mavrick

*grin* -- I feel the damn same as you do. People around me (my fds) are changing, and worrying more about clothes (although never used to do it). I think this is just a teenage feeling when we feel and see our past and see our elders etc..

I have known a few people who are scorpions -- but unlike you they all are boys. What i found on them was they all were very boasting (though the fact was that from the inside they somehow felt that it was not true)... they always thought they could do anything they wanted --- only if they just had wished for that . Thats all... may or may not help.. but thats all i know.

I was wondering whether I should call my gfs new fd on his phone asking him to meet me ( -->>my gf is out of the station Dont worry I wont call right away... i was just Wondering .

Thanks again. Yesterday I had called went up to her place (as already mentioned above) and had called her in the evening. The evening conversation I said that i needed to talk about US , she asked me what is the thing >> So basically i asked her how she would want me to feel when she talks to that boy, on this she replied that I shouldnt feel BAD or HURT about somethings cuz i should all the time remember -- they both are fds. She considers him as a fd. He considers her as a fd, and they both are good fd, friends forever... and i am something more than friends for her... always. This is what she said, when asked upon. I guess she is right. I will try and cool down at first everytime and try not to scare her away. Thinking back now, when I had told her that i am wasting my time on this stupid topic and why couldnt she understand, she had said that she is frustrated that why this topic shoots up again and again. For her, i definitely would be showing Needyness, and not giving her the trust and space(space to live independently being obviously in a relationship with me -- that i should trust her with her new fd and should happily and not get frustrated about this). By all this, i think i had scared her away a little from me... i will try and control about this feeling of mine of jealousy etc. Today she has gone out of station with her family for 2 days.. if any further updates i will keep on writing here. Thanks in advance.

You are right i think ilse.... i was a bit angry and jealous (within) but i didnt show it. Once asking about this stuff that why you gave him importance or why didnt u tell me such thing had happened etc >> so she had replied me with a letter (not a mail) which she posted... that said that why should i feel this way when i and her both know that we love each other >> also that if she had to ditch me she cud have done it long back and i would have not even known this >> that she is not a girl of a bad character (she used call girl here) >> and i should trust her more , find more trust by going deep into love... saying that if i talk to any girl she would not become jealous because she knows that we both love each other more than we love any other boy or a girl.. please reply

Thank you people for helping me. One thing which happened today when i went to meet her was that she said that her fd had come yesterday and she had told him about the fight we had gone through (about the phone -- waiting etc). Now if she has told her fd (her new fd had told everything about him and his gf), she has also told me about this. If she wanted then she could have never told me. this is what confuses me sometimes... but i guess i will give her the trust she wants (give her a fair chance), as i am in a ldr so is she.. it was hard for both of us... i think that i should not be going too deep into what has happened and what did they both do (cuz i have for the past many months and have ruined my studies for this), and even if something does happen (which i dont like -- and she tells me about it) i will just tell her that i didnt like this stuff and she should be more careful about this for the next time.. i mean i would try not to worry too much about this fdship of hers , i hope. Also one important fact -- she loves her fds very much and treasures the fdship more than anything else. I would try to give her the wings she wants -- afterall me moving to a diff. city was our idea. I sometimes do think that she likes the company of that boy than me (we hae met only 3 times in the past 25 days and in the next 10 days i would be leaving in which i can only meet her once (max.) and wont b coming back till next year).... i guess that happens cuz we dont have much to share about things -- like when i was here we used to talk about what happened in the school etc but now as we are in diff cities and things are diff.. she talks to that guy concerning all these topics.. So the point is -- Should I give her more trust and space for the time being and stop acting and behaving jealous (even if she talks to him more than she talks to me -- even when i am here)..... but one prob comes here also .. i do want to stop feeling jealous but this whole thing has made me ..... i dont know what...>> i was not able to concentrate on my studies and also my fun time for whole 8 months ... thats a huge waste of time... and that too all cuz of my jealousy inspite of her convincing me that if she had to ditch me she would have long back, and also would not be telling me stuffs that i could have never known... Please reply. Thanks.

Please tell me then how could i conclude about whats going on?? My friends tell me the things that they see ( see them together ), but if we have a talk the very same day she tells me what the important talk was. Or something that she remembered that had happened. As we are not able to talk everyday there obv are somethings that she forgets for later. Please help me out, I am going tomorrow to see her.. should i ask her to call for an important talk... if yes then what should i actually talk or say about .. and if not then what should i do to stop making me feel bad and jealous?

Me and my gf live in different cities currently. we have our relationship of 1 yr and some months right now. She has made a new fd (boy), who is now having very good terms with her. They chat everyday -- in the school, on the phone, in the tuitions... I have known this guy before and he was interested in my gf, (then also they were fds but not as they are). She tells everything to me and her new fd., as i didnt like this guy, i had told her, but as she convinced me that i should always think positively and that this fd of hers is good in nature, and whatever may happen, even she has spent time with this guy more someday, has laughed with him, talks to him etc, i shouldnt be bothered much cuz in the core of her heart she will love me and only me. In this situation i sometimes find it hard to do things this way ( always being positive ), cuz of some situations such as what happened yesterday and sometime back. I had called her, she kept my phone after 2 mins saying that a waiting call is coming and i should call back after some time, when i do for the next 20 mins its still on waiting... she tells me it was her new fd, i got angry, but then again she explained that i shouldnt feel this way etc. some of my fds(in the same school of hers) tell me that theres something going on between these 2, but whenever she calls me, she tells me everything she remembers what had happened...everything (i believe). I sometimes find that she would want to be with this guy(as her gf), as my fds etc say and some incidences, but the confusion is created when that if at all she wants to be with that guy why does she tells me everything they did (whether i would feel bad or not, cuz i have told her not to hide anything).... do you guys think that this girl is doing something wrong against me, or do you think that she is absolutely fine and I should be more positive in this manner.. Whatever be your answer please tell me how to execute that in my mind??? Pls reply soon.