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Thank you everyone. Every single one of you have gone down in my list of people that I appreciate. Whether you were aggressive or nice, I still appreciate it. I have come to this forum many times and have always recevied tremendous amoutn of support and advice time and time again. Thank you very much to all of you.

i am proud of her, and respect her. I have to get over this, i am just having a bad day. I apologize for any inconvinience. Everyone is different and is special in their own way. That is what she has and that is who she is. I have to accept that. Just like she accepts me. Thank you

Ok, I don't want people to think that I am drawing direct comparison (even though I kinda am), but I just can't take my girlfriend. UGh! This is tremendous frustration. She does everything last minute and get's good grades. She is unhappy 1 minute the next she is so incredibly happy. Everything seems to go so well for her! She wins 1st place in everything! She get's compliments left and right! She gets straight A's in all her classes and she does have the work! and she doesn't do crap! When I am put in her situations I have to give it a %100 or nothing goes well! I don't win anything! I don't get any compliments! I am sorry I am just incredibly frustrated with this! and it just makes me steam!!!!!!

this is very hard. I did see professinal help yesterday and all they told me was "you need to get over it and start thinking about yourself". They also said that I most likely will lose her because relationships at this age don't work out. I love her soooooo much but I am so scared of all these things. I am going crazy over this. I can't get her out of my mind and I am scared that she is not happy with me. I don't know if I should try to spend less time with her. We always see each other. Everyday. I wonder if she really cares about me.

I am also so scared of losing her. i think that anything I do will higher the risk of losing her, and I don't want that. I am scared of change because that might change the relationship. I want to save it!

Thank you so much guys. I am so glad that I have a community of support. I really want her to help me. I have let this harm the relationship. I love her a lot, but she also likes to do things with me. She likes to do pretty much everything with me and I love that but i don't think that is healthy. She tells me that she would never leave me that I am the one etc. etc. I just want to grow back into who i was. Become that man again. The one that believed in myself but I find it hard because I am scared of making change and that change may affect our relationship. We broke up and got back together because I missed her so much. I told her that we both have to work on this and she really wants to, so i guess that is a good thing.

I have read a lot about this online and have come to the realization that I am extremely co-dependent on my girlfriend. It is getting worse and I am suffering more and more. I want to be with her, so breaking it off is not option for me because I don't have the mental health to do so. I need help. I can't stop thinking about her, where she is what she is doing, who she is talking to. I don't think about myself and this is hurting me more and more everyday. I really need help and I needit now. i want to be with her but i want to have a healthy relationship so that it works. I can't stop thinking about her though, yet she can go about her day fine while I miss her tremendously. I know she loves me but I need to go back to my true self. the one that believed in me. The one that new I had a future and that I could do things. She has all of that now and I don't. I really miss her and myself. I am really scared of losing her.

I am sorry to hear that. It's been hard for me because I know that my g/f loves me but I guess I can't be the boyfriend that she wants me to be. You see she is off in another state enjoying herself while I am here so freakin!!!! depressed. I am going crazy and really for no reason. I miss her so much and can't understand how she could love something more than me. She calls me like once a day and all she talks about is this thing that she is invovlded in. I am mad at myself because I don't feel like I can support her. She drives me crazy because I think she doesn't care about me. I know it's sickening. She says that she misses me and loves me but you can tell that her mind is not there and that is what gets me the most. I am here like a little cry baby crying over her while she is up there enjoying herslef. I don't understand why i can't understand that she likes something and she would never give it up for me. Ugh!

can anyone help me please

heres the problem. she is in her competition now until sunday in another state and I can't take it. I don't know what the hell is wrong with me I am going crazy that she is over there enjoying herself and I am over here having a horrible time. Not to mention that she tells me to have a good time while she is gone! ugh! I can't figure out why I am so mad that she is in this thing. She tells me that after it we will go back to normal and she will be with me all the time, but I know this is not healthy. Yea I would love her to be with me all the time but that is not normal. I need to start thinking about myself but I keep on finding myself trapped. I can't stop thinking about her and how mad I am that she went and didn't give that up for me.

