my son have established a good relationship now and I wonder if I did the wrong thing by getting the divorce. I feel so sad and so lonely. I know I should wait for the ex to come back to us but I know that his ego would never allow for that, which is supposidly an indication of how he really feels about me? He didnt want the divorce but he never tried to stop it either. He hates my mom and says he'd only ever come back if I let my mom go. I know that if we got back together that not all would be resolved but I just miss him so much, and I would hate for my son to grow up without a dad if he didnt have to.We had really good times together and Im just not sure that we should have got divorced...perhaps we should have just separated for a while. If we got back together I know that I would loose my mom, and I dont want that to happen. Is this just a stage Im going through?I just cant seem to imagine going our separate ways. I was fine in the beginning but now Im having all sorts of regrets. What are the grounds for getting back together? Im new and really would appreciate the help! Thanks!