lemonlovechild

My boyfriend and I have been together almost three years. It was a great time and we got along great, but we live around 1200 miles apart now. I'm going off to college in the fall, and he is staying there. He has severe separation anxiety. Before we were together, he was on the verge of suicide. Because of me, he decided it wasn't worth it and got a job and enrolled in school. He was doing well for some time. Unfortunately, he was very subtly manipulative, childish, and did anything he could to make me give in to what he wanted. For these reasons with me going off to school plus the fact we just began growing apart, I decided it was time to break it off. I tried NC for some time, but the phone calls kept coming, and my family eventually begged me to talk to him. For their sake, I did. That was a mistake. I've explained how I feel in so many different ways, but he keeps saying "I don't understand, I don't get it, what did I do," etc. I don't know how to stop this any other way without him going off and impulsively doing something to hurt himself. Help?

I regularly have that sort of longing to be pregnant. It's something I've gotten used to, but nothing I've really pursued. I know when my partner and I are ready it'll be wonderful.

Seven years ago, I met my best friend in a chat room. Five and a half years passed with the typical friendship ups and downs, and eventually we found ourselves growing even more attached to one another. We decided to let these attachments develop into a relationship, and five months and 1200 miles later we met for the first time in person. He was always very glad to be in the relationship as was I, despite the fact that visits were few and far in between at that point. I finally got to go up there to visit him (I'm 17, he's 20) and I expressed just how nice it was there. From that point on, he hasn't let me go about me being there. I loved it there, but I wouldn't be able to live there with him for another year or two. I suppose I should mention he wants more than anything to finish his schooling, get married, and start a family. I want it too, but I want to finish high school first. He's entering a new stage in life, and I'm in the middle of one. I suppose I should also mention he has severe separation anxiety, which makes things even more complicated. I don't know what to do. I have expressed to him endlessly that I want to be with him more than anything, but he continually doubts me and my plans to go to school there. I brought up the option of moving somewhere else entirely, neither here nor there, but he can't deal with the idea. He wants to stay at home, and though I don't want to stay here, I could never afford to go to school there, as a non-resident. He will never admit it, but he NEEDS physical love. If he can't feel me, it is sub-par love. I can't make anything better right now for him, but he continually begs me to make it better. I love him dearly and I want to make him happy, but there's nothing I can do at this point in time. How can we work through this without losing the relationship beyond repair?