minute_perception

Thank you! He first messaged me in April but officially spoke more in the last month I guess.

He's 27 and I'm 26.

Definitely not married, do not think a relationship either.

He had been following me on Instagram for a while and noticed I put up a story about a loved one and euthanasia and he reached out with a nice message and it went from there. Having been speaking for a few weeks, we ended up going out for dinner. Had very good chats, seems like a really lovely guy and nothing sexual. We also agreed on a lot things; he spoke about family and he said his sisters boyfriend never takes initiative, for example doesn't help out in the kitchen and we both agreed that if it was us, we would be doing that. The odd compliment, but in good taste. For example telling me that I looked beautiful in a particular dress on Instagram and him saying he wishes I wear that to his birthday. Some cute messages to each other, like him sending me photos of what he does for work and him telling me that he often thinks about me. He picked me up from my house and before he got to mine, he texted me saying would I like him to meet my parents or just pick me up. Nice offer. He paid for dinner and it went really well in terms of chats, felt like a really caring and respectful guy, talked about family and all those nice things. He dropped me home and did not indicate anything about going back to his which was good. When we got back to my house to drop me home, my mother was just coming home and he waited and said hello to her. He then said she was lovely. I could tell he wanted to kiss as he sort of just kept looking at me, I said something and then we kissed. Honestly was quite slow and passionate. He asked if I would like to see him again and said yes. He has offered breakfast and study dates before previously. He told me that an ex-girlfriend he had years ago was quite toxic and they argued a lot, I asked him in what way and he told me that they had different opinions on aborting a certain child for specific issues, I told him that I agreed with his point and that was good. He dropped me home and did not indicate anything about going back to his which was good. He asked if I would like to do this again and I said yes. When we got back to my house to drop me home, my mother was just coming home and he waited and said hello to her. He then said she was lovely. I could tell he wanted to kiss as he sort of just kept looking at me, I said something and then we kissed. He messaged me a few hours later thanking me, kept in on and off-contact for the week, he told me he was tired but good. He asked about my plans for the weekend and I did the same, he is very busy and works in the medical field. He hasn't mentioned anything about catching up again. Our date was last Sunday. Good signs? It does finally feel great to be with someone that you just feel you could be compatible with and see them as a long term partner, irrespective of how things pan out. Things also feel easy and relaxed. **TL;DR** nothing indicates that he doesn't want a relationship. Only concern is that we still communicate via Instagram DM (perhaps out of habit).

Hope makes the world go round and without it, I think life would be a pretty sacrilegious sort of place. My ex and I broke up 8 months ago, he's offered and is happy for us to catch up and talk but that is it. He said he still likes/misses me all the time and thinks of me all of the time but isn't interested in trying at the relationship, which I do agree about. I have sent him numerous long, sad texts since the break up which I *do* regret but there has been immense hurt, that I have personally felt. When we have spoken on the phone, he does express doubt of the decision he made from time to time. For the first time in a while, I noticed he was looking at an Instagram story of mine even though we have unfollowed each other. We agreed that if we ever do revisit our relationship, it is once we are in a better place. I'm unsure if this is remotely positive or am I being unrealistic? I know I must move on; things feel bleak at times. I have been on dates since but I have not been intimate with anyone since (out of personal choice), and have little plans to do so, but I worry I may be living my life in hopes of something that is unlikely to occur (with him). I realise this time will have to come in due course.