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hey guys, im really in a bad bad situation. Here it goes, i broke off with my gf about 3-4 days ago. I dint have the guts to break it off, although i wanted to at certain times before. So i finally broke up, when we faught and when i had a chance to. As i said before, shes a wonderful girl and practically everything made sense and thats why i was with her, but "it" was just not there. Now, its hurting her a lot. She says you only love like that once and i understand that, cuz someone did this to be before and i know exactly wut she means. neways the real problem is this, we both go to university and have our exams starting in about 8-10 days. I knw i am a really bad person for doing this at this time, but i wasant thinking and was stressed out. Now the guilt of breaking up is great enuf, i jus dont want to be the person responsible for making her mess up her exams. Shes a medical school hopeful and has been doing good. I just dont know wut i should do? I was the friend i had all along, so she calls me when shes feeling down and i answer and she cried her eyes out. I told her that i would reconsider 'us', and tell her wut my decision is, jus so she thinks its a break not a breakup and does well on her exams. It dint work, she talks to me and tryin to convince me to get back with her. Now i dont know wut to do!!! Should i get back with her in a lie jus so she does good on her exams and then breakup after the finals? Should i not pick up her calls etc so that she deals with this herself? Would that maker her do good on her exams? I feel guilty enuf breaking up with her, she doing bad on her exams, i dont think i would be able to face myself. Shes a good girl, she loves me a lot, id be happy with her, but i dont knw if i can give her wut she deserved in the long term. Should i honestly give it another try? I honestly dont feel "it" for her, my heart doesent fill when i see her. Can it happen in time? in the future? when i know that shes a good girl? what are the pros and cons of trying getting back? what are the draw backs of it not working say 2 months down the road?

hey guys, jus have a quick question. you knw how when someone gets out of a relationship, and they talk to their friends etc to get support, and their friends would usually talk bout how bad their ex was, tell em some famous quotes etc. and people do start feelin better after this. Can a ex be that friend? Can I talk to my ex and support HER while she is tryin to heal from OUR relationship? positives? negetives? I am the one who initiated the breakup.

I am 22 btw, and yes i will leave her alone for a while and then maybe contact her, ask her if she wants to be friends or somethin..jus that shes such a believer and this happens to her again n again..

hey guys, thnks for ur replys there. I did email her and said sorry for everything. I said sorry cuz i felt that i shud have told her as soon as i knew the spark was not there. I ended up taking a lot more time, and just not having the guts to do it. When i say she returned my stuff, i mean she came and returned, thats okie, cuz i could have stopped her and the breakup wudnt have happened. I dint stop her. it was one of those cases, where one loves the other way more. She loved me way more than i ever deserved. I told her she dint deserve this. right now i just feel really really bad that shes going thru all this cuz of me. I could have ended this 2-3 months ago and i dint. I dont knw wut i can do to ease her pain, but i do wanna do something. when i listen to my mind it says she was the right gurl for you, cuz she had everything you could ever want in a girl. But when i listen to the heart, well the heart never followed. I jus feel really really bad that she has to go thru all this cuz of me.

hey guys, I come back to enotalone whenever I find myself in a situation i just dont knw wut to do. So I met this girl about an year ago, and we atarted out as friends and it dint take long and we took our relationship to the next level. First I wanted to be casual and she dint, and I understand that. So in time I changed my mindset and became kinda serious. And then as time passed, shegot really into me. She is a fantastic gurl, so my mind was all like, yes shes the girl for you etc. Practically it just made sense. But that spark was just not there, I dono why it wasant. I tried gettin that spark too, but it just dint happen. Sometimes id think its unfair to her, cuz shes gettin closer and closer to me, so i shud breakup, cuz i cant give her wut she deserves/wants. But at the same time, i dint have a reason to break up break up with her. Most of all I dint have the guts. Our situation detireorated over the last few days, a lot of fights. Along with this when I wasant into into her, she just said that shes puttin me out of my misery. And returned all my stuff. Shes really upset and I dont knw wut to do. its cuz of me that shes hurtin so badd.

Thanks fo ur reply, Yea the medical degree will span 6 yrs. but every yr, she will be in ireland for 9 months and bak to vancouver for 3. This will go on for 6 yrs and after that she will be somewhere in the US for residency. So she wud be away from me for 9 months each yr and will me for 3 months. But ah well we did break up, jus that i dont wanna loose her. I cudnt c us split. yea she might wanna be single fo a while now, i asked her if she had any crushes in her new school, or shes leavin me cuz of a guy she met in her new school...her response to the crush question was: " Not at the moment, but in the future there might be"..what the hell does this mean? So jus feel lik she has it all...and all i had was her.. Thanks

ME 20, M, Ugrad, Vancouver HER 18, F, Gone to Med school, Ireland Weve been dating(serious, very serious) for a yr and 2 months. Her medical degree will span 6 yrs. Every year she will be in ireland for 9 months studying and bak to vancouver in the summer for 3 months. This will go on for 6 years. Jus based on these stats, try predict this relationship, i'l give mo details down there. So we were very compatible, we were lik soul mates and everythin, lik the best relationship ive been in. This was may first love too, ive had a few infactuations but this was love. So she comes in and shes lik she got accepted to a med school in ireland. I dint wanna come in between her career and asked her to go( her parents n everyone wanted to go, so i dint wanna be a negetive force). So she went and then we decided that we'l try, give it a go and maintain a relationship, i was actually ready to wait for her fo 6 yrs, thats how much i loved her!!! She went there, she saw the new life, the new culture new people( here she wasant allowed to go out much and her parents r harsh conservative). So in bout 5 days she goes that shes confused, she doesent knw if she has feelings fo me nemore and all that bs, lik no perticular reason jus u knw how gurls r.. So we broke up, but the thing is i love her too much, i think she was the one fo me, she was perfect fo me in everyway and i dono y i think i can never find neone as good as her again. i was her first in a lot of things and she doesent look as devastated as i am!!!..shes fyne and goin out and havin her fun. If u looked at her a month ago it was lik if she doesent hear mah voice once a day she'l die. How did that happen?? So shud i try to somehow get her bak, i.e if theres a possibility of this relationship lasting 6 yrs. Or jus let her go, and if i do wut do i tell mysef, how do i assure myself. Shes there new life, new friends, wont be long fo a bf, and im here all by myself. Jus feels lik its not fair, lik im so on the lossin side. Wut shud i do?