peculiargirl

Well, thank you all very much for your advice. I will indeed meet her, and I will hopefully get past the inevitable 'visuals' as quickly as possible. I honestly don't see myself as being friends with her, as far as just the two of us going out. But it is in my best interest to get along with her enough so that the three of us can enjoy dinner. Again, thanks so very much for the kind words of support.

My fiance is still friends with his high-school girlfriend. They broke up six years ago. I trust him and am not worried about any infidelity, I'm just completely terrified by the fact that I'm supposed to meet her soon. How do I look accross the dinner table at her and NOT think about my fiance kissing her, making love to her, etc? How do I NOT think that she's picturing him naked, on top of her? I have confidence in our relationship, it's just that the idea of looking at her makes me sick. I'd appreciate any advice at all. Thanks.

I totally agree with you, Sonjam. I realized I fell in love with my perception of who my boyfriend was on the net, not with the man himself. But you know, breaking up still hurts just as much.

I met my love on the net four months ago. I love him absolutely and completely. But I've discovered that I'm not his only online romance. This, after I flew to London and spent a fantastic week with him. I've broken up with him just this month, and it's still killing me as I love him so much. All I can say is, be careful with the net. It's an easy place to meet people. Maybe too easy...

Maggie, thank you so very much for you support. I've read that line you wrote twenty times - "It's not my fault I fell for him." You see, I feel like such a gullable fool. I was honest and giving of my love, and in return I got a lot of beautiful lies. A valuable lesson I've learned, to say the least. You are right, and I will take your advice and ignore the emails, ignore the text messages, ignore the phone calls. I will move on, though I realize these first few days will be the most difficult. Thank you again. Your words have helped me tonight. XX

And I love him so deeply. But he's not good for me. We met on the net four months ago, then spent a week together in London. He's asked me to marry him, but I've discovered I'm not his only web romance. How sick is that? So I realize now that I'm only in love with my perception of him - not with the real man he is. But it hurts just the same. It's difficult to leave him, as he's very persuasive and denies any wrongdoing. But I do have the proof now. Just wanted to post on here, maybe read some kind words of support. Thanks.