I had a long talk with her and things looks really promising. I can't help my feelings for her and I can't help the fact that I hav relinquished a lot for her but I am going to try to think about myself a little more. I broke it off with her and let her know why. She didn't accpe this. she would tell me that we can work at this and that she realled loves me. She apologized for capitalising on hurting me and saying certain things. She just felt at times that I was jealous of her or something. She really looks like she is making an effort. I am glad with the exception of being skeptical. I guess I have to wait and see. When I spoke to her I spoke to her about having a real relantionsihp like we used to. A mature one where we can have fun and not have to attack each other or do any of those middle school kid fights. I let her know what I wanted and she liked it. I just hope she will gradually change her bad habits. We will have to see Thank you so much for helping me guys. I think i am going to go see a psychologist, because I have lost my confidence and been pretty stable. i never really feel good about myself and I am going to see what I can do. I am going to hang out with my friends a little more from now on and try harder to think about myself.

I had a conversation with her and told her that it is not working out. She is in denial and whats funny is that she knows that I am always going to be there because I am too scared to lose her. She means the world to me but sometimes it so hard for her to understand me. She tells me "oh after this trip it will be you and me" but I have heard this many times in the past. One time she studied with a guy all the time, this was during the time that she pushed me away. I would tell her that I would feel uncomfortable and she didnt' care. She would say that I was jealous and that it was wrong of me to ask her not to study with a guy(which is interesting I never did ask her to stop). Same goes with this program, she will tell me that I am not like any other boyfriend that I don't support her. I don't know. I can't break up with her because I love her to much. I am stupid I know, I can't weigh in what's important. She tells me that she is going to have a good time no matter what and that she enjoys doing this, and that I don't have the right to take that away. Well i am not trying to but I just feel hurt. Not to mention that she says she is going to "celebrate" the night before she comes back. When her and I had the problem a while back I lost all my confidence and I found myself blaming myself for every problem we had. I would feel guilty for telling her that I felt uncomfortable with her studying with a guy. I feel like this is all my fault though. Maybe my story is wrong and she is right and I am just out there with some odd problem.

What bothers me is that she always seems to make me feel like I am the one to blame, and quite frankly I do feel that way. I love her very much but it always seems that I am giving up things like my friends and activities for her, and she won't give up anything for me. She tells me she is not doing anything wrong by going on this trip. She says that it is not wrong for her to "ENJOY THIS PROGRAM AND HAVE FUN" and that " SHE IS GOING TO GO OUT AND ENJOY HERSELF". I don't know why but it hurts.

Thank you. You really helped out a lot. She has made me feel crazy for a while and made me feel like I am the type of boyfriend that does not support her or anything when I know I do.

Hey!Listen I post here a lot and I want to apologize for being annoying its just I always find myself needing help and advice, so I want to thank all of you who have helped me and anyone that will in advance. I have a huge problem with my g/f and it is getting the better part of me. I don't know how to explain other than just coming out and saying it. She is part of an organization which is heavily invovled in school. Next week she leaves on a trip with this group for about 6 days. I am so extremely bothered by this! I feel like i have been betrayed and I don't know why. I know this sounds incredibly insane and immature but I can't help it. After much thinking I think I have realized what my problem might be, but I need everyones help because I can't take this anymore. When she got involved with this program she ignored me and pushed me away. She treated me horrbly and never made me part of it even though I was supportive and I cared. I got really hurt during this time and she almost left me because of this program. Ever since then I have had an enormous amount of anger towards what she is part of. In my mind I have developed this equation for love. " If she doesn't give up the program for me then I am not worth enough to give it up". I know it sounds crazy but for some reason it is stuck in my head. She makes me feeel horrible because she says that I dont' support her. I did at one time and she rejected me and she never tried to make me part of it. She would not call me or want to see me. She totally forgot about me. She then realized this and changed and started to be there, but she never talked to me about this thing she was involved in. How could she tell me that I am a bad boyfriend because I would want her to drop this. I don't know. I am so confused